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Misery loves company: riding the mo fo out into Part II

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ElphabaTheGreen · 11/06/2013 21:29

In our last exciting instalments:

Needles was at breaking point with a screaming 10 mo DD

Hear had experienced the magic of ONE unbroken night!

Dreaming was continuing to confound all with her ability to manage three children on four or five minutes a night, thanks to DT the Terrible.

Stitch was still having her sleep eaten by...erm...Stitch.

Poppy was pondering how the actual fark she was going to manage a newborn on top of BabyAmex's night time shenanigans.

And the desperate Elphaba had turned night duties entirely over to DH with mastitic results.

Join us with your stories of misery and woe in this, the most sleep-deprived corner of MN! Grin

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BaldHedgehog · 23/07/2013 22:56

i suppose you could train them?

I'll better get my coat...

AnotherStitchInTime · 24/07/2013 21:22

Just popping in briefly to announce that I am officially 13+1 weeks pregnant!

Due 28th January Shock

Seem to have passed the first trimester by, onto the sweaty radiant second trimester :)

HearMyRoar · 24/07/2013 22:13

congratulations! Grin

the 2nd trimester is by far the best IMHO. You did well to skip the first I reckon. Grin

BaldHedgehog · 24/07/2013 23:02

Congrats Stitch :)
Are you going to find out the gender on next scan?

AnotherStitchInTime · 25/07/2013 06:47

Definitely finding out the sex. Boys are rare in DH's family, out of 14 in my kids generation there is only one boy, my DSS. If it is a boy we need to know as we only have girls clothes and would need to plan ahead.

DH reckons it is another girl, I think a boy because I have had no morning sickness, which I did with dd1 and 2. Only 7 weeks to wait until we hopefully find out who is right.

BaldHedgehog · 25/07/2013 21:37

Stitch you never know...In my generation there were girls only,yet I'm the only one to have a child and it's a boy :)

BaldHedgehog · 26/07/2013 05:33

DS has decided just after 4 am that he's had enough sleep Confused
DH tried to settle him before going to work but failed.Now I'm sitting with Brew spinning the washing so can't hear his wails.Surely I'll hear more snidy comments from my neighbour later Hmm

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ElphabaTheGreen · 26/07/2013 06:26

I'm with you Stitch - my bets would be on a boy. I reckon the absence of morning sickness is a giveaway Smile

Back to square one here. Awake every two hours, only difference being is that up until about 2am, DH goes in to settle him and is able to do so within about five minutes, followed by five minutes of sitting with him or else he wakes up again. From about 2am onwards, he won't sleep for longer than 15 minutes unless he gets boob and in bed with me. Since I still wake up even when DH goes in to settle, I think we can consider sleep training mark 4 and night weaning a 100% failure. Sad

WHAT IS IT WITH THESE FUCKING CHILDREN!

Still no response from the OOH GP re: my complaint Hmm

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BaldHedgehog · 26/07/2013 12:59

Elph ((((hug))))

Just waiting for DH and off we go to MIL.Little sod darling will sleep like an angel in the car making up for the night while both of us will struggle to keep the eyes open.Why the hell I still think about the other one?Clearly I lost my mind and not thinking straight Confused

HearMyRoar · 26/07/2013 20:45

dd has decided bedtime is for losers and is still running around like a loon. it's been like this for the past week. I want my evening back!

AnotherStitchInTime · 27/07/2013 00:33

, 4am is inhumane.

:( Elph, still at least DH shares the settling duties until 2am. That is a small but significant improvement.

9 sodding pm I finally got dd2 to sleep. It took 2 hours.

Same last night.

No dinner until she is asleep, one annoyed ravenous pregnant lady here.

BaldHedgehog · 27/07/2013 01:51

9pm is a standard bedtime in this house.If we put him to bed any earlier he also wakes up earlier(before 6am).DH even tried to push the bedtime later but all the hell broke loose I disagreed.

Here we are up again with my little brat and Brew

What annoys me is that I'm trying to settle DS and DH is tossing and turning in bed (the base is sqeaking of course) then he goes to the loo banging the stairgate sometimes...

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ElphabaTheGreen · 27/07/2013 17:42

Stitch I don't think we've ever done 'dinner until after baby is in bed' thing for that very reason! I pretty much shoot dinner out of a cannon at 6pm (whether DH is home or not) so I'm carb-loaded for when battle begins at 6:30, and have the opportunity to cram DS full of food up until zero hour.

Last night DH ordered me into the spare bedroom with earplugs because I'm verging on breakdown again. I had a blissful, uninterrupted sleep from 9pm until 4:30am when a haggard-looking DH shook me awake, handed me wailing child and said he'd screamed for 45 minutes, then slept for 30 minutes, then screamed for 45 minutes, then slept for 30 on a repeat cycle the ENTIRE night. DH then staggered off to bed and DS slept with me and boobs for three hours.

I'm starting to think he wants us both dead so he can get his inheritance. Maybe he'll start sleeping when he's old enough to realise there's not that much to inherit Hmm

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Clarella · 28/07/2013 13:02

hi! may I return? Grin

catch up later

Clarella · 28/07/2013 13:03

ps.

