High Needs baby support thread

[LittlePixieMa]

Any of this familiar?

1 baby needs to be constantly held
2 feeds frequently during the day
3 feeds or comfort sucks through the night
4 won't sleep alone
5 HATES the pram and/or car seat
6 takes short naps
7 doesn't like being held / left with others
8 gets bored or over stimulated very quickly

Feeling exhausted and want some support from others with spirited fussy babies

If so join the club

Little Pixie woke again at 2am but went back to sleep again, phew!! He's flailing in his sleep at the mo, all restless and annoying

Purple it will get better. Sending you hugs

Db4d thanks for the link. She does make you feel as though it's all okay. Unlike the HVs who make you feel shit!!

Just got home from teaching, and DH has decided that we must try to get DS asleep alone....... I really can be arsed with trying. The last time I tried to put him down he screamed and it messed our whole day up. I'm sooo lazy!! How is everyone?

Where is everyone?!! This thread has gone awfully quiet!!

Llama how was your 200 mile drive?!! I don't dare to drive more than 10 miles with DS!!

Ha little pixie I'm with you on the not trying the cot naps! It doesn't just disrupt that particular moment. The whole nap tends to be ruined and then as you say, the whole day is affected!

Think I've got a fear of doing it which I do need to get past. I just wish I had more energy to do it! Definitely this week...

How are we all? Had DD to myself most of the weekend and yesterday was a non stop grizzle fest! Better today and DH took her this afternoon so I had some MUCH needed time to myself. Roast now in the oven and contemplating wine. Feel bit like my batteries have been reset 😁

purple I'm so jealous of your roast dinner and wine! I'm trapped on the bed with DD asleep attached to my boob!

DD's awake time has been longer the last two days (gone from 2.5 to 3-3.5 hours) which means less naps! They are still only 30-45 mins though.... How many naps/how long does everyone's dc have?

I haven't tried a cot nap in ages. I pretty much gave up on those.
cot = practice standing up time

Purple a roast?! You must be a super mum!! Can't remember the last time I cooked a proper meal. Tonight was beans with baked pots!! Do you co sleep at night?

Db4d we now have about 4 hrs wake time (9 months). One morning nap of 30 mins, one late afternoon nap of 2 hrs (joined to boob), without boob it's only 30 mins, but I do enjoy laying down for a rest!!

Finally got DS to sleep (joined to boob). He's discovered how to manipulate his fingers, so has been laying there with his arm to the ceiling twinkling his fingers!

Today I bought the baby led weaning cookbook so hoping to get some inspiration and confidence in weaning...

Yarp you still about? How is all?

Hopefully the sleep fairy will pay a visit tonight and we'll all have amazing nights

Joining in with DS (8mo). DD was a nightmare for sleeping (she's 6yo and brilliant now), unfortunately DS is similar

• wakes pretty much hourly during the night especially if in the cot, we mostly co-sleep so I can BF him back to sleep.
• he won't nap unless I feed him to sleep then he wakes if I move him.
• he will sleep in the buggy and car though and I do a lot of walking with him just to get naps in.

I'm too tired to tackle it and too lazy to get out of bed to keep DS in the cot. Wondering about a dummy!!

Welcome to our exclusive club crazyhorse!!
Poor you having 2 intense children's!! Great that you DS will nap in car and push chair. Mine just cries. Currently napping on bed joined to boob

Hi crazyhorse, welcome!

pixie I sooo wish DD would do bed naps with me. I'm definitely gona have to give it a go again, I just don't want to face a nap being messed up if it goes wrong! Has he always done two hours?

I spoke too soon, were back to 3 naps again today. She has got a cold though so maybe she's just feeling rubbish.

I'm getting braver with giving DD finger foods now but don't feel very inspired! I might start an ideas thread in weaning. I need some really simple, quick stuff!

db4d he's done 2 hr naps for a few months bows, but only with boob firmly in mouth! Lol, we are also on 3 naps today?!!!!

I've just bought Gill Rapley baby led weaning book so hoping for some ideas in that, I'll let you know if there is.

