High-Need Baby Support Thread III

[TitaniaP]

Well as I'm awake I thought I'd start thread 3!

The high-need baby thread has been moved from breast & bottle feeding to sleep. In the early days of the thread I think feeding was a significant issue for many of the posters. I think those that post regularly on the thread would now agree that's it's mainly sleep that's the issue.

So if your baby fits the following criteria come and join us for wine, chocolate, coffee and matchsticks as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

Ta. We've put that other thread into the list of actives on the right (don't know 'official' term for it)

If you've got any Ben and Jerry's that'd slip down nicely!

Fnar. Me too. And her !!!s.

And he's awake. Night night.

Only got tesco stuff - but it's good! Lemon cheesecake flavour... think I'm addicted!

Oooh actives list eh?

!!!!!!

Always reminds me of Terry Pratchetts Masquerade - too many exclamations is the clear sign of a deranged mind.... or whatever it was the actual quote is

I have just discovered this, I too am mummy to a high maintenance bubba!

DS2 is almost 9 months. Currently he screams the second he is put down. Sometimes I might be permitted to put him down but if I leave his eyeline...jeez. Today he has done little more than cry and eat. He will be up at least twice for boob tonight & will spend a large part of the night in our bed. I'm currently nursing an extraordinarily painful crack on my right nipple cause he's on/off so regularly. Has to be held to sleep & his naps total 40 mins all day. Today miracle of miracles I fed him to sleep at 12, put him in his cot & he napped for almost an hour. He cries virtually the entire time we are in the house, but when other people are around or when we go out he's perfect angel child so none believes me when I say he's hard work

DS1 still is was also a bit diva-risqué, but was a doddle compared to DS2. It's a damn good job he's ridiculously cute!

Welcome!

Right, really must sleep....

Welcome Bella. Tis a lovely exclusive club we have here. We don't allow just anyone in you know - only those who won't tell us it's all a matter of self settling and routine

Good luck joyful - fwiw my sil just went dairy free with her two, but used soya from 4m with the first and 4w with the second. And let me help you - the thread is titled something along the lines of 'please help with bed time - we're so fed up' and it's in chat. It's all down to routine apparently. You're not helping by holding him while he sleeps - you need to teach him to self settle for his own good, you know?

LWL anyway, GirlieFriend has her uses. I threatened ds last night that if he didn't sleep he would be sent to her (when I'd tracked her down) - for his own good. He slept beautifully from 11 til 5.30

So there you are girls - threaten the bogeyman/woman and all is well

Joyful - try Oatly oat milk if you want to avoid soya. They do a chocolate version too. Also hobnobs (plain ones) have no dairy in them.

Joyful - I went dairy free from about 3 months with my DD, just cut out the obvious stuff and then limited things with whey in - ie just one choccie hobnob per day.... and I used soya milk - saw a difference within a week, not 4!

Oh and at about 7 months I was able to go back on dairy fine (tried at 6 months but she had bad reactions each time), and she can now eat limited dairy - too much and she has a bad reaction....

She threw up LOADS but not always straight after a feed but it would always be a large amount. She had a very sore shiny red bottom. She fed lots and lots - but that could have been the undiagnosed tongue tie

When I had dairy she would throw up loads the next day and get a sore bottom within hours...

No rashes, but every time I caved in and ate cheese we would see a definite reaction next day /within hours, so I was pretty sure!

Oh yes, I forgot the green poo - lots of that

Different babies have different symptoms though

Just read the chat thread. Ha bloody ha!

LWL - interesting to read that you are in email contact with Elizabeth Pantley. Has she made any decent suggestions? Now I can get DS to start the night in his cot, I might have another look. I might add though - DS starting the night in his cot is just because he wants to. Nothing I've done really.

Yeah I emailed the website in desperation, expecting to be ignored/automated reply or at best some minion telling me to buy the book - but got a personal reply!

She has LOADS of ideas.... but none I've tried seem to work... currently working on getting DD attached to a "lovey" so she can cuddle that at night... DD is not fooled -she wants me/my breasts and that alone will do!

DS is not fooled by a lovey either. I started putting it between us when he was feeding to get him used to it. He grabs it and throws it on the floor! If you find anything that works I'd be really interested!

DS's sleep is so bad at the mo I don't even want to write about it! However we had friends over on Saturday eve and DS just wouldn't go to sleep. Just wanted to play. Friends were saying oh you just need to leave him to cry. You have to do it, as if it's some part of parenting that you have to go through.

It's funny I sat there and took, oh you need to leave him to cry, you're making a rod for your own back. Are you still feeding him at night? Oh that's a bad habit. None of this was said in a nasty way all just a desire to help. However I never said well I think leaving him to cry is cruel. I just said I wouldn't do it because I couldn't bear to hear him cry. Why don't i feel able to defend my decisions properly?

Because it's not "mainstream" to respond to your baby's needs. And I hate that!

I'm now on the Natural mamas website, which is much more supporting of cosleeping, attachment parenting etc - and slings!

I think babies get in the way of modern lifestyles... while lifestyles should really fit around babies.... saying that - I would love to regularly get 3 or 4 hours sleep in a row! I actually don't want to stop feeding at night - I love our night snuggles and hate to think of her sleeping all alone - how unnatural! But more sleep would be good

LWL. We have got to a point now where DH and I start the night in the same bed and when DS wakes for the first time I go in and sleep in his room (double mattress on the floor). This was working quite well up until a couple of weeks ago when he decided that either he doesn't want to go to sleep at all and he just want to
play until 10-11pm. Or if he does go to sleep easily after about 3 hours he will want to wake every 1hr-45 mins. I'm sure it'll pass and the day he no longer wants to be in my bed I'll miss him. DH isn't a cuddly person and I'll miss my nighttime cuddles.

Am also on NM but don't really post. I do waste lots of time on the FB slings & things FSOT page though.