High Needs baby support thread

[LittlePixieMa]

Any of this familiar?

1 baby needs to be constantly held
2 feeds frequently during the day
3 feeds or comfort sucks through the night
4 won't sleep alone
5 HATES the pram and/or car seat
6 takes short naps
7 doesn't like being held / left with others
8 gets bored or over stimulated very quickly

Feeling exhausted and want some support from others with spirited fussy babies

If so join the club

Pixie lol at your mum. That's hilarious!

Yeah we're doing a fair bit of night feeding. He only managed about 1 hour in his crib last night before I brought him in with me. Problem is once he's in bed with me I lose track cos I feed him lying down and only partially wake up. It's good in that I actually get some sleep but it means all feeds merge into one and I'm not sure it's promoting great habits but I just can't cope with being up and down all night. Hoping it's partly the 4 month regression and that it'll get better.

Yeah really pleased with the buggy naps. I've just got to make sure I keep it up. He did one today as well. So good to get a break from sling naps cos he's heavy. I'm managing to get one nap a day in the buggy now most days which is fab.

Hello all

How's it going?

DD has caught whatever bug DP had. She hasn't yet gotten over the last cold! I was up with her lots last night, she had a temp, didn't sleep well but did sleep 4-8am (can't remember the last time she did that) so atleast I got some rest then! I've been on my feet all day with her strapped to me but she's barely napped.
llama Same here at the moment, DD sleeps for one hour (it's slowly got shorter and shorter) then she's in with me and its all a bit of a blur after that! We've got her room set up with a cot ready for her to go in at 6 months, no chance! tomorrow I'm putting the big cot next to our bed with one side off. We have a snuzpod at the moment but she's outgrown it really.
i would keep trying the dummy yarp I only gave up trying DD recently because she just chewed it!
pixie have you had any more success with the buggy?

Oh no, poor Baby Decaf, so awful when they're poorly.

Lol, I took the side off of our cot and its next to the bed. So far I can get 10 mins out of him!! Then back into the bed with me!

No more buggy luck. He's extra temperamental at the mo, got a big top front tooth cutting so he's very grizzly. He keeps chomping down on hard toys and then wailing because it hurts.

DH is a right moody sod at the mo. He's a teacher so off for Xmas. Moping around complaining about everything. Arghhhh! Thought him being home would give me some time off!! He's done a couple of sling naps, but then proceeds to complain it hurts his back. Imagine if the men were in ours shoes every god damn day!

Found these for sale on a Facebook group. Great idea as LO is always sweat hung or pinching me when feeding

Having a bad day. DD over tired and resisting naps, Hates the sling today, can't take her out in the pram (weather) still has a temperature at night on and off. Last night she wouldn't let me put her down so ended up skipping dinner and going to sleep with her at 8pm! She should be napping now but was just screaming in my arms/in the sling. I've put her on the bed where she's gnawing Sophie the giraffe and screaming and flailing about. I've given her calpol, tried lying with her, feeding her, everything!

Oh Db4d that sounds knackering, poor things. Not got any suggestions I'm afraid, it's a nightmare when they are sick. My DS just kept having inconsolable wailing fits when he was ill.

Pixie those necklaces are cute, I've thought about getting one. DS eats the strap of the sling at the moment when he's in there and rubs his eyes and slaps me in the face when he is feeding. Might prevent both those things!

Last night was better, he fed to sleep on the sofa about 8:30pm which is rare as normally I have to sling him to sleep at bedtime. I took him to bed with me about 10pm and he stayed asleep til midnight in his own bed!!!!!! Then I had to bring him in with me which was fine, fed him a few times while still half asleep then he woke up properly at 5:30 but after a bit of rocking and a bit more boob I managed to get him off again til 7:30 so all in all pretty awesome really.

Hey everyone!!
Hope you're all well and looking forward to the year ahead. Here's a glass of champagne orange juice for you all to celebrate xxx

Cheers everyone. Hope you all have a peaceful night! This time next year will be a whole other story!!

Haven't had time to read everything but just wanted to join the thread. DS is 19m/o now. My bugaboo sits used about 5 times, he still sleeps in our bed, still feeds to get to sleep and once or twice through the night but at least will go in a car now (with tractor ted on). Who'd want any easy boring baby though

Welcome fairy dust do join the banter!! I agree, other babies are very boring!! These have so much character and stubbornness xx

Happy new year people! May 2016 bring us all a little extra sleep! Hoping I will not see midnight and that I'll be fast asleep.