How's everyone doing? The silence here is making me wonder if all the fussy baby's have turned into Angelic ones?!

Looks like the two nap days were a one off! We're definitely back to three...she had a two hour nap in the sling today- unheard of. Bet that was a one off too!

Nope, I'm still here! Just thought I'd give you all a break from my whinging

DD still co sleeping most of the night with me. Just trying to see it all through. Weaning is continuing to improve, and she's started to accept formula in her doidy cup. So there is some hope there. Absolutely no idea how I'm going to get from here to where I need to be in May but I'm just trying to have faith it will all come good. Every day brings new changes so who knows?

Hey everyone
How's all? I think we're having another sleep regression here! He's wakes every night at 2ish and is very unsettled until 7am when it's time to get up! Hoping it doesn't last 2 long, the 4 month sleep regression last over 2 months so fingers crossed.

Gorgeous weather here today

Oh no pixie that sounds horrible! Hope it improves soon.

DD is currently on a mission to stand up by herself, bedtime is disrupted with her standing up in the cot, screaming when I lie her down to do nappy etc... She's also been waking up crying because she's ended up on all fours or sat up in her sleep.

Ouch Pixie! Hope it is over fast! I'm dreading it already...

Same old, same old here. Still not getting a great night, still co sleeping for most of it. I know I need to toughen up and get her into her cot for longer stretches. Just as soon as I feel less tired....

Db4d funny isn't it when they wake up and Spring to all fours automatically, then realise they should be asleep and cry! Bless them!

God nappy change is a night mare! I have to do it with him standing! Just bought pampers pull ups which make life a lot easier!!

Purple haha, I keep saying I'll get him in his cot when I'm not so tired!! I can see us co sleeping for a few years, which means never having sex again --not that I'm in the slightest interested in it !

Pull ups- why didn't I think of that! DD goes crazy during nappy changes so maybe those will help.

I can see us co sleeping for a while here too. When can they go in a toddler bed?!!

There's a sex drought here. I'm so not interested. even if I was I can't imagine getting the chance.

Happy Mother's Day all!

Happy mother's day to you amazing mums! All mums deserve applause but I think we deserve an extra treat given how much we sacrifice Fortunately DH got the memo and helped make it a really lovely day. Got a lie in and he has done nap duty including an hour walk in the freezing cold! Feeling very appreciated right now. Not sure how long that will last but it's nice! Hope you've all had lovely days.

Happy Mothers Day!!!! We all deserve a medal!! Poorly boy here today, so I've had a day of whining!! Xx

Hi everyone, Happy Mothers Day for yesterday!

I'm still around but like others have said, same old, same old. We've started on solids but makes no difference to sleep of course. I started pu/pd but she screams even when picked up..,I can't settle her. She has more stamina than me, It's the same in the pram sometimes-even if I stop and pick her up, she is so furious, she won't settle. I am actually considering letting her cry because I can't see what difference it will make. As much as I know it will break my heart, I don't know a single person it hasn't worked for.

This isn't for my benefit by the way, I'd cuddle and co-sleep all night long, but my LO is clearly having trouble and getting distressed and I don't know how to help without making it worse. I feel so shit that I have caused this. All this shh pat / gradual retreat bollocks doesn't work. Often rocking doesn't work. Pram/car movement doesnt work. Maybe she just wants to be left the fuck alone.

Gah, just venting really, sorry for the whinge. Hope you all have better days!

Hey yarp, don't apologise for the venting, that's what this is here for! Sorry things are tough at the mo, these little babies are so strong willed! I trireme PU/PD some months back but it was fruitless. I couldn't do cry it out, read too much into the negative affects of it. But it seems to work for some. I think my little chaos would cry for hours even if I did decide to try it!!! Sending you hugs xx

Hi there,

Just to say - there is light at the end of the tunnel! DS was very high needs; terrible sleeper. Was always so jealous when friends' babies would drop off so easily. BUT, he's just turned 2, reliably sleeps through, very confident, happy little boy.

Good luck!