Dear mn hq is there any chance we could have a sn teens topic

[2shoes]

at the moment I don't fit anywhere and I am sure I am not alone.

Guides to SN stuff, I mean.

alfie - re:suggestions - I didn't have strong views either way on what you suggested about information etc, so didn't reply to you on that, as I didn't really have anything to say other than "sounds sensible enough." Sometimes the uncontroversial posts don't get a response if people don't feel strongly.

Thanks Coppertop

Your the only one who seems to reply to me

I can understand though why new ones would feel intimidated, its not the easiest place to slot in (just being honest). Even though I have been here for about 4/5 years (I knw not as long as some) I still feel I dont belong. Perhaps never will. Oh well perhaps thats just how it is.

I understand TotalChaos. But imagine if that was someone new. Who had plucked up courage to suggest something. How would they feel if they had been ignored.

tbh I think we all get ignored at sometime, I remember throwing my toys out of the pram as I had a big problem and got no response on here or TTR. It happens to everyone.(I think)

So it upset you also. You obviously didnt like how