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When did you move your babies into their own rooms?

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celeryeater · 07/09/2016 01:13

Dc is 16 weeks and we have started putting her to sleep in her own room with a baby monitor on her. Even though this has resulted in me and her both sleeping better it just makes me nervous because obviously the official guidance is keep them in your room for 6 months. We follow all the other sids guidelines such as put to sleep on back, don't smoke, dummy etc. What do people think should I put her back in the room with me? She still sleeps in her moses basket at the moment although is growing big in it. Tia.

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MakeItStopNeville · 07/09/2016 01:22

None of my kids could sleep in a Moses basket from about 8 weeks old. They were too big! Just remember that 10 years ago, advice was different and in 10 years time, it will be completely different again.

I would have no qualms at all in putting a 16 week old in their own room. DC2 was sleeping in DC1's room from around 8 weeks old. DC3 slept in their crib in their own room from around 3 months old and DC4 slept in our bed until they were a year old.

Just do what YOU think is the right thing.

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celeryeater · 07/09/2016 01:34

Thanks, I just doubt myself all the time because neither me or dp has a mum to ask, or any close family with children, or many close friends with young children either. Just wanted to add as well dc wasn't premature, doesn't sleep with anything else in the cot either.

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Creativemode · 09/09/2016 11:48

14 months with my first, second is still in with us at 15 months.

We were able to fit the cot in our room.

I've heard loads of people can't fit the cot in or sleep better without the baby in their room most likely it will be fine.

Foamies · 09/09/2016 13:06

DS1 10 weeks. (Outgrew Moses basket, no room for other sleeping solution in our room)

DS2 6 months. (Could fit cot in our bedroom)

blueturtle6 · 09/09/2016 19:55

7 months and she immediately started sleeping though the night, like you i didn't want to move due to sids.

Chequeredpast · 10/09/2016 08:33

6 months on the dot. I didn't want to move her earlier due to SIDS risk. Apparently it's hearing your breathing that regulates there's and is very protective against it

mrschatty · 10/09/2016 08:42

Dd was 7.5m I had the mother care swing crib which is much bigger than a moses basket but nowhere near as big as a cot so she was comfy in there.
Moving her into her own room was fine she sleeps well apart from waking up for her blasted dummy which means 2-3 trips down the hall each night

insancerre · 10/09/2016 08:46

I'm ancient and the advice was different when I had mine
But both went in their own rooms as soon as we got back from hospital
Ds was 5 days old and dd was 2 days old

Cinnamon2013 · 10/09/2016 08:47

Lots of people do it (and seem to sleep better for it). Doctor I know said she did it at six months and wouldn't recommend doing it any earlier. I took that and the general NHS advice and moved mine at 6 months. I didn't and don't feel confident enough in my knowledge of SIDS to override that. I wouldn't judge anyone who did - but personally it would have made me more anxious and therefore less able to sleep.

ClockMakerSue · 10/09/2016 08:52

16 months and we all still share a room. You can only go by the most current research and then what you can do practically. I wouldn't have felt comfortable going against the guidelines. There are cots that are in between Moses and corned size that seem to sell on for decent prices. Could that be an option?

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 10/09/2016 08:54

DS 17 months is still in with us but we have a huge room so space isn't an issue and it works for us, he is going into his own room next month.

Personally I wouldn't have moved him before 6 months but I know many parents who have.

Alyx80 · 10/09/2016 08:54

All four of mine were over 10 months. The guidelines are 6 months to help protect against SIDS and there was no chance I was risking it.

UmbongoUnchained · 10/09/2016 08:57

18 months. I wouldn't do it any earlier than 12 months personally.

dazzlingdeborahrose · 10/09/2016 12:37

Both of mine were on their own rooms from the time they came home from hospital. They're both still hale and hearty. I do think that sometimes the advice given out causes more doubt then certainty and is more a case of health professionals covering their backsides. However you must do what's comfortable for you and what you believe is best not only for your child but for you too. Take every piece of advice given from health professionals and well meaning individuals (like me) with a good pinch of salt. Then just plough your own parenting furrow.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 10/09/2016 12:39

15 years ago, from day one. Not advised now but at 16 weeks I wouldn't hesitate with a monitor.

AStreetcarNamedBob · 10/09/2016 12:40

5 months and 1 week and he slept about 4 x better immediately. I don't know why but it was like a miracle!

LotisBlue · 10/09/2016 14:27

DD was about ten months. We stayed with some friends who had two small spare rooms so we slept in one and put dds travel cot in the other; she slept so well that when we got home we put her straight back in her own room.

Ds is ten months and we don't have a room to put him in yet. He'll move out of our room when our loft is converted in a few months.

I personally wouldn't have felt comfortable putting such a small baby in their own room. It's less convenient for night feeds and I would have been constantly checking on them in the early days. However there are other aspects of the sids advice which I didn't follow (ds has always slept in our bed and on his side) so I guess it is down to what you personally feel comfortable with

Doje · 10/09/2016 14:31

4 months for both. I read up on the SIDS statistics and was personally happy with that. I understand there's still a risk, but numbers are small, and we are otherwise a low risk household.

EwanWhosearmy · 10/09/2016 14:44

I always understood the peak risk period for SIDS was 4-6 months and winter time, so no way would I put a 4 month old in a separate room in the autumn. Lullaby Trust doesn't mention that though, so perhaps it isn't a thing.

Up to you, but I can't see why anyone would take the risk.

EwanWhosearmy · 10/09/2016 14:45

Apparently peak risk now said to be 2-3 months.

Chequeredpast · 10/09/2016 17:21

Winter is peak time for SIDS you're right.

I'm not sure you should take expert advice on SIDS with a 'pinch of salt' though. Yes advice has changed from the last but that's because knowledge has improved and because of the new advice deaths have fallen from in the thousands to in the hundreds in the UK

sambababy · 11/09/2016 13:24

6 months with DC1 and will do the same with DC2. I follow the guidelines because if anything happened I would never forgive myself. However I have a friend who moved hers earlier because she couldn't sleep with him in the room

sambababy · 11/09/2016 13:24

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celeryeater · 12/09/2016 13:47

Thanks for all the replies. I've decided to keep her in with me while she still fits in the moses basket (which won't be for much longer!) when she outgrows that she will have to go in her own room because we have a cotbed and it won't fit in our room. DP got a bit defensive when I showed him this thread and said well if she is safe to sleep on her own from when she first falls asleep until when you go to bed (about 8-10.30) why does it suddenly get more dangerous for the rest of the night? I see it more as minimising the risk as much as you can. Unless everyone else hurries off to bed in the evening as soon as DC drops off!

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LotisBlue · 13/09/2016 11:50

I think that at that age ds still spent his evenings sleeping in the living room, mostly on one of us. We gradually started leaving him in the bedroom from about five months, but I would go in and check on him a lot and didn't really feel comfortable leaving him until six months.

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