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Anyone on for another 4 month sleep regression hand-holding thread?!

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uppereastsidemom · 29/08/2015 01:24

DD2 is 16 weeks and had been doing 7pm - woken up at 11.30ish for a feed - 5 or 6am. Happy days.

She is now waking up anytime between 7 and 10pm, going back down but reliably waking up for 2-3 hours between 3 and 6am. It is torture. I know this is a predictable phase that will pass, but christ it is miserable.

Waiting to see what tonight brings Smile. I know there had been an active thread that seems to have died - hopefully meaning that all those babies are now sleeping beautifully Grin

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Fleurchamp · 16/10/2015 17:11

Jealous purple Envy

DS is asleep in the car seat. I managed to get him in from the car Grin

Already starting to feel anxious about tonight...... Sad

Purpleboa · 16/10/2015 18:44

Don't be - like anything else with this baby business, it's probably just a phase!

Yeah am feeling 5he night dread. But having a glass of wine and trying not to think too much! At least DH is off work tomorrow so can take her for a bit in the morning...

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Daisy17 · 17/10/2015 10:35

Can I join? Baby number 2..... Number 1 was always rubbish at sleep so didn't notice. Number 2 started out wonderfully for three months, one feed a night, perhaps two.....and now it's all gone tits up! Last night was asleep at 7:30, then wake ups at 9:30, 1, 2:30, 4:00 and took ages to settle after feed, 5 o'clock and awake till 6:15, then awake again at 7:30 at which point my partner took over and I got a weekend lie in, hurray! Rubbish. And so disappointed!

Pyjamaramadrama · 17/10/2015 11:45

Welcome Daisy.

Well ds went down at 7.30, he woke at 8.30, and 9.30, but just for his dummy. Then he woke at about 12, I was so tired so put him into our bed, fed him at 2.30 but he took ages to settle, then he woke up at 4.30, then into our bed again at 6.

Every night is different though he's so unpredictable.

fluffikins · 18/10/2015 13:40

So I had 1 hour of sleep last night! DD slept ok but would only sleep on my chest and every time I tried to pop her in the cot or even down into a co-sleeping position she refused/cried. She's also teething, had 1 through last week and looks like the second is making an appearance so is this clingy behaviour teething or regression?? Please say the former, I can deal with that!

HelenF35 · 19/10/2015 07:57

Can I join too please? Ds slept 11-7 every night from 6 weeks to 10.5. We've been in regression ever since. The last few nights have been particularly bad. Waking every 45 mins when I manage to get him back in the crib for a sleep but mostly will only sleep on me. Exhausted! Will now only feed/cuddle to sleep. Would self settle previously Confused

I need wine! And sleep! WineWineWine

HelenF35 · 19/10/2015 08:01

Just to add DS is now 15.5 weeks. I swear if my mother tells me that giving him a bottle of formula will magically fix the problem one more time I will not be responsible for my sleep deprived actions!

Pyjamaramadrama · 19/10/2015 09:46

My ds is formula fed and he still sleeps bad.

ReRegRhonda · 19/10/2015 14:24

Helen, can't agree enough re mothers and formula!

Spl0ink · 19/10/2015 15:43

I know it's not dreadful but we're back in the realm of wake ups every three hours. This has happened solidly for the last three nights. He was down to one or two feeds per night so that extra one just feels really galling Sad. I feed him each time cos I don't know what else to do, and if he is genuinely hungry then I'd be gutted to be trying to deny him. Do you feed for night wake ups still?

fluffikins · 19/10/2015 15:57

I try to do 3 stages: 1/ pat in crib 2/ hold 3/feed so not always jumping straight to 3.

Fleurchamp · 19/10/2015 16:32

I admit, I just feed to shut DS up Blush

I know I am creating a rod for my own back etc. but I just need to do what I can at the moment for my own sanity!

HelenF35 · 19/10/2015 21:16

Pat in crib does buggar all here. It's hug or feed to sleep. Going to try and put him down awake tonight (we are late with bedtime tonight as had to collect my mum from hospital) so am expecting tears and tantrums Sad

Purpleboa · 20/10/2015 04:20

How are we all doing? Welcome Daisy and Helen!

Well, last night things seemed to be getting better. Tonight, we're back to square one. To make it worse, I feel rotten. Feverish, achy and sick. Badly need a night off. Not going to happen!

HelenF35 · 20/10/2015 05:52

Well after a few mins of tears and a lot of reassurance from me he went to sleep himself! He went to sleep at 10 and has been awake at 12.30, 3.10 and 5am. A marked improvement on previous nights! GrinHe slept in the car while I was collecting my mum too, so routine wasn't too far off normal.

