High-Need Baby Support Thread III

[TitaniaP]

Well as I'm awake I thought I'd start thread 3!

The high-need baby thread has been moved from breast & bottle feeding to sleep. In the early days of the thread I think feeding was a significant issue for many of the posters. I think those that post regularly on the thread would now agree that's it's mainly sleep that's the issue.

So if your baby fits the following criteria come and join us for wine, chocolate, coffee and matchsticks as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

Puddle- I think that's quite on the high side for this sort of thing though. The demand is great in my area, so price has gone up. Plus, there's not much competition. Dh has said no, but I've booked it anyway, its a few weeks away yet, so still time to work on him.

Fwiw I think you should notice a difference straight away- think heartburn and gaviscon- it works more or less immediately- its why I drank so many bottles of the stuff when pg

Puddle - watch out for constipation with the infant gaviscon. It turned DS' poo to playdoh!

Not sure if you've had a look at the milk matters website but it might be worth a look. The woman who runs it will chat to you on the phone at no charge and might be able to make some suggestions.

Aw ladies! I need some sympathy and strong painkillers!! Going into my third day of painful stuff neck. I slept funny the other night (ds beside me of course), and I can hardly move my head. It's our 9th wedding anniversary today, going out for dinner later, and I'm in agony! And looking after ds is so hard! Miserable... Any words of wisdom??? apart from drink

stiff neck....

Oh Mampig Sorry you're so sore! Happy 9th wedding anniversary, I hope you have a lovely evening!

Been up all night with a poorly DS. His first fever :( We think it's to do with his most recent tooth cutting - does anyone know if it's more painful than normal teething when a new tooth is cutting between 2 that are already out?

reading and thinking of you all.... wish i had solutions and could make things easier for us all....nothing i can say can help but just want to give support and hugs and let u know im thinking of each of u, keep thinking this time will pass....
happy wedding anniversary Mampig i hope you manage to enjoy being out for awhile

Puddle - is that your FB Analytical armadillo post? If not - you need to look at it as it's the same symptom list!

Puddle- not to worry!! Be too much like hard work to out you lol!! I love that we are anon, makes for easy truthfulness etc!

I've taken some brufen ( haven't checked if bf compatible but was desperate!). Dh and I went for meal, checked in with sitter, and ds hadn't woken, but here I am back home again!!! . I actually had a cocktail when out (it's been 18 months since we've been out together in our own!), and I'm feeling it. But in great form!!! Hope u are all sleeping peacefully!!!!

puddle i wouldn't worry, noone will have reason to find out anything :) how is your ds now and are you anymore rested at all?

Mampig glad you had a nice time and had a cocktail thats the way to do it :) :)

dd and me were up a good bit of last night and it was a miracle she went back to sleep awhile ago - i think my bed was warmer so i put another blanket over her in her cot and kept patting her when she was starting to give off and she just went over again. im so tired... and have an interview to prepare for tomorrow so am thinking of asking for dh to help with tomorrow night,..not sure how that is going to go down.

Ask to have your "yes" post deleted, we wont say anything - in fact that post is already lost way back in my newsfeed. AA FB's page moves so fast it will be pages back.... don't worry :)

Oh and AA is FAB! In fact I would give her a ring if I were you - she is Milkmatters...

RANT ALERT:

DP is feeling ill- so he's not yet up.... when I'm ill I don't get to lie in bed!

AND why the Fuck can't he clear her highchair up straight away on the infrequent occasions he has her for breakfast.... so if I get a lie in (until 8am) he either doesnt give her breakfast, or doesn't clear up... so either way I come downstairs to stuff to do.

And he wonders why he's not getting any at the moment!

LWL i will join in the rant i just had a massive argument with dh he came up with a list of questions, and excuses about why he couldn't do any night feed (im talking about him doing one feed once a week) and then when i was really upset he said he was just 'exploring' better ways to manage it. yeah right. getting very very fed up with dh seriously. lack of sleep doesn't help.

That's just rubbish jan!

Oh and further to my rant - because today I am feeling THE RAGE (wonders if my period is returning?) I left DD with DP to go do the shopping....

She refused to nap for him. I had a phone call to come back while I was at the checkout - I'd only been gone 30mins, but I have only left her about 4 times for an hour since she was born - she's now 10 months...

... but if she wont nap for DP, what the hell is going to happen next month when she starts at the childminders? Can I quit work this late?

Hi all, been a while!

LWL I'm wondering the same about naps...DS still feeds to sleep unless in the car or pushchair. He starts at a Childminder in June and I'm really really worried about napping! I haven't even tried to get DP to do it, probably to avoid the argument ...

Childminder will be fine!! She will find a method herself, no problem! My cm can actually pop ds in his cot awake, and he goes straight to sleep for her. Never does this for me!!! It'll work itself out.

Feeling so good today after our night out! Really helped us as a couple and we had a great laugh together- first time in a while!!!
Highly recommended ladies

When I was a CM I had no issues (ever) getting the kids to do what I wanted. Angels for me, demons for their poor parents! She'll be fine. As will your DS Jeewhizz

Am also having a 'rage against DH' week day. I confessed yesterday am how I sometimes feel really beseiged physically and mentally, like everyone wants a piece of me all the time and I always am needed for something. Also how I feel I can't even cuddle him because he assumes that's a lead up to sex. So he took the piss all day, deliberately making lots of 'accidental' body contact and acting like a teenager on heat. Funny. For about 3 mins. But then not, but it wasn't him being childish. Oh no - it was my fault for being grumpy

Can't sort sleeping with ds either. The others are still a bit all over the place so maybe I can put some of it down to the 2 hour (but seriously?) time difference?

And am devastated. DS's eczema and asthma cleared up within hours of landing in Nairobi, as did mine. Now, oh yes, we're covered again. Bloody UK.

And 14yo DD spent Saturday pm at her 16yo boyfriend's house so am having kittens about her sleeping with him and being a grandma in my 30s [slightly over active worrywart emoticon].

And as for being outed... never. What happens on MN stays on MN. Or it better anyway!

Thanks button that's very reassuring!

Can totally relate to the DP/H cuddling leading to sex thing! Very childish response from your DH when you brought it up, as if his reaction would make it any better!!

Bit off topic - but have just texted DP (downstairs) to bring me ice cream - and he did!

What else shall I order on room service?

,trapped by DD - not just lazy.....

Can he bring me some too? DH in London so pretty useless.

I'll get right on it!

I should go to sleep really... but had too long an afternoon nap with DD - and I napped with her in the morning... I swear mothers of some newborns get more sleep than I do though...