High-Need Baby Support Thread III

[TitaniaP]

Well as I'm awake I thought I'd start thread 3!

The high-need baby thread has been moved from breast & bottle feeding to sleep. In the early days of the thread I think feeding was a significant issue for many of the posters. I think those that post regularly on the thread would now agree that's it's mainly sleep that's the issue.

So if your baby fits the following criteria come and join us for wine, chocolate, coffee and matchsticks as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

Pah! It's your wedding day - if ever there were a day to go for a stunning dress, this is it. I bet you'll look amazing. And don't underestimate the power of decent make up and hair. I felt like a fool in all of my fittings - just not like me, and that I must have chosen the wrong dress. But, on the day, with my hair and make up done, it was perfect and I felt amazing. It's the right dress, trust me!

Awwww, thank you.

I managed to hold off the 'buy it now' button for the second dress, but am genuinely tempted to buy a slightly safer option too. Neither would arrive until June, which will probably be too late to order another one, so I figure having two coming will allow me to choose whichever one looks/fits best and then flog the other back on eBay. Even if I do that, it'll still be around £500 cheaper than the ones I saw in the shops here.

DP is out on a rare lads' night and DS has been asleep for four and a half hours (almost fell off my chair when I just worked that out!) He'll never beleive me when he gets in.

Right, I'm off to bed with a copy of the Hunger Games. I have tissues ready.

Totally love the dress!!! But for peace of mind, go ahead and order the other one, it's pennies really

But the one u ordered is absolutely stunning!! Just love it!!!

Ps, on the mega sleep!!

Oooh pretty dress Truth. You need to post pics of you in it!

Jan - how are you feeling?

Puddle - what a week you've had. You must be beyond exhausted. I know how i felt when DS was ill and I only had one to contend with. Hope your LOs feel better soon.

So DS has been delightful the last two days. Happy, smiley and cheerful. But his sleep is worse than ever. Last night it took me until 9.30 to get him down, the night before it was gone 8.30. We had a really good bedtime routine going too. I would mind but he was up at 6.30 yesterday and 6 this morning. I know that won't sound early to the rest of you, but the one saving grace has always been that he didn't wake for the day until 7-7.30z

I'm lying in bed watching him pull stuff off his bookshelves. His head is buried in the shelf and just his little bottom is sticking out. Very cute. He's also worked out how to crawl off the mattress onto the floor ( the mattress is on the floor but there's a fair drop down). It's not an elegant dismount but impressive all the same.

I'm even less convinced now that hunger has anything to do with his wakings as he's really ramped up his solid intake in the last week or so.

Am really tempted to go and deposit DS on DH and go back to sleep but I know if I do he'll be a grumpy arse all day. What to do what to do?

hey everyone

Truth, BEAUTIFUL dress! when i got married i tried on ones like that and they were about £1000! oh yes please send a pic of you in it! if most of them look nice on you in the shop it is bound to be lovely on!

sorry im not much good at catching up on the thread at the minute -reading in bits here and there - but thinking of you all.

im ok thank you Titania, i fell out with dh last night and he said he was just going to go out and then didn't so im not looking forward to him getting up today, i just wish we could get on better. theres no point moaning about everything though...just need to get on with it!

i've made the coffee this morning and have little cadbury crunchie ring thingies to go with it for breakfast...

Jan, we've also had a fall out. Ds was up at 5.30 today, just wouldn't go back to sleep. Dh complained all morning. And I mean- on and on and on.... I eventually got up with ds and came downstairs, ranting that I couldn't listen to him anymore!

Feck, I've had all sorts of thoughts about dh, can we go on etc??? He can be a bit relentless (his dad is the same, but much worse), but I can't live with someone who constantly moans!!! I have talked to him (loads of times), but... God can't believe I'm even writing this

Like u Jan, I just have to get on with things, and keep working on dh, I know he doesn't mean anything by the way he's going on, he knows nothing else, just praying he doesn't get any worse, as I do love him really.

