When did you move your babies into their own rooms?

[celeryeater]

Dc is 16 weeks and we have started putting her to sleep in her own room with a baby monitor on her. Even though this has resulted in me and her both sleeping better it just makes me nervous because obviously the official guidance is keep them in your room for 6 months. We follow all the other sids guidelines such as put to sleep on back, don't smoke, dummy etc. What do people think should I put her back in the room with me? She still sleeps in her moses basket at the moment although is growing big in it. Tia.

I would agree with you that there are a number of complex factors and every baby is different. That's precisely why I follow the guidelines, because I want the odds on my side snd don't understand the science well enough to feel I can disregard the guidelines.
If exhaustion is an issue then I get it, changes need to be made. Otherwise it's normal, and likely to be protective, for young babies to wake regularly and for their caregivers to be aware of this. All part of the package of having babies.

Starting this thread has just made me more confused! On the one hand I want to do everything I can to protect my baby from any risk. On the other she woke me up every hour last night in the same room and I feel like something definitely has to change. DP thinks I'm waking her up turning over and things (I'm a bit of a restless sleeper).

DP is still sleeping every night on the sofa, he can't take it and I'm still breastfeeding - which is something else that cuts the risk.

I think the risk goes up in Autumn /Winter because that is probably when people start layering up and putting blankets over the baby which could either overheat them or be a suffocation hazard. I saw a lady from my NCT class the other day and her sister is a GP. Her sisters advice was basically if it was going to happen it would and would normally be because something else was wrong undiagnosed like a heart defect.

I understand, lack of sleep is debilitating, and nothing we do is risk free. I'm not saying you are wrong to do it, just that several people saying that they did it and their baby is safe is not really helpful in your decision. It does sound a bit as if your partner might not be realistic about what having a small baby entails.
I think it's also rude to say that those that do choose follow guidelines are not thinking for themselves, as a PP suggested. We're all just doing our best with the information we have available.

A good source of information on relative risks here: www.lullabytrust.org.uk/infographic

When you say she is waking you up is this because she is waking and crying or is she just noisy? If the latter earplugs could help.

She wakes up and either cries or grizzles/whinges. Sometimes she actually is hungry although after 3am I think it's more she just wants to be held.

I don't be suppose putting her in her own room would help that would it? There is quite a famous 4 month sleep regression so maybe that's it. It is hard but it will get better!