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High Needs baby support thread

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LittlePixieMa · 07/12/2015 17:49

Any of this familiar?

1 baby needs to be constantly held
2 feeds frequently during the day
3 feeds or comfort sucks through the night
4 won't sleep alone
5 HATES the pram and/or car seat
6 takes short naps
7 doesn't like being held / left with others
8 gets bored or over stimulated very quickly

Feeling exhausted and want some support from others with spirited fussy babies

If so join the club Smile

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Purpleboa · 11/02/2016 20:35

Weaned, even....

EssiesInvisibleLlama · 12/02/2016 21:40

Hi everyone.
It might be coincidence but ds definitely has slept a bit better since I started to introduce a bit of nosh. He's only having miniscule amounts and like you say purple not much actually goes down though I have been spooning in a bit of puree. His sleep is still crap but a little less crap last night I fed him every 2 hours and he settled and slept fine between each feed which is a vast improvement on the last couple of months. As I say though it might be total coincidence and tonight we might be back to hourly wake ups!

Nothing exciting to report though. Swimming tomorrow!

Anyone got v day plans? DH is cooking me dinner. SmileShock

CaptainWarbeck · 13/02/2016 07:57

We are renting a movie, having a nice dinner and a tasty beer tomorrow once he's in bed. And hoping I don't have to do too many runs to the bedroom to feed DS through the evening!

Nothing much to report here other than FOUR new top teeth currently trying to cut through. I feel really sorry for him, I bet it's sore. Calpol to the rescue.

BTW has been good for us, although I have scooped him up and bashed him on his back a few times when I've freaked out that he's choking. We had the most success with things that were a bit mushy anyway, like soft banana or mango on the skin, and fishcakes, noodles etc. He's just turned 9 months and stuff is definitely going in as he sometimes throws it back up.

We have lots of funny videos of him tackling spaghetti bolognese etc. He still drinks loads of milk though!

CaptainWarbeck · 13/02/2016 07:58

*BLW rather Smile

LittlePixieMa · 13/02/2016 20:52

Hey all
Sorry for the silence. Had a yucky virus that I'm finally starting to shit.

I've given up on cot sleeping again! Too much hard work, and I do love him snuggling next to me!!

He's been refusing solids the last week. Very annoying as I spend ages making something for him and it all gets wasted :-(

How is everyone? Half term here this coming week which means DH is home, so hopefully I should get a bit of a break knowing him he'll have DS for 10 mins before handing him back

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EssiesInvisibleLlama · 14/02/2016 16:59

Ignore me I'm talking bollocks. He isn't sleeping better. Last night he was up every hour.

On the plus side though he fell asleep in the car earlier and when I got home I carried him in and put him in the cot and he slept for another half an hour. First cot nap. Tick! Grin

deathb4decaf · 14/02/2016 18:35

Hi all

llama they like to get our hopes up these babies! The cot nap is good news, it's good you can transfer him, I've never managed that with DD!

DD Has been settling a bit easier recently, we've been weaning for nearly two months though, and it may just be down to her age/lack of teething rather than food!

pixie hope you're feeling a bit better?

purple how's your DD getting on with the food? I find mine gets very easily upset in the high chair, I have to park her next to the tv and give her various toys and extra spoons to play with while I sneak bits of food in! She does refuse sometimes, I know it's par for the course but I hate throwing away the food I've spent so long pureeing!

Purpleboa · 14/02/2016 20:33

Hey all. Happy Valentine's Day! she says sarcastically

Any exciting plans?? Chinese takeaway, a Richard Curtis film and an argument here. Enjoyed my prawn crackers though Grin

Weaning is actually going good - don't want to jinx it though! Over the past week she's definitely been swallowing stuff. She's not had a proper poo for 3 days though! Guess that's a sign her body is getting used to solids?

Hopefully we are getting there...

Purpleboa · 14/02/2016 20:35

Deathb4 I hear you on the wasting food. I stopped making so much stuff as she was just rejecting it and it was annoying! But today I made tomato, cheese and basil pinwheels and she ate half of one before smearing it all over the chair and floor So I guess I'd better revisit that BLW cookbook...

CaptainWarbeck · 15/02/2016 00:59

Ahh llama how did you manage the transfer from car to cot?!?! Every time we've tried he wakes up. The only way I've managed to keep him sleeping is to shove a boob in his mouth as soon as he stirs, but then he's stuck in my arms.

Purple same here. PMS and Valentine's day not a good combo for us Confused

How much you time are you lot getting? This is basically what I kicked off about yesterday. DS is pretty happy with DH but I feel irrationally guilty leaving them both to go out and do something nice. And trying to get me time with us all in the house doesn't work as I end up just doing parenting stuff anyway - boob/soothing crying etc. Argh. I love spending time with DS, he's brilliant, but I really need some recharge time.

deathb4decaf · 15/02/2016 07:01

Morning all!

We also had Chinese last night, I had to shovel it down before DD started crying. Hmm DD also bit my nip again, it hasn't healed yet from last time so that was fun.

captain I don't get any time to myself. I do bedtime, nap time, night wakings, feeding... She won't take a bottle... I used to get a reliable chunk of time at the start of the evening but that is definitely a thing of the past! Even when DP takes her out in the pram for a nap I just end up running around cleaning or pureeing up some concoction for DD! I'm having a rare half an hour lying down in bed at the moment while DP plays with DD downstairs!

purple the no pooing must mean she's getting more food in!

We had DP's sister over yesterday, Passed DD to her, DD starts crying instantly. She gets really upset, really quickly. She won't be held by anyone apart from me, DP and my mum who she sees very regularly. Do I keep handing her over so she gets 'used to' people? Confused

EssiesInvisibleLlama · 16/02/2016 16:36

Db4d DS has started biting in the last few days. He's almost got teeth. It's agony. Not sure how to deal with it. I've been taking him off and saying NO firmly but he just bloody laughs at me.

