High Needs Baby Support Group (thread IV)

[ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged]

Yoohooo! Over here!



The last thread was filling up so I've started us a sparkling new one.

The original thread was to support those of us with babies fitting the following criteria:

1. Feeds frequently daytime
   
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
   
3. Needs to be constantly held
   
4. Wont sleep alone
   
5. Hates the car seat/pram
   
6. Short naps
   

Some of our babies have grown out of some of those now, but we're still here to support each other through the sleepless nights and noisy car journeys and to offer hugs, chocolate and wine to anyone who's struggling.

So if that list sounds familiar then come and join us as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

[daisylulu]

Sorry to hear that lychee I too second cranial osteopathy. DD had a traumatic delivery. We had a couple of amazing sleeps for a few days and less crying when she was about 3 months old. However I did take her back when she was 9 months old for teething issues and it did jack shite. So I think it depends on age and issues.

[LittleWaveyLines]

Phew! DD finally asleep! And I'm knackered....

Well this teachery type has brain overload - I just cannot take in all the information that gets thrown at you on the first day back INSET while worrying if DD is OK at the childminder - then it turns out I hadn't read an email (or accidently deleted it) from last term, which made me look a bit stupid, and all the while I was thinking that poor DD was separated from me and I that I have her in childcare for too many hours, and that I should hand in my notice as soon as possible....

[LittleWaveyLines]

2 days a week she will be with a childminder for about 5.5 hours, one day a week she will be with the childminder for about 7 hours, and one day a week she will be with her grandparents for about 6 hours - so a total of 24 hours in a week.... and I know I started a thread about this is AIBU but I'm really not happy leaving her :(

The childminder said she was happy today but when I picked her up I could tell she was stressed - not crying/upset but stressed :(

[tickleme63]

Well done on your walking BabyTruth! :)

LWL Lots of hugs lady.

In fact, for all!

Lychees - we also took DS to cranial osteopathy. I can't say we had any huge changes as a result, but it felt sort of nice to satisfy ourselves that his birth hadn't caused any stresses/discomfort. It is a bit woo (Raspberry - that's my new favourite phrase!) but maybe worth a shot?

So DS slept from 7.30pm to 7.30am... We heard him mumbling a couple of times, but he quickly went back to sleep. Had boobs of steel this morning...! It's divine while it lasts...

Hope you all have a fab day!

[tickleme63]

The sleep, I mean, rather than the boobs of steel!

[LittleWaveyLines]

Wow! Babytickle
LittleWavey did 9.30pm to 4.30am so also not bad going :)

Down side was that I had to peel her off me crying to give to the childminder this morning. The CM said she calmed down within minutes, and sent me a text to say she was now smiling very quickly - but I'm still not happy about it. DD was VERY glad to see me this pm :(

I'm sorry I'm being pathetic about this, but all my instincts are yelling at me not to leave her....

[LittleWaveyLines]

Puddle - Glad your DS is doing better :)

Raspberyysorbet :( - sounds just like DD used to be (note the USED TO)

[LittleWaveyLines]

Oh Puddle, I really feel for you. We had the same problem with DD - even transferring her to the fucking expensive cosleeper cot woke her up - so I'm sorry I have no helpful suggestions, just commiserations :(

DD is still wide awake as usual - there is absolutely NO WAY I am able to do any planning or marking in the evening unless she suddenly decides that DP is acceptable in the evening - and he actually steps up and does some evening parenting. Although TBF tonight he has been trying to fix the car - there is always something though....

It's not the childminder - although I'm not 100% happy with her - it's mainly just that I'm leaving DD... and if I want to quit I can't leave anyway until Christmas (general teaching contract rules). I'm not sure if I would feel the same about a nanny mamybe?

[LittleWaveyLines]

Oh and the things that I'm not happy about with the childminder are being bloody picky anyway - things like she is very mainstream with plastic toys/some TV (limited though)/says "No" - while I'm a bit more "woo" with my parenting and tend to do a hippy "validating feelings" type of discipline, and carry her a lot. Basically she's just not me or my clone . She's pretty nice, her kids are nice, and she seems to care which is the main thing.

[LittleWaveyLines]

Fab going BabyRaspberry :)

Yeah I suppose you are right, but I will scream if someone else (well-meaning) tells me that it is for the best /good for us to be separated as SHE IS TOO WELL ATTACHED ,,, grrrr.

[ticklemyboobsofsteel]

I aim to please

Joyful Sorry lady :( I hope he drifts off soon so you can have a nice cuppa and a chill out. Sending hugs.

LWL Gah, I hate when people say that too! Really grates my cheese (to put it politely). DH currently looks after DS and I work mainly from home, but DH wants to get back to work at some point soon and we'll have the same dilemma. We won't go the nursery route again though, that's for sure. Would love to be able to afford a nanny. DH and DF keep on about hiring a live-in Swedish au pair to wind me up

Babyraspberry Good lad! :)

Hope you all have good nights.