Rant over, and breathe

Mampig dhs family are the same they just go on and on and on and on and.....oooooon! until you are forced to leave...

hugs

Jan, it can wear u down!
Really trying to remember all the good things about him to be honest, as I'm scaring myself with thoughts of leaving!! I know I won't, but that's what I mean about wearing u down!! That and sleep deprivation are a bad bad combination!!
Hugs to u too

I managed to get DS to go back to sleep for a bit, but I've now dumped him on DH as I feel rubbish. Sore throat and I think I might have a blocked duct (no flu symptoms tho so not mastitis). However DS is being very vocal so not much sleep is happening! DH didn't whinge at being asked to have DS but he didn't look too happy about it. I think we're all entitled to a DH whinge sometimes!!

Mampig - sorry to hear how your feeling. Can you get some sleep? I often entertain thoughts of leaving when I'm tired.

That dress is gorgeous truth! I bet you'll look amazing in it.

I think I'm lucky with my dp as he's been generally supportive but I think partly it's path of least resistance for him as I'm willing to do the night feeds/cosleep in the spare room so he gets proper sleep. He says he misses me at night but it's important I get some sleep now I'm back at work and it won't be like this forever.

DS has another cold and can't breathe through his nose. He had a temp of 38.4 last night as well and was generally miserable. I found a couple of blisters on the roof of his mouth, not sure what they are but they aren't getting any bigger and he doesn't have any anywhere else. It doesn't help that he's got another 2 teeth breaking through as well!

Spanner - could they be chicken pox blisters?

Hugs to those with DP/DH problems. Sleep deprivation doesn't help either!

Puddle - I think you are amazing to go away with HN babies/children! I can't manage a day at the sailing club at the minute!

Truth - that dress is stunning!

teething, not sleeping, clingy dd...patience running thin

Oh Jan. sorry to hear that. Have no words of wisdom to offer I'm afraid. Hope you and DD both feel better soon.

sorry im not much support to anyone at the minute - but u are all in thought.

quote - when you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on.

im hanging on! anyone else! lol

Dang teeth!! Same story here too!!
A tradition here is to let baby chew on a hard crust of a batch loaf- here its Nutty Crust ( which is delish). Never thought much of it until we were eating some and I gave it to ds to chew on. Within an hour his first tooth had cut through!!! And without much fuss. I also use the amber teething necklace
And again it seems to be helping. Not saying he's pain free, but he now only gets calpol at night, and we manage daytimes without medication. He did waken a few times last night, but wasn't the time for Nutty Crust!!

Hope tonight is better for us all x

Mmm Puddle- bet u want some now! Toasted with butter ...

Ok so DS had his worse night for a very long time and to top it all I feel like death warmed up. Upset stomach, stomach cramps and thumping head. DH has got a meeting 150 miles away that he can't get out of. MIL is close by but in her 80s and not too steady on her feet so she can't have DS. My mum is over 3hrs away. Really really don't know what to do. Can't ask any of my mum friends in case I have a bug. Don't want to spread it around. It looks like DS is going to have a cbeebies day. (sorry for the whining!)

My SIL came over in the end and chased round after DS while I lay on the sofa feeling sorry for myself. I feel much better now, but still feel rubbish.

MIL is not even able to bend down to pick DS up so although she would have rushed up here, I don't think she'd have been much help. I don't like to ask either as being around DS reminds her of what she can't do anymore.

Hope you're all having a much better day.

Puddle - how are your two now? Better I hope.

Jan - how's things?

Projectile vomiting baby :(

Hope it's just a 24hr (or less) bug - and that I don't get it!

hey good morning...im not too bad thank you how are all of u ?

LWL i hope you don't get it! and get well soon baby LWL.

Titania how are you today? im glad your SIL was able to come for awhile to help.

Puddle i hope ds more settled now its awful when theyre so upset and theres not much u can do

i can't type much at the minute i put false nails on first time (stupid idea with a baby) 2 off already since last night, can't type or text easily or do anything, as u can tell im not used to being this manicured shall we say, but going for dinner with extended family today so thought id make an effort and do someting nice for myself

dd up at 4 can't get back to sleep so just got up.

thanks puddle and Mampig for teething advice will try crusty loaf and cucumber sounds more fun than allthe clinical stuff ive already tried