Purpleboa · 20/10/2015 07:05

That's good Helen! Hopefully the start of an improvement?

Night didn't improve here. Multiple wakings and wide awake for the day at 5.30. I hate my life.

Been trying to stick to a strict nap routine but honestly, is there a point? It makes no difference to her. And I'm so sick of battling over sleep. Yet according to the books she should be getting 16 hours of sleep a day. She's getting nowhere near that!! What do I do!

starfish12 · 20/10/2015 18:58

4:45 am start here... currently feeding to sleep and predicting 4-6 wake ups tonight. Isn't life fun??!! GrinConfused

Pyjamaramadrama · 20/10/2015 20:02

Is anyone else struggling during the day?

Ds just wants to be held all the time. I don't mind and have given up on housework all but the essentials. In the morning it's a struggle for me to get to have a shower to get ds to school, usually by the time I've had a shower tied my hair up and chucked some clothes on the baby is really crying, then I have to get him in the car (school is 1.5 miles), he cries as soon as I stop the car, I carry him into school as he hates the pram, then he cries when I put him back in the car.

He struggles to nap in the day. It's difficult to even make dinner and one of us has to hold him to eat.

He's got a swing, platmat and jumperoo but he won't go in any of them.

I've tried with a sling and do use it for walks but it hurts my back wearing it around the house.

Purpleboa · 21/10/2015 04:47

That's hard pyjama. DD does nap but usually with my help - on me, in sling or pram. I gave up trying to settle her I'm her cot as it was such a hassle and only led to short naps. However, yesterday morning I put her in the Sleepyhead and out of desperation left her to cry. She cried for another minute - then passed out! So I'll be trying that again.

She's getting too big and wriggly fir the sling though, so that might not be an option anymore :( I hate having to centre everything around naps but have no choice.

How's everyone's nights been? On our fourth waking. She's thrashing about now after her feed, really hope she will go back to sleep!

HelenF35 · 21/10/2015 05:13

We were doing fine till 3am. Couldn't get him back to sleep. He's been settling himself all day but no go. We've had tears and reassurance and I've had to feed/cuddle to sleep as DP has an interview tomorrow and would get no sleep otherwise Sad I love cuddling him but it's getting to the point I can't stay awake and it's bloody dangerous Sad, it's always 3am onwards that is a problem.

starfish12 · 21/10/2015 10:59

What sling do you have pyjama? We have the ergo 360 which is v good for your back... I carry my DS round in the sling for all his naps or pram or car seat.... really don't like doing it but means he gets around 5 hrs of naps in. I did this with my other one but transitioned him to his cot around now... the thing that worked for him (ssshing and rubbing) doesn't work for DS2 so I feel a bit stuck Confused

Shitty night for us. DS1 - around 6 wake ups, tag teamed with DS2 - 4 or 5. So been up every 45 mins or so and now I'm looking after 2 grumpy children all day.

Still gutted I've had to cut out dairy so i can't even console myself in nice food!!!

Purpleboa · 21/10/2015 12:03

Ooft Starfish that sounds rough. I think two sleep thieves would break me but it's amazing what you can cope with! And you can't have chocolate - that's just not fair :( really hope you have an alternative tasty snack, you deserve it!

I just bought the Ergo 360. Lot of money but figured it was worth it. I've been putting her in the close caboo but she's getting too big and thrashy for it now! That's great to hear it works for naps. Am hopeful it will be better for my back too than the caboo and baby bjorn that we currently have.

Well, DD went back to sleep at 5 - only to wake at 6. Ho hum. Luckily DH took her. He's going to take a day off on Friday and look after her, so all I'll need to do is feed her. So goes the plan anyway! Not sure he's really got his head round the concept of 'looking after baby all day'.

Just saw a friend there whose baby not only sleeps all night, every night, but has two hour naps too. In her cot, of course. I managed not to swear at her, do I get a reward?

starfish12 · 21/10/2015 13:48

Yeah I really like the Ergo. Has been a lifesaver for us! Awww your hubby sounds like a sweetheart taking time off to help you out. Amazing what a nice long shower, some naps and a bit of you time can do for the soul!
I've already been day dreaming about both of mine being in nursery next year and taking a day off work to do whatever i fancy. How sad is that?!!

starfish12 · 21/10/2015 13:49

Oh yes and well done for not punching your friend. How old is her baby?