High-Need Baby Support Thread III

[TitaniaP]

Well as I'm awake I thought I'd start thread 3!

The high-need baby thread has been moved from breast & bottle feeding to sleep. In the early days of the thread I think feeding was a significant issue for many of the posters. I think those that post regularly on the thread would now agree that's it's mainly sleep that's the issue.

So if your baby fits the following criteria come and join us for wine, chocolate, coffee and matchsticks as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

Hello. I've been in denial about my place on this thread but after 6 months I think actually this is my new spiritual home, so can I join please? . It's clearly not colic / growth spurt / teeth / etc - it's just how she is.

I have 3 year old DTs who were a walk in the park as babies compared to 6m DD. dealing with them after a rubbish night & clingy day is less easy however! She is completely gorgeous but man, I'm tired.

We are driving back to London tonight after shall term 'holiday' (hahahahaha) and I just hope they all sleep at least for the journey..

Anyway. Hello. Zzzz.

And those of you with older high needs babies, when did they start sleeping through?!

Thank you! And oh goodness really?! I thought my mum was joking when she said DB was 16 months before it happened..

Arg.

Oh and what are you planning to do in London? Let me know if you want any toddler plus baby-friendly tips etc.

Welcome Untamed :)

Glad you had fun at your shoot Joyful bet you all look stunning :)

DS is on the mend, thankfully. He's been a joy this afternoon, so funny. And the blisters on his hands and feet are drying right out and fading so fingers crossed it's on the wane!

DH and I are okay. We have a really great friendship underlying our marriage, which helps I think. Our intimate life leaves a great deal to be desired - nothing really, save one or two bits here and there - since DS was born. I'm just always tired and never in the mood. But we are going to work on it now we're in our own room as I know DH misses that side of our relationship very much.

Mampig Hope your little lady had a lovely birthday!

Meeeeeeeeee! :)

Oh Joyful Just spotted your picture! Its stunning, you look amazing and your family look so cute! Naww I want to invite you all over for tea and cakes! :)

Ah but trees are such a delicacy :)

Hmm. I want cake now. I have none. This makes me a miffed tickle...

Hi all, joyful - just seen your pic... You all look so happy. What a really lovely family. I second the tea & cakes invite!

Tickle- so glad your little one is on the mend.

Re. Intimacy in relationship we too have little going on in that department. I just can't understand where people find the time (well unless your baby actually sleeps at night!)

can anyone shed any light on this situation...

I am limiting dd's daytime sleep to 3hrs as she was sleeping so much in the day that she was starting to confuse day and night. Anyway come 2am she always just seems wide awake. It takes an hour to get her to sleep again. So after I had got her back last night she did another 1/2hr in cot then woke again. Cue another 1/2hrs rocking etc then I put her in bed with me - not just next to me, she had to be sort of on me! And she is still asleep now at 6.50 which is unheard of!

Any thoughts on the craziness in the night?

Sorry if I've not caught up properly on thread, I see we have a new member to welcome- will read through later.

Hope all had good nights and have lovely Sundays. Ooh just remembered tickle did your little one sleep in his own room? How did it go?

He did, Zambo, he went down at about 7.30 (his latest bedtime in months - we're trying to see if we can make him wake up a little later in the mornings - and slept till 10pm, BF and then slept till 2.30am, BF and then slept till 4.30am, BF and then he slept till 5.10am. No resettling needed, which was a huge improvement on the last few nights. Probably coincidence though.

Was so funny getting him to sleep up there though. Everythings been moved around and he was just craning his neck to look at everything instead of getting sleepy. In the end we just let him crawl about in there for a bit exploring, hence the later bedtime :)

I wish I could help shed light on crazy night time stuff, but DS seems to be king of the crazy night times and I never really know what's going on with him!

Hope you're all having a nice sunny morning!

Joyful!!! Worst nightmare! Depends on how good the friend is and if u can trust her??? Do what your gut tells u

That's a good suggestion, try not to worry or over analyse too much, draw a line under it and forget it. Name-change if it's really personal and you could maybe have a code word somewhere in the post if u wanted people to recognise who you are (on here).

Erm, it was strange. Very quiet. Missed listening to him breathe. Really sad that he'll probably never share a room with us again and about how fast he's growing up :( But it was lovely too that we could sleep in our bed and turn over etc without worrying about a creak waking DS up!

Think your DH is right lady, but I know what you mean about having to really think about what you write and watching what you say in case someone is watching. I think my step mother in law posts here, or at least reads the boards, but I doubt she'd realise I'm 'me' anyway!

Weekends always go by too fast :( Wishing you a safe trip tomorrow Joyful :)

Birthday went great thanks! Was a busy (and expensive!) day, but she had a great time. I always feel like, because she is dc2 of 4, she gets lost sometimes, - dreading the Middle Child Syndrome!! Because it's inevitable no matter how hard I try for it not to be , but such is life....

Vucuccdjc

Ooopps!!

Tickle, I have no doubt that bubs will be back in your bed sooner rather than later, I always tend to take them back in if they waken for whatever reason during the night! Ds is in his own room, in his cot and has never spent a full night there

I can't do this much longer. I'm on my knees. DH is snoring away as he's up in 3 hours to go back to London which means that I'm left holding the baby now and all week.

He's slept shockingly the last few nights. His eczema's flared up again but I can't give him piriton as he's got his apple challenge on Wednesday and you're not allowed to give antihistamines beforehand.

Even co sleeping's not working. I'm so bloody knackered. It's moments like these that if I could I'd probably rethink the decision to have him. And then I feel awfully guilty and beat myself up about that too. Because I love him and wouldn't really change things. Much.