DS is also not great at being handed to other people. I think its a phase. Though he was beaming at some random woman on the train yesterday!

purple DS hasn't had a poo for 2 days, dreading the inevitable poonami! Weaning is going well though, he managed some brocolli florets at lunch and was munching off the seedy end bits and spitting out the stalks, like some sort of baby chimp. Clever dude.

captain I'm lucky, I have my Mum around the corner so she helps so I do get an hour to myself every now and then. I have a horse but mostly take DS to the stables with me and he sleeps in the buggy or I cart him about in the sling, but at the weekend DH has him for an hour so I can go to the stables on my own which is heavenly. I don't like leaving DS for more than an hour though. He's EBF and won't take a bottle so it's been impossible to leave him for long though now we've started weaning it's getting a bit easier.

Re the car seat transfers, it's got easier since we got one of those swively car seats, it was impossible before we got that. It doesn't always work but sometimes I catch him at the right moment!

Sleep has been shite for the last 3 nights, however I am used to it so feeling ok. I'm going to my Grans for the weekend so god knows what DS will be like when we are there.

deathb4decaf · 17/02/2016 08:57

llama it really is agony! I had to stop feeding off the bad side and express but it's still not healed, it's only just starting to feel better! If she bites now I take it to mean she's done feeding and say no, take her off and boob gets put away. Hope your DS gets the message soon, it's horrible! Have the teeth emerged yet?

CaptainWarbeck · 17/02/2016 11:49

Llama we also get the giggling after biting, it's sooo frustrating! I read something about telling off etc not really working at this age as they're too young to understand, so I say no, take him off and we do something completely different. Hopefully he learns that way.

Also had the grinning at random lady on a train too. Although he howled at the sight of one of our friends who's known him since he was born. They're weird little things Grin

EssiesInvisibleLlama · 17/02/2016 20:47

Today I've been giving him a really sharp 'oi!' when he bites, which is enough to startle him a bit so he immediately lets go and looks at me. I think it's helping cos he didn't do it on the last feed. He only bites my left boob, not the right!

Had parsnip for tea, he loved it.

I'm doing a 200 mile drive on Friday - wish me luck!!!!!

LittlePixieMa · 22/02/2016 16:49

Hey everyone!
Sorry for the silence. I'm finally feeling better!!
How is all?

We're good, plodding along as usual. Given up on the cot and the buggy, can't be arsed with the stressed.

Weaning is all over the place, was going great, but the last few weeks he'll only have fruit! So I'm throwing away a lot of food that he now refuses!!

Xx

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deathb4decaf · 23/02/2016 08:19

Morning all

Not much change here, feeling fed up! DD is crawling and just started pulling herself up to stand yesterday. It's not had any positive effect on the sleep sadly!
I just want a couple of hours a day where I can get washed/dressed/eat properly....
In the evenings I take dd up, settle her down, feed to sleep, attempt transfer to cot, attempt to leave the room. If dp isn't working he'll be downstairs making dinner which I have to eat quickly before DD cries. There's usually a few wake ups before I end up going to bed really early so she can sleep... The naps are all on me in the sling still, it's painful!

How is everyone else getting on?!

Purpleboa · 23/02/2016 09:12

Hey all yawns, gets the espresso machine cranked up

Still here, still standing just about After a fairly good week (for us, sure many would still view it with horror!) sleep got worse. Then it got really bad...and voila, we have another cold. She also learnt to crawl properly this week. Had hoped she'd have a rest after mastering that, but no, we've moved straight onto her trying to pull herself up. Whole I am proud of her 'can do must do' attitude, I'm also like 'could you just give the milestones thing a break? Just for a few weeks??' Deffo her daddy's girl - apparently I didn't really move that much till 13 months Confused

So, yeah. It's just rubbish again. I was starting to look and feel human again. Now I'm back to looking and feeling about 110. Bleurgh.

In better news...weaning is going pretty well. She's starting to eat and doing well with it and taking stuff off a spoon! So that's encouraging.

LittlePixieMa · 23/02/2016 21:42

Db4d crawling made no difference here either! He started crawling at 5 months, and I was so hoping sleep would improve. He's now nearly 9 mo and is definitely sleeping longer, but not deeper, so I'm still attached to him all night!! I've given up with the cot as can't be doing with the stress, so all naps are sling!!

Purple glad weaning is going well!! We were doing great with it but now he's not interested!! Lol, these high needs babies seem obsessed with reaching all the milestones really early!!

Llama how is all?

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LittlePixieMa · 26/02/2016 04:49

Well little pixie has been awake since 2am, it's now nearly 5am........ Arghhhhhhhhhh

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deathb4decaf · 26/02/2016 08:00

Oh noooo pixie did you get any more sleep?

DD has decided the best use for her cot is to practice her standing at every opportunity. If I stop her she gets really upset Confused I need to rethink sleeping arrangements again...

LittlePixieMa · 26/02/2016 08:06

He went back to sleep at 5.30. He's currently asleep joined to my boob but I'm teaching yoga at 9am.........

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Purpleboa · 26/02/2016 22:49

Hey all. Pixie hope you got to your class!

Still here. Still knackered. DD's sleep is getting worse. I've given up expecting it to ever improve because I know it won't.

Definitely feeling a bit 'rock bottom' about it all right now.

deathb4decaf · 27/02/2016 08:14

purple sorry you're feeling down. How was your night? It's so bloody hard!

DD screamed a lot in her sleep last night. Feeling frazzled. Need more coffee...

deathb4decaf · 27/02/2016 08:15

These videos make feel reassured!

m.youtube.com/channel/UCBf4ET5etwaYciyG0d2EbFg

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