When did you move your babies into their own rooms?

[celeryeater]

Dc is 16 weeks and we have started putting her to sleep in her own room with a baby monitor on her. Even though this has resulted in me and her both sleeping better it just makes me nervous because obviously the official guidance is keep them in your room for 6 months. We follow all the other sids guidelines such as put to sleep on back, don't smoke, dummy etc. What do people think should I put her back in the room with me? She still sleeps in her moses basket at the moment although is growing big in it. Tia.

We moved both ours when they outgrew the Moses basket (no room for cot in our room).
Before doing so with DC1 I talked it through with my GP. It's a risk factor for SIDS, but not upypyppppypppur

Sorry, toddlers and phones don't mix!
Although it's a risk factor for SIDS, GP said it wasn't a high risk and it's not as much of a risk as other things (GP said co-sleeping was much higher risk). Ultimately whatever you do has got to be practical for you.

12 weeks here. Same as others we were influenced by the fact she grew out of the Moses basket and we can't fit a cot into our room.
Our DD slept far better, settled easier and we found it practically suited us. We used a sensor mat, which helped me feel reassured (and stopped me constantly going in to check on her!) although I know many people on here slate the things!
Do what you think is right. You could always try it for a few nights and see how you go. Xx

OP - re your DPs comment, presumably you and DP are awake yourselves during that time, able to check on her and notice if things seem amiss. However when you are asleep yourself in another room you may not pick up on little cries or coughs or restlessness or anything that's strange that might indicate something was up. It's possible you might not see her from the time you go to bed until you wake up in the morning, which could be a long time of no contact at all for a baby.

I had DD in a side sleeper cot until 6 months (she has started to sit up and roll about too much for it to be safe/comfy) and now sleep in her room with her, she has just turned 1. Still wakes in the night but is gradually doing this less and less, and never for long. Sometimes have her in bed with me but usually she sleeps in her big cotbed next to me.

also the co-sleeping risk is a bit confusing. As I understand it safe properly planned co-sleeping is not such a high-risk (eg non smoking parents, no drugs/alcohol, baby next to a breastfeeding mother not dad, no duvets/pillow etc to get in the way), it's when co-sleeping happens by accident things go wrong. The co-sleeping stats include when exhausted parents fall asleep with baby on a chair or sofa, which is completely different to planning to sleep safely with baby in a bed.

Why make difficulties for yourself? Agree with your partner: foolish to disrupt her routine when it is working for both of you.
Both my children, and their contemporaries, went into their rooms from day one, and they slept well and survived.

As has already been said on the thread, the guidelines are based on the baby being able to hear your breathing, nothing to do with you being able to hear them. If you want to follow the guidelines to the letter then DH is right, baby should be napping & sleeping in the same room as you all the time.

My DD has been in her own room since 16 weeks because that is what works for us & what I was comfortable with.

It's a theory that it's to do with baby hearing your breathing, not proven. In the case of baby being in same room in the evening maybe you'd be there with TV on, perhaps chatting and laughing, general family noise etc not sure they'd pick it out in the same way they would when all asleep in the same room.

Clearly we are the exception but - like Goblin above - our September-born DS was in his own room - with all doors open - from day 2. There is lots of conflicting advice. You need to go with what works for you. He's two now and did him no harm, we will be doing the same with DS2.

When they were 5 and 8 (years)

First one 3 weeks, second one 10 days. We all slept better for it!

Where is baby's room? If it's next door, baby might be closer than a baby in the same huge room.

About a week after we brought her home from the hospital. We tried to keep her in our room (not in our bed) for breastfeeding reasons, but she was too noisy and we ended up getting no sleep. Every time she'd make any noise, DH and I would be awake and at the ready thinking that she was going to wake up completely. She slept fine, but we didn't.

So after about a week, we put her in her own room and it's worked perfectly. She's 6 weeks old now, and only wakes once a night.

We moved our twins at 7months. I actually ended up with less sleep as I had to get up out of bed for night feeds.

7 or 8 months. When I wasn't breastfeeding all through the night any more

Both my boys went in when they started sleeping through the night consistently, so about 6-8 weeks. By this point though they were both also starting to look like they would soon outgrow the Moses basket.

You need to do what's best for you. I slept much better with them in their own rooms. It was Especially important with DS2. Trying to run a house and having to run around with a toddler is not easy when you have been woken up by every little shuffle of an arm or leg all night!

We coslept so no extra space needed. Did it because DC needed to, it was safer and it was so much easier for those important night feeds. Particularly in winter when they feed more to get all those antibodies for the bugs flying around and then because of teething and growth spurts etc. Things change a lot over the first year - every month there is something new! I couldn't imagine being in-tune to respond if they were in another room and you can't regulate breathing etc if not close.

I think your biggest guide is your baby and you just have to follow your instincts and do what feels right for your family.

We did it at about 16 weeks as she and I are both noisy sleepers and kept waking each other. She slept much better for it and we had a video baby monitor and angelcare mat and followed all other sids guidelines.

I think its fine with a healthy baby, following sids guideline, monitor, near your room and regular checks. Youre at the stage where she will nenefit from having less tired parents. We did 6m, 5m and 4.5m, all fine. Presumably her bedroom is not far away etc.

I'm always baffled by people who follow guidelines to the T. Can they not think for themselves? They're called 'guidelines' for a reason, they're not rules! I know quite a few parents who waited until 6 months on the dot to move their child to their own room, and judged people who made the decision to move their child at 5.5 months (same goes for the nazi 6 month weaners).

Babies are not machines, each baby (and parent) is different and you should do what you think is right for you. So, to put it briefly, move your baby into his/her own room if it works.

A well rested and happy mummy is much better than a sleep deprived cranky mummy!

I think mine were both about 4 weeks old, I couldn't sleep because every snuffle and little noise made me anxious and I would disturb them by checking on them.
They are now healthy/happy teenagers.
Do what's right for you.....

popularcontrarian seems a bit of a stupid thing to say. People that follow the guidelines to reduce the risk of their baby dying from SIDS are people who cannot think for themselves.

Maybe they're people who think that experts in their field may just know a little more than them and perhaps they appreciate the work thats gone into developing the guidelines and how that has reduced SIDS deaths from the thousands to around 300 in the UK over the last decade.

What chequered said. I'm never sure if the 'mine survived' comments are a joke. It seems such a cliche - so did thousands of us who didn't use car seats, whose parents smoked and drank during pregnancy, etc. but now we know better, and we do better.
Do what you like OP but know that you're taking a risk - if the benefits outweigh that risk for you then that's your decision. Anecdotes about individual babies being fine with it should not really make any difference.
By the way, yes, I do go to bed with our babies or take other steps to ensure they do not sleep alone until six months, but like a prior poster I take different risks like co-sleeping.

That's a fair point, but do those reduction in deaths relate specifically to moving a child to their own room before 6 months? I think this is a multifaceted issue and sids deaths have been reduced as a result of a number of measures, not this isolated issue.

Correct there are many factors. But one of the biggest advances in the understanding of SIDS was when it was identified that baby listening to the sound of parent's breathing at night was a big protector - they're not sure why but it is. That's when the guidelines changed to 6 months.