High Needs baby support thread

[LittlePixieMa]

Any of this familiar?

1 baby needs to be constantly held
2 feeds frequently during the day
3 feeds or comfort sucks through the night
4 won't sleep alone
5 HATES the pram and/or car seat
6 takes short naps
7 doesn't like being held / left with others
8 gets bored or over stimulated very quickly

Feeling exhausted and want some support from others with spirited fussy babies

If so join the club

Hi all.
Country file always makes me want to run away and be a farmer somewhere rugged!

So sorry for my radio silence. Things have been a bit mad. DH been a bit of a nob and didn't do anything for mothers day, not even a card, which was the icing on the cake and I lost my shit at him quite spectacularly. Things have been better since. I think he's a tiny bit afraid of me. Muahaha.

We've been away for the last 4 weekends on the trot and ds has not slept any worse while we've been away which is something. He's got a cold and woke to boob every hour for the last two nights. My eye has been twitching all day I'm so sodding tired.

I've extended my mat leave so not back at work til July though which is exciting!

How is everyone? I've missed you all!

Aah thanks for the hug pixie

Hey Essie, welcome back! Had hoped your silence was down to a sleeping baby but let's be honest, this isn't the thread for such hopeless optimism!

Sorry to hear about mother's day. Hope he has made it up to you. I pretty much told DH that he had to come good or we'd be getting divorced! Or, you know, words to that effect

Ugh yes another one here hoping for a sleeping baby. But we're on our second waking so far, so I'm not hopeful. Matters not helped by me going for a run and doing something to my hip which hasn't been right since pregnancy So I'm not able to get comfy in bed whichever position I try. Tomorrow will be ALL about the caffeine...

Oh and did I mention we're moving house in two weeks??? Really not stressful at all! -laughs/cries hysterically

Llama I'll run away with you to a rugged land! I completely get the Mother's Day thing, I got a card, but then DH buggered off to his parents for lunch and left me with an ill baby. He didn't even tell me he'd be gone for lunch. Aren't men just wonderful.

Well last night was a write off. DS slept until 3am, which is great except I didn't sleep at all. Not a wink all night, God I feel like shot today. Never happened before, I've had trouble sleep but always got there in the end. Not a happy bunny today

Hi everyone, how are you all? We are in quarantine with suspected scarlet fever. Happy days! Actually I am quite enjoying being shut away after the last few weeks of madness and rushing about. DS seems fine, he's covered head to foot in a rash but otherwise seems quite unphased by it. Poor chap. Sleep hasn't been any worse than usual either so that's a bonus!

purple how's your hip? Good luck with the house move. Stress city. It will be worth it though! Are you moving far?

pixie yeah men are a bit shite sometimes. My Mum says there is no point setting your expectations too high because they just fundamentally don't think like women do so will continue to disappoint until we accept that. She is far wiser than me!!

How's it going everyone?

DD has started doing something at bed time....She seems like she's dropping off on boob then just leaps off of my lap and starts flopping around in the bed, crawling, standing, generally messing about before collapsing in a heap and going to sleep! (very long process)
I should try putting her in the cot again to see if she'll collapse in there (ha!) but I think she'd actually hurt herself with all the flopping about

The naps are getting worse though, last couple of days she's done much shorter naps so ended up doing 4 a day instead of 3! Back is killing me! Hope this improves once her tooth comes through!

Welcome back llama hope you're all feeling a bit better?

Hey all. Just checking in.

Essie yikes about scarlet fever! How are things today? Are you both Ok?

Deathb4 that sounds ultra annoying! We're in teething hell too. DD grizzly and teary, it's really not like her. Had friends round with their tiny baby for lunch, and he had to be passed between them as they tried to eat. I was feeling all smug about DD not being at that stage anymore...then she started crying and fussing and was a bit of a nightmare!

I'm struggling today. Perhaps because DD woke up at 630 when she's usually able to do till 7, or because she woke numerous times from 2am. Some days I can kick as on very little sleep but today I'm having to admit defeat. Feeling irritable, slow and exhausted. And hungry - it's such a struggle not to stuff my face with rubbish on days like this!

Dn4d you're description of you DD has had me in giggling fits!!! Bless her!!

Purple hope you're feeling a bit better. Sometimes it's easy to cope, other times the lack of sleeps just makes you want to give up and cry. Sending hugs your way. You moving far?

Llama how is all? Are you both getting better? Sending healing dust to you xx

For some reason I thought it was a good idea to do another postnatal yoga diploma. I can't get DS to delatch so I'm having to write assignments on my phone! What an idiot!

Hellloooo
How is everyone doing? I've nasty cold and lost my voice, DS has a temperature and is very clingy. Cannot delatch at all, dinner is downstairs going cold arghh!!

Hey pixie! Sympathy on the illness. DD also ill, worst cold she's ever had, temperature, chesty cough and all the snot in the world. We're co sleeping all night, she won't even give her cot a second of consideration.

My parents and DH keep nagging me to start reducing feeds. But it's so difficult, especially when you're set back by illness!

How's everyone else doing?

Hello!

