High Needs Baby Support Group (thread IV)

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Yoohooo! Over here!

The last thread was filling up so I've started us a sparkling new one.

The original thread was to support those of us with babies fitting the following criteria:

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

Some of our babies have grown out of some of those now, but we're still here to support each other through the sleepless nights and noisy car journeys and to offer hugs, chocolate and wine to anyone who's struggling.

So if that list sounds familiar then come and join us as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

Glad she had fun Joyful :)

Sooo. I've just come back from a check-up at the dentist. Fair enough, it's been a while. But there's a reason they get you to lay down in there... :(

DH and DS came along though, and after a bit of persuasion, the dentist let them come in to watch as I don't want DS as terrified as dentists as I was/am, and it also meant I had to be brave as DS was there with me :) I thought that would be a fairly normal request... but it seems not...

It was fine - mainly because it was only a check up... The evil that is injections/fillings/etc begins on Monday... :( Still don't like that pointy metal thing they poke you teeth with.

To be honest, most of mine, bar the fillings, is for cosmetic reasons, which my maternity exemption wouldn't have covered. Miffed that I left it too late anyway, but I really don't like going at all :(

Evening all- just popping in quickly to say hi.

Not had chance to catch up properly as busy at work but hope to on when have day off.

I hate dentist too. Had to have inlay back in May just before mat exemption ran out. Actually wasn't too bad. I think pregnancy screws your teeth up- or maybe it was just me...

Joyful I havent seen that thread. But You are such a strong, kind, funny, caring person. Don't let anonymous fuckers on a message board make you feel anything other than the above. There are some horrible bastards on MN at the moment who don't realise the hurt their words can cause. Ignore, ignore, ignore.

Your DH and beautiful babies love you, as do all of your friends, both RL and online.

Speak to your GP lady. See if there's anything they can suggest. For both your sadness and your back. You shouldn't have to be in so much pain. And be kinder to yourself. You work so hard for your little ones, who obviously adore you. Anyone would be struggling with the things you are going through at the moment. If I can do anything, please let me know.

I wish I could come and give you a hug and a hair stroke.

Joyful, for the short time I've been posting on this thread [I haven't gone back and read any posts from before I joined], you have been caring and supportive. Like all the ladies on this thread. So be kind to yourself and try not to dwell on comments made by people who don't count/matter to you.

Following a good day [for DD ... good naps; for DS ... getting out and about instead of being holed up at home; for me ... retail therapy] yesterday spent out shopping. We have had another day of inconsolable crying today [DD and maybe also me a little bit]. We were out with a new friend and people were staring as no matter what I did I could not settle my baby. DH has now managed to get her to sleep in her cot and my parenting confidence levels are at an all-time low. I have purchased a Fisher Price Cruise and Soothe from Amazon to see if that helps. So far three slings, one vibrating bouncer three soothers and one US Fisher Price Cradle n Swing have failed. My house is stuffed full of these gadgets ...

With DS, he went through this inconsolable crying period, then weaning was a nightmare, then came the terrible two's ... I really hope that DD is not the same.

Joyful...big hugs to you. Sorry to hear that you're struggling, please feel free to let it out here. In the short time I've been posting on this thread you have indeed come across as so kind, thoughtful and supportive. And such a brilliant mum. You're doing wonderfully in a very challenging and stressful situation. Don't for a moment think that your babies would be better off without you - your are their mummy and no one on earth can love them the way that you do. Being in pain makes everything so much harder. I hope that you can get some relief.

Oops, DD just woken from her 20 minute catnap so got to go - take care Joyful.