Welcome fairy dust!

We've just booked a holiday in Italy next year which will involve flights. what the hell are we thinking?!

Happy new year everyone!

Hi fairydust!

I was asleep at midnight but sadly up at 3am when dd wanted to poo party! Matchsticks needed today. How's everybody getting on?

Happy new year. My resolution is to try and get DS to sleep and to stay asleep without feeding. I try to stay positive and think how far we've come. I used to have to have him in a sling and bounce on a gym ball in the dark for hours for naps then go to bed with him at 7. When I write that down I can't believe I did it!! I would really love to stop the feeding though. He's pretty rough and I'm soooo touched out. I think my line to DH a couple of weeks ago was if you go near my boons I will literally punch you in the face. Not really foreplay

Not boons for goodness sake. Obviously meant boobs

Sounds familiar fairy dust! how and when did the naps improve?

I started to get him to sleep even naps in a dark room and I'd lie with him then I slowly would move away but rest a hand on him then lie next to him but not touching and very gradually got to the point I can feed him to sleep then once he's in a deep sleep, usually about 5 mins I can creep out. I think things improved noticeably about 11 months. We just went with everything and didn't force anything he wasn't happy with but every so often we would try and make small improvements. We tried the sleeping thing a few months prior and he started to be very clingy and difficult to get to sleep so we stopped and waited a while. It's funny because I'm a stress, strict routine type girl but with DS in a total hippie!

Llama that's awesome crazy you've booked a holiday!! Sure it'll be just fab

Fairydust that's a brave resolution to make. We all expect success and then instructions how to do it!! Haha, boons, love it!!!

This is a fab Facebook group -

www.facebook.com/groups/canibreastfeedinitOT/

Lots of support for a variety of things xx

How's everyone doing?

DD still has a cough which keeps waking her up.
Had to turn down an invite today to Sunday lunch out as its too much hassle/stress/planning around naps! Feeling like a prisoner!
Will check out that link pixie thanks

Hello hello!
It's very quiet on here at the mo. Poor baby db4d, always something isn't there!

We're still waking up every hour at night, so I'm a complete zombie! Will this ever end??!!!!!

Top 2 teeth are slowly coming out, so that doesn't help, and all the extra drool is giving him really bad wind.

Slowly introducing solids here. But he's not a fan of breakfast, prob because he's latched most of the night!! Anyone else at the solids stage?

We started yesterday with a bit of baby porridge around mid day, then sweet potato in the afternoon. She hardly ingested any of it but it's a start!
DD seems to want to be latched on all night too at the moment. I think she's getting to the separation anxiety stage as she won't let me put her down at night like she used to. Things seem to be getting harder here rather than easier!

Breakfast was a slow starter with DS and even now he doesn't want breakfast until about 9.30 because he feeds so much early morning

Hi all. We're back from my grans. It was fun but a bit knackering and ds didn't sleep very well there so I'm trashed today. He was up every hour last night. I think he's waking at the end of each sleep cycle. No idea what I ought to do. I fed him back to sleep when I could. Sometimes he wasn't hungry so I had to get up and rock him so sleep. Hope we have a better night tonight cos I'm so tired. The journey home wasn't great either he wailed for some of it. It's 200 miles so it was slightly stressful!!!

Oh llama poor you, I hate journeys where they cry, sooo sad. Mines the same, waking at the end of each sleep cycle. In trying to go with the flow, he'll grow out of it hopefully before he's at uni . I don't want to do any sleep training.

Humans are so removed from natural parenting. So much pressure is placed on us, and sleeping through etc. All other animals sleep with their young and follow their lead, no kicking them out to sleep alone!!

Pixie I'm right with you there. We won't be doing any sleep training I'm just trying to let him develop as he's meant to. The fact he's getting the hang of buggy sleeping where he couldn't do it before reassures me that it's all developmental and the night time sleeping will improve in time too. I'm just bloody knackered today cos last night was especially bad, usually I get enough kip to get by on. I had a couple of gins last night at our family party too which probably didn't help! My Mum bless her slinged him to sleep this morning though so I could have a bit of extra zzz before we drove home. When I came downstairs this morning she was eating breakfast with ds fast asleep strapped onto her.