High-Need Baby Support Thread III

[TitaniaP]

Well as I'm awake I thought I'd start thread 3!

The high-need baby thread has been moved from breast & bottle feeding to sleep. In the early days of the thread I think feeding was a significant issue for many of the posters. I think those that post regularly on the thread would now agree that's it's mainly sleep that's the issue.

So if your baby fits the following criteria come and join us for wine, chocolate, coffee and matchsticks as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

Joyful i need that chocolate! and im enjoying the cuddles. i love my dd so much. i am so glad that i bf (not intending to offend anyone who doesn't btw) as i think it does help me bond to her a bit better as i would lie down and hold her a bit more and i need that comfort never mind her!

i am so sorry your holiday didn't work out im sure you are very disappointed in a way as im sure you were looking forward to all of you enjoying it. but maybe later in the year you could do something else when the babies are well...the summer is yet to come! maybe your family could help you pack everything up, just take today step by step soon you will be back in the comfort of your own home. hopefully you could get a nice bath when you get home to help your back. thinking of you

hope the rest of you all had ok nights and the sickly babies are getting better

Ooh cream tea!

Hope your DS and DD are better soon puddle - they've not had much luck with illness lately!

I've been back at work for 2 days now, today has been so busy! I enjoyed it though, and I haven't forgotten everything which is what I was worried about. I even had a breastfeeding mother to advise

DS has had a whale of a time at nursery and not only ate a whole portion of macaroni cheese AND a yogurt for tea, but had 3 naps, one of which was for an hour and 40 mins! Hes refusing to have much milk which is frustrating as I'm spending ages pumping at work but never mind.

Hope everyone sleeps well tonight - early night for me!

Checking in Puddle! . Sorry your holiday wasn't quite as relaxing as you had hoped.

We are doing ok. DS has been mixing it up with a couple of good nights and a couple of hellish, waking every 45 minutes nights. No idea what's going on with him. Fell out a bit with my mum over Easter who decided to lecture me about doing CC - "he'll never learn" etc. Felt really small and almost considered it but DH talked me down. Now I just wont discuss it with her as she makes such snidey comments about him being in our bed etc. Sad really as we are really close otherwise but I feel I can't moan/discuss it with her now as she disapproves so much. It's weird that people have such strong feelings about co-sleeping. I'm not saying its for everyone but surely most people can see that it's a fairly natural thing to do.

Hope you advised the new mum to join mumsnet!

Just checking in verrr quickly so cant reply to everyone, but have read so posts have not been ignored!

DD's chicken pox went manky, and I've had a massive 2 day migraine so I've not been up to posting sorry....

Queen I also believe its totally natural! Its amazing the pressure that we are under to conform with govt "guidelines", and if we sway from that, somehow we are wrong?? When done safely, it has to be the best place for a baby surely? (I know I'm preaching to the converted lol)...

In saying that, although we co-slept since ds was born, more recently I found that ds was more unsettled in our bed . My presence seemed to overstimulate him (smell of boobs maybe), so we got a routine going and he has settled brilliantly in his cot. If he wakens during the night, dh or I settle him in his room much more easily than if he came to our bed. It saddened me I have to say, but ds has obviously matured in this way himself . I miss him!!!

On the upside, ds got his first toof today!!! Its a top tooth, so he's cross-teething, which I believe is harder for them... at 9.5 months, its about time!!! So far, bf still ok! :o

Sleep well everyone!!! I'm having some ,

hi everyone

sorry you fell out with your mum queen its not nice. of course you are doing the right thing going by your instincts, and what did they all do when there was no cots!!? and in all the 3rd world countries!? if i could sleep, dd would be in here a lot more as she sleeps far better in with me. ive just had her in for a feed and thats me up now :(

yay Mampig glad about ds tooth, hope the next one comes soon! think dds are coming soon, hope so anyway

LWL sorry about your migraine, nothing worse! i hope dd is ok.

i really hope i get back to sleep as im so tired. i am really fed up right now... i just went down to get a cuppa and the dog has PEED on the kitchen floor. dh should have let him out last night and he can clean it when he gets up so its going to stay there till he decides to get up which means i have to walk round dog pee till about 10am. if i can wait that long.... argh! either do it myself or wake dh up and cause an argument...lol choices, decisions

Need to rant:

So we now have a kingsize and a single mattress on the floor all together, so DP came in with us last night and DD did her usual frequent waking.

When she woke for the day at 6.30 he didn't move so I said I'd get up with her and give him a lie in, which I did (had to bring her back upstairs once as I needed the bathroom).

Anyway, come 7am I let her start banging her stacking cups on a table (a bit passive aggressively aimed at the neighbours who had yet another screaming row late last night with banging doors that shake the entire house). He comes down and says it's going right through him. I apologise and distract her with something else.

Anyway he grumps that he's up now, so gets up properly.

And he's the grumpiest thing ever (although to be fair he's trying to hide it).

And I'm trying not to start a "who's the most tired" argument. He's had ONE night disturbed. I have had EVERY night disturbed for 9.5 months... plus a migraine that didn't let me sleep last night.

Bloody grrrrr

And breathe...

... As you were

Good luck Puddle!

joyful! you are not pathetic! you are going through soo much. sleep deprived, illness, 24 hour carer for 2 sickly babies, change of being somewhere new - you are soo not pathetic, you are the one who needs a break never mind having to drive anywhere! now try and close your eyes for awhile, i hope the rest of the journey goes in fast for you, thinking of you

sorry to those who had bad nights.

dog just been out for long walk - he usually does get out for walks by the way and on days he can't he goes outside the back garden. hn dog too

Strap a sling to the dog and let him walk the baby around? I'm sure there is something in Dr Sear's about that...

Puddle - you, my friend, are anything but pathetic. As well as managing 2 poorly HN babes, you also find time to be a huge support to your quiche family without having regular melt downs like me. I am in awe.

Puddle, you are not a wimp. You're doing a sterling job. You were brave enough to go on holiday with a HN baby. You're my hero (I panic if we're going to be out of the house for longer than 3 hours!)

In fact, right now I am mostly panicking about going back to work. ^Back to work*. Shit.

See - panicking so much I can't even decide if I want itallics or bold!

Fuck.

I just ordered a wedding dress.

(Sorry... hogging the board a bit tonight!)

Liiiiiinky please Truthy.

Shit. Fuck. What have I done?

You've just bought a stunningly sexy dress, that's what! It's beautiful. Love the train.

Argh. But I'm not really a 'stunningly sexy' type. I'm more of the 'hide in the corner wearing black' school of fashion. Am sorely tempted to also order a nice safe (& cheap) option in case it looks dreadful.