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High-Need Baby Support Thread III

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TitaniaP · 01/04/2012 06:32

Well as I'm awake I thought I'd start thread 3!

The high-need baby thread has been moved from breast & bottle feeding to sleep. In the early days of the thread I think feeding was a significant issue for many of the posters. I think those that post regularly on the thread would now agree that's it's mainly sleep that's the issue.

So if your baby fits the following criteria come and join us for wine, chocolate, coffee and matchsticks as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

  1. Feeds frequently daytime
  2. Feeds frequently nighttime
  3. Needs to be constantly held
  4. Wont sleep alone
  5. Hates the car seat/pram
  6. Short naps
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PeggyCarter · 18/04/2012 06:05

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jan2011 · 18/04/2012 06:50

hey puddle! im glad things are improving for ds he sounds so comfy all snuggled up i love it when they are like that!

aww ur little DD in her new bed how cute. and doing so well to stay dry :) im sure it seemed like yesterday she was a teeny bundle!

yes the nails r driving me mental after they r off i can't imagine me doing it again!

PeggyCarter · 18/04/2012 09:23

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jan2011 · 18/04/2012 09:51

ooh...try to think of something completely different when you are in the dentist.... like lying on a beach somewhere really hot....and listning to the ocean and your ds and dd doing funny things...let your imagnation run wild and you will get through it

Mampig · 18/04/2012 20:27

Puddle- google EFT tapping. It's brilliant for dealing with fear! Can't link from phone, but it sounds weird, but it works! The psychologist I work with uses it all the time, and you can do it on yourself!!Grin

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QueenKong · 19/04/2012 11:48

Envy at hot choc/peppermint combo. Glad you survived Puddle!

Just had DS's 9-12 month check up. I lied about his sleeping. Didn't tell them about co-sleeping and said he wakes up once for milk. Still got a huge lecture about night weaning him, if only she knew the truth!

TitaniaP · 19/04/2012 14:24

Queen I told my HV not to ask about DS's sleeping. So she didn't! I said I was find with it and she said to come back at the point it was too much. Not sure what she'll suggest! He managed until nearly 2am before his first feeding last night. He woke up because he headbutted the top of the cot (again).

As still not feeling 100%. Another boring day for DS. Poor DS!

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buttonmoon78 · 19/04/2012 14:47

I'm back. Not read anything yet (15+pages you busy people!) but I promise I will once I've had a few mins to breathe. Just wanted to mark my place as it took me a long time to find this new thread Smile

TitaniaP · 19/04/2012 15:12

Sorry button we didn't mean to find a new home in your absence. Tell us all about Kenya!

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tickleme63 · 19/04/2012 15:47

Hope you're all having a good day ladies. Been a few days since I've posted here

DS's nursery settling in went really well. We stayed with him the first hour, then the next day he went in for an hour on his own, and then the third day he was on his own for 2.5 hours. The staff said it was a really positive settling in, which was great to hear. He's on his first week of mornings at the nursery now (doing three mornings a week - more on this later!) and he's doing so well. The staff said the only times he's cried is when they changed his nappy the first few times (he seems okay with it now) and when he's tired. He's eating his solids well (they're spoon feeding mostly I think, we're doing a mix of spooning and finger feeding at home) but not taking much milk from his bottle yet. He's also struggling to nap properly, poor thing, but hoping this improves in time. The first day he managed half an hour, yesterday he only had 20 minutes (self-settled - but had been awake since 5am so by the time he got home and napped at 1.40pm he'd only had 20 minutes of sleep! :( Although he did have a 2.5-hour nap at home - unheard of - and then our best night's sleep for a while). Hoping it's a bit better today. He even gave us a lie in (6.30am!).

So proud of him. He's had a horrible cold for the last week as well, ever since his settling in, which resulted in some horrific nights. One night, when we stayed over my mums with him, we ended up holding him the whole night as he was so bunged up. He's over the worst now though, just sounding all hoarse, bless him. Expecting more of the same soon though, what with nursery and all.

So, the reason why he's only in 3 mornings a week instead of full time is because DH and I had a big conversation about things, and we both decided we couldn't bear the idea of DS being in nursery 8-6 five days a week. We realised that, essentially, his key worker would see more of him than we do, which would feel awful for us. As some of you know, we're currently living at my dad's while we save for a house deposit. Well, that was the plan. We decided that there's always time to save money, but that DS's baby/infant years are only here once, then they're gone. And so, because of my awesome flexible working arrangement that lets me work from home 90 per cent of the time, DH has given his notice in to be a stay-at-home dad for the next year or so. I'm so happy that DS will have us around more. I hope it's a decision that won't come around and bite us on the arse. I do want to be a home owner one day. But I won't ever regret us making the decision to put that on hold while we nuture our little one.

Yikes, long post, sorry. Hope you had a fab holiday Button, and that all of you lovely ladies are keeping well.

tickleme63 · 19/04/2012 16:06

Ugh, meant to say that I realise how lucky we are to have the option of one of us being at home. Living on one income will be tight, what with nursery fees as well as everything else, but I know we're lucky to not have to worry about rent or a mortgage at the moment...