DD also been ill. I've had a cold and she had a chest infection plus another tooth came through.
She's better now but no improvements on the sleep.... or the stranger anxiety.... and car trips are actually worse than ever. She hates being strapped in to her seat.

Do you want to reduce the breastfeeds purple? My dd isn't reliably taking enough solids/anything from a sippy cup yet. I do kind of want my boobs back!

Hope you got to eat pixie

Purple why would you want to reduce feeds? They'll naturally decrease as the food intake slowly goes up. They get there I'm their own time. DS now 10mo, is having a phase of barely eating any solid, so boobing a lot!!

Db4d are you still using a carry type seat? DS is much better now he's got a bigger seat, it's more upright and higher so he can nose out the window. We can now manage 1/2 drives

House of illness here, I've either got tonsillitis or a throat infection, feel like shit, DS I think may have the same, he's been so miserable and trying to give him calpol is difficult while he's screaming.

Hugs to all!!

Morning all

Stanstead how old is your lo? what's your health visitor like? I would speak to them or the gp if you're worried, no need to be embarrassed.

pixie ooh that's a good point. We're still using carry seat but maybe it's time to upgrade. Which one do you have?

Hey ladies!
Hi Stansted. All babies are so duff. My friend's baby barely made a sound till she was 11 months but now she's chatting away. I'd speak to your hv though, hopefully they can reassure you a bit.

Pixie that's what I'm hoping, but DD starts nursery next month so I feel she really needs to be prepared for that, otherwise it'll be a huge shock to her. Plus she's not got a huge appetite for solids yet. We were at a party yesterday and when it came to lunch, all the other babies were gobbling away apart from DD, who only had a bit. She's started refusing the spoon again too. I'm worried she's so reliant on breast milk she's not giving solids a fair chance. Does that sound daft? So I wanted to try and space out the feeds - she'll still get offered milk and food in between, just not the boob.

I'm just really really fed up with breastfeeding now. Maybe that's selfish but there you have it. I really don't want to be doing it! But I don't want to traumatise her either! I joined a site on gentle sleep, but when I mention giving up breastfeeding, I'm made to feel bad, people just tell me feeding at 24 months is fine. Yes it is if that's what you want to do, but I don't want to! Does that make me a monster? Purely practically, I want to try for a second baby later this year. So I'd like to have my monthly cycle back to normal for a while.

Sleep slightly improving here. She did two hours in her cot last night, phew! Thought we were moving towards all night co sleeping which I really didn't want!

Any nice easter plans? We'll be mostly moving house and eating chocolate

Ha not duff, different!

Umm....

Have we acquired our first troll?? Not quite sure why anyone would troll a baby sleep thread but anything's possible I guess. Perhaps we should feel flattered??

Wt actual f?

Erm. A gay baby eating dog is a problem. Not sure what to suggest as it's outside my area of expertise. Sorry.

DS has been up at 5am for the last fortnight. I'm fooked and have just eaten far too much easter egg.

Was are disease free though finally. For now.

How is everyone? Anyone managed to get their baby into bed? Mine is sat on the sofa next to me merrily chewing the straps of the sling which I may put on soon in an attempt to get him to go the hell to sleep.

purple good luck with the house move!

Hey all. How were your nights? A poor one here. She slept in her cot till 10, then wouldn't settle back. So we co slept, but I was feeling anxious about it all and wondering whether she'll ever slerp on her own, so I passed the point of feeling sleepy and was awake for hours! She was also fidgety too, guess we were affecting each other another reason why I'm really not happy co sleeping

Anyway. DH and I had a 'discussion' this morning where he said we have to get the night thing cracked. He wants me to stop feeding her every time she wakes. Which is the right thing to do, but easier, so much easier, said than done!! I'm way too exhausted to get her to sleep any other way. But I'm bsck at work very soon so something has to change.

Any tops or suggestions? Or maybe just reminders thst I'm not alone in this? I'm having a 'I feel like a failure as a mum' day. Not only will DD not sleep by herself, she's also rejecting the spoon and not eating much. DH implied that's because I'm feeding her too much at night.

Ugh. I just don't know what to do. The thought of a night time battle over feeding fills my heart with dread, but I know I have to do it As it is, I feel it's my fault DD just doesn't know how to sleep, even though she's now 9 months.

purple sorry you're feeling rubbish, I think pretty much everyone feels like they are failing at times. You are not failing! Don't blame yourself for her not knowing how to sleep, self settling comes with time so I've heard...

I'm not in a position to offer tips but I know how you feel, you are not alone! This too shall pass, this too shall pass....

Does she always disrupt your sleep? I do the same as you, bed share and boob back to sleep every time, and I intend to carry on, but DD doesn't usually disrupt me too much.

Has your DH tried comforting DD when she wakes?

Don't worry about the spoon feeding too much, I think it's normal! What's your DD like with finger foods?

First half of the night was ok here, she went in her cot for a bit, then we co slept... Then she woke about 3.30am for an hour or so, think she was in pain, she doesn't do that very often.

llama glad you're better.
5am is a killer. I've been counting down to the clocks changing for months! hopefully were moving to a more acceptable wake up time!