I'm co sleeping. is it the death knell for me?!

AnotherStitchInTime · 28/07/2013 16:56

Hi Clarella, the more the merrier!

Elph I normally eat with the DC's around 6pm, but we were staying at my Aunt's and she was doing a later adult meal around 8pm. So glad we are home now, I love her to bits, but it is not at all restful visiting there (no toddler proofing), I am exhausted.

Sorry to hear you are struggling again. At least your DH is sharing some of the burden now. Thing is when you get no sleep after having had a period of relatively ok sleep, it can feel worse than when no sleep was the status quo.

Bald bedtime is earlier normally here around 8pm, but since it has been hot 9pm standard. Would quite like a little of our child free evening back before we fall asleep.

My DH also has no sensitivity on his volume control when I am putting the kids to bed. I have had to video call him in a whisper from my tablet before whilst breastfeeding Stitch to tell him to stop talking on the phone in the hallway outside the bedroom. Yet when he took over putting dd1 to bed I couldn't even go to the loo until he had got her to sleep, how easily he forgets grrrr.

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ElphabaTheGreen · 28/07/2013 19:16

I think I communicate by text with DH more often when we're both at home than when we're apart these days so as not to disturb DS Grin Once I ended up with DS comatose on my lap for a nap with no phone Shock and no food ShockShock I was forced to pound gently but rhythmically on the floorboards with my foot to get DH's attention so I didn't a) perish or b) (most importantly) wake DS.

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Clarella · 28/07/2013 20:25

congratulations poppy and stitch!!

I've skimmed a bit - elpha wtf about mastitis advice?!

I was on the previous Fred ages ago; kinda got pndish and had a thyroid slump, crawling back out with a baby who STILL cant sleep!

this is a safe space to.moan about sleep right?!

moan alert:

luckily dh now accepts my sleep demands bless him. so current sleep arrangements are; bedside cot in nursery (he wouldn't go in it anyway and would inch over to the main bed. it's a bloody brio one too can't be got for love nor money), bed guard on big bed and small ikea mattress on floor of nursery. dh in spare room. idea is: baby goes down in nursery and however many wakes at the mo every 20 min but at least at the mo it's just a pick up, last week it was boob till I crash and go to bed. then he's in with me. generally I think he wakes every 2 hours till about 4, and if I don't prop him on a pillow he's then awake each 20 mins. a pillow buys me another 2 hours. I know he's still refluxy but not enough to need meds so me and pillow it is.

the ikea mattress was supposed to be for me to keep him in cot all night but heat and a broken body have trumped thatGrin

in 5 weeks I'm back wrestling v strong asd kids in school. no idea if body will cope. no idea if will be able to express Confused . so actually sort of need supply to switch to night anyway. who am I kidding, it's already there!

today I'm feeling my love for him come back which is lovely Smile

DreamingOfAFullNightsSleep · 29/07/2013 21:57

Still. No. Sleep.

Vague improvements from travel cot not cot wit bars (he's a roller and huge wriggler), loud white noise, and no sleeping bag. Can't keep a blanket anywhere near him though so don't know what will happen on colder nights.... We have had a few 3 hours sleep spells though!! An evening :-). Well, we did while staying with my mother, now we are home its been less consistent. Of course....

Dt the Not-So-Angelic is still Not Angelic. I am practically on my knees atm.

elph hugely disappointing news re your sleep training fail. At least your DH knows its your ds,not you and your "indulgent" parenting though, surely?!

stitch still excited for your second trimester-ness. Does lack of moaning here mean stitch #2 is sleeping ok atm?!

clarella we just gave up n put bed guard on ours too...

BaldHedgehog · 30/07/2013 02:09

Sighhhhhhh

Here I am we are again Brew

DS appears to sleep better in vertical position-nods off in his chair immediately.Horizontal set up in his cot is waaahwaaahwaaaah Confused

BaldHedgehog · 30/07/2013 03:54

And another Brew

Clarella · 30/07/2013 06:57

not just me then.Brew Brew Brew

every two hours. still, half hourly wakes from 7-9 averted with comfy pillow (totally against sids guidelines) and we got the cutest pic ever of him holding his face laid strewn across it Grin

I can't believe we used to bemoan the 4 hours he used to do at 8 weeks Angry

Im trying to decide whether to blow up the birth ball and bounce him rather than boob him.

HearMyRoar · 30/07/2013 18:30

dreaming dd also rejects and blanket within about 10 seconds and then of course wakes up cold and stroppy Hmm

we have a couple of these things www.jojomamanbebe.co.uk/sp+-sleep-snugglers-25-tog-in-baby-sleeping-bags+b7186 which seem to be approved of as she can still wave her legs about. sleeping bags were not popular.

HearMyRoar · 30/07/2013 18:31

well that link didn't work at all try again http://www.jojomamanbebe.co.uk/sp+-sleep-snugglers-25-tog-in-baby-sleeping-bags+b7186

HearMyRoar · 30/07/2013 18:33

I give up on that stupid ap. Think I'll stick with the mobile version much better. 3rd time lucky www.jojomamanbebe.co.uk/sp+-sleep-snugglers-25-tog-in-baby-sleeping-bags+b7186

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