Anyone on for another 4 month sleep regression hand-holding thread?!

[uppereastsidemom]

DD2 is 16 weeks and had been doing 7pm - woken up at 11.30ish for a feed - 5 or 6am. Happy days.

She is now waking up anytime between 7 and 10pm, going back down but reliably waking up for 2-3 hours between 3 and 6am. It is torture. I know this is a predictable phase that will pass, but christ it is miserable.

Waiting to see what tonight brings . I know there had been an active thread that seems to have died - hopefully meaning that all those babies are now sleeping beautifully

She lasted til 2 for a nappy change and feed but did a great big sailor burp and puked a bit from the force of it so needed a new sleeping bag and has taken a little while to settle. I remember when she used todo6-7 hour stretches and now I'm pleased with 4.5 :(

God, I'd give anything for 4 hours! DD was sometimes doing that before the regression. She's never done longer than 5. I worry that I'm doing something wrong because other babies seem to sleep for so much longer.

Awake again at 4. Beyond fed up. DD will be tired during the day and it will be so frustrating!

I think my ds' regression is over with the exception of the occasional bad night, he seems to be sleeping 2x4 hours then 1x3 hours, or 1x5hours and 2x3 hours. That is certainly doable from my point of view. Hang in there peeps.

Purple I've been told that babies who struggle with sleep are more intelligent if that's any consolation ( I know it's not!). We have another cold- snot all over the sheet when she woke up at, ahem, 9:30....

It does get better purple-and it seems to have got better all of a sudden too.

Anyone else awake? Bad night here. Last night things were better - only two wakings. Tonight, seems to be back to hourly wakings. YAWN. Any tips on staying calm? I'm so tired I could weep, and it's really hard not to get stressed and frustrated. But I know that will make things worse!

My 17 week old woke 4 times in 6 hours last night :( My fiance dealt with 2 of those wake-ups though, but he can't tonight as he has work.. dreading it

Still lurking :) awake every two hours ish.
Purple, mines only done longer than 5.5 hours once and hes 6 months old. I find reading about normal sleep helps me - understanding it makes it seem less rubbish! The isis website is great, have read it many times in the night!

Feeling crap. Exhaustion means that me and dh are snippy with eachother.... Ok downright pissed off. Feel totally miserable and tense. Been googling pnd but honestly think I'm just TIRED

finding sorry about that :( i thought you said things had gotten better?

Finding that's rough. I reckon a lot of pnd starts with sleep deprivation - how could it not? Yeah, me and DH argue a lot more now. It's hard not to when you're easily irritated by even the smallest thing.

Pregnant, really hope you get a better night. I'm shattered. Managed to go ahead with today's plans but I'm wiped and DD has only had 3 short naps, so god knows what tonight will bring. Plan is to start bedtime earlier. Usually we put her down around 8 and she's usually asleep by 830/9. Tonight we'll go for 7 to start her final feed. I'm not sure what difference it will make, but she was clearly overtired last night so am wondering if that contributed to her broken sleep.

I am so over being at the mercy of a baby's sleep pattern!! I know it's necessary but I feel like it is slowly killing me. How is it fair that other babies sleep so well??

Hand holding for us all tonight...

I think it has got a bit better but then we have a difficult one again and I'm right back to feeling crap again. I think the sleep deprivation is so severe that it's going to take a while to feel good again. I genuinely don't feel like I'm depressed, just a bit grumpy- managed to have 2 hours to myself today and felt better for it

Yeah I'm more grumpy than depressed. In the first few weeks of my DD being born, I was very down - felt hopeless which is so unlike me. Haven't felt that since which is good. Time to ourselves is so important. Got 3 hours to sleep this morning thanks to DH and my god did that help.

Yes, it will take a while to recover. I think right now our bodies are in survival mode. I'm expecting to get ill once she sleeps better - like how you get a cold on holiday cos you've stopped working so hard! As long as I don't get ill now, when she most needs me. We have no support nearby and DH has started a new job, so we'd be stuffed. Alrhough I guess people cope!

Me again :(;anyone around? I feel like I'm losing my mind. It may be only 10pm but I fear another shit night is ahead. So we tried putting her to bed earlier. No fucking difference. Took an hour to settle and now she's awake at 10! Fucking great.

I have no idea what I'm doing wrong here. I know that sttn isn't the norm, some babies sleep, some don't. But it feels like mine is particularly bad and I just. Cannot. Cope. Any more.

I feel like walking out, getting in the car and driving away from my life. In my darkest moments I've wondered if I'd be better off dead. I'm obviously not cut out to be a mum because I can't even do the simplest of things, like get my baby to sleep.

She NEEDS sleep so desperately, why wont she just do it?????

Oh purple I hope you're feeling better. I find the putting to bed bit the most stressful - the actual night time waking I cope with on autopilot in a way but it's the frustration when they won't go to sleep which gets me too. You're not a bad mum, you clearly love and want what's best for your baby otherwise you wouldn't care if she slept or not. Be strong, this too will pass.

Hello can I join? DS is 16 weeks and hasn't really got any sleep achievements to regress from but here we are at nearly 4 months and sleep is clearly not something that comes easy to him!

Purple - we have the same baby remember...?!!. mine was down at 730 up at 10 and 1am for an hr then up every 20 mins till my DH let him sleep on his chest and up for the day at 530am. I then tried for 40 mins to get him to sleep before my toddler got up. He dropped off and managed a whole 20 mins before waking up.

You are a great mum purple and you aren't doing anything wrong. Just get thru this horrid spell (I know it's been a rather long spell ) and stick to a consistent approach and once it passes things will improve. That's what I'm telling myself anyway.

Oh and DS has a suspected CMP allergy so I'm now dairy free which means I can't even console myself with cake!!!!

Please can I join too? My 17 wk dd is waking up between 4-9 times a night and will only go back to sleep if I breast feed her. We've had one night in the past 4 weeks where she only woke up once, felt amazing the exit day but now we are back to many many feeds! Any wonderful suggestions gratefully received. She won't take a dummy or a bottle....

Howdy mango and star... Hope this hell doesn't last long for you. I boob my girl to sleep too- know I "shouldn't" but hey ho

I'm the same. He's clearly not hungry 6 times a night but what else can you do? Oh rocking... we do that sometimes

Ha Starfish we do indeed! Sorry you've been hit too. Feels very unfair doesn't it - who knew our little darlings could regress even further! Thanks to you and Finding for your reassuring words.

Welcome Mango! Sounds grim. Yes, feeding to sleep is the only thing that works for us too. It's that or a choice between loud, LOUD crying. And the rocking is exhausting and knackers my back. So any suggestions about putting her down 'drowsy but awake' or CC - not welcome here!

How's everyone's nights been? Slightly better here in that she woke hourly - big improvement on last night - and I did sleep in between. She has her jabs today. Is it wrong to hope they knock her out so she sleeps tonight??

Not wrong at all purple...if you're giving calpol try and get the sugar free to avoid the sugar high and maximise the knocked-outness

That's good you managed to sleep purple and great you had a better night. Onwards and upwards!!

Crap night here culminating in me resorting to the sling at 6am (having been awake since 4am) just so he'd sleep before DS1 got up.

We also have injections and I was hoping the same re them wiping him out!!

Oh and purple- know what you mean about drowsy but awake and cc. No way I this earth infill ever let my baby cry herself to sleep, and she doesn't get drowsy when she's tired, she gets hyper, if I put her down In that state she'd squeal and roll around (my baby is weird, lovely but weird!)

Can I join? Ds2 is 17 weeks and has never really slept that well so I'm hoping that I won't notice the sleep regression.

He goes to bed at around 7.30pm and wakes anytime between 11pm and 2.30am, I try to put off feeding him until 1.30am as that's 6 hours. I give him his dummy instead, he goes back to sleep after a feed but then may wake up again and very often ends up in our bed at around 5am until his morning feed.

Welcome pyjama! Ha yes I thought the same thing about not noticing it but it actually makes what went before look good.

Anyone else around? Hope you're all fast asleep! Tonight has been utter HELL. She had her injections and was sleepy this afternoon and very tired early evening. We kept her up till 8 so we could give her calpol, and perhaps that was a mistake. Since 1030 she has pretty much been awake. She's feeding loads, so much so that I'm getting sore! But no sleep. At 3 she started bawling so I rushed her downstairs, and, I'm ashamed to admit, lost my cool. She's now feeding and I'm wondering what the hell to do next. Might take your cue and put her in the sling, starfish. I'm literally out of options. I hate myself for not staying calm and I really hate my life right now. I'm so scared that this is never going to change...

Oh purple. Sorry you've had another shit night. How're you feeling this morning?