TitaniaP · 19/04/2012 16:25

Aw tickle - that's amazing to be in a position to do that. So glad your DS has settled in well too. I'm not looking forward to that bit at all!

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QueenKong · 19/04/2012 16:33

Congrats tickle! You won't regret it - plenty of people don't own their own homes these days, it's more normal not to I think. We have a mortgage but won't own our home for about 30 years! And you've got to do what you feel comfortable with. Bet DS will love having his daddy and granddaddy around lots, lucky little boy!

We are doing something similar. Living on breadcrumbs til January when I really will need to go back to work. But am looking to do just 1 or 2 days, tbc. DH will work 4 days in 5 so will get a day 'off' (ha!) a week to look after DS. If I have to do 2 days then we're looking at childminders for the 1 day. My career will be screwed but as we are thinking about number 2 soon (yes I know what I said!) it'll be screwed anyway!

buttonmoon78 · 19/04/2012 17:23

Still not read to catch up... Blush

Kenya was amazing. DH showed us all his old haunts. It was incredible what he remembered from when they first arrived - he was only 5! We saw loads of game - black & white rhino, giraffe and zebra by the dozen, 4 lions, loads of impala and gazelle etc. I can see now why he's always been so sniffy about safari parks and zoos!

The work at the schools and orphanages was great too. One of the schools was for kids who are disabled and who otherwise would be left to rot in many cases. They were awesome. There was one little guy called Walter who had no joints in his arms from the elbows down so couldn't use his hands at all but could colour neater than an able bodied child of the same age using his feet. Everything he did was such an effort but he wanted to do it all anyway.

All the dcs had a funny tummy (as you'd expect) for a day or two (or more in the case of dd1 who was really ill for 3 days) except for ds2 who was in rude health throughout! Dealing with bottles etc wasn't fun (made me remember why I'd been so keen to bf this time as it'd have been sooo much easier) but we managed, even with no electricity or running water.

The flight was interesting yesterday as ds was very unsettled for the last leg from Amsterdam but the flight attendant was lovely and he was really helpful without making me feel like I was stopping a plane load of businessmen from relaxing which we were Grin

Unfortunately, ds's sleep has been all over the place so I feel like all the steps forward we've made have turned into great backslidings but hey ho. You can't win 'em all!

I will catch up I promise. Tonight if I can!

jan2011 · 19/04/2012 21:05

welcome bk button...ur venture sounds amazing!

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LittleWaveyLines · 20/04/2012 07:47

Puddle - really sounds like cows milk protein intolerance to me..... or some other food intolerance.

Button - welcome back!

Right well the projectile vomitting has passed, and we are now in the diarrhoea stage - lovely! I am so so tired, she's sleeping so restlessly.

I'm getting severley fed up of being confined as well - we had 2 weeks of staying in due to chicken pox (she kept getting more blisters), and now this stomach bug since Tuesday - we've only had Monday out in the past 3 weeks! I really wanted to go swimming with her today as well :(

Whinge over.

Hope everyone has a good day! :)

PeggyCarter · 20/04/2012 08:08

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TitaniaP · 20/04/2012 08:24

Puddle - I thought DS had reflux down to CMPI, turns out he had tongue tie which can cause refluxy symptoms. Anyway I went down the CMPI route (I'd have tried anything in the early days) and it can take a couple of weeks for all the cows milk protein to leave your system (as it passes through your milk). Also as I found when going back & forward to discover the cause of DS' slow weight gain. They can't test for CMPI at this young age (or at least my Pead wouldn't) but they did test him for lactose intolerance which is fairly pointless as bm has lactose in it and he'd be really ill with that.

How old is your DS I can't remember?

Have you ruled out TT? It can play havoc with their digestion too. Have a look at the milk matters website. There's loads of info on there.

I hope you get to the bottom of it. It's horrid not knowing what's wrong.

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jan2011 · 20/04/2012 08:39

puddle..so sorry what you and ds are going through. the others have made good suggestions... my dd had similar symptoms and got treated for reflux which helped to some extent, but i also cut out diary in my diet and this really helped too, i switched to soy. now she is is fine and only flares up now and again. i wouldn't rule out the reflux completely. i hope you get to the bottom of it, and i am so sorry you are so tired and hope you find a way to get some rest soon
LWL i hope your dd is on the mend and you get out and about soon too - nothing worse than cabin fever!

hugs to all
my dd is doing ok at the min - worse problem for me is sleep and dh!

PeggyCarter · 20/04/2012 08:43

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Mampig · 20/04/2012 16:22

Puddle, maybe try it for 2 weeks? It all sounds awful!!!
Have u considered seeing a paed privately?? I don't think u need gp referral for that, I know though that it's costly/ I'm taking dc1 cos of allergies, and the initial consult is £190!!, but goes to nhs after that. We can ill afford it, but I'll find it somewhere, as I'm sick of getting fobbed off. They are easy to find if you google your area. I work in nhs, and have issues with going private myself, but I would for my children x

PeggyCarter · 20/04/2012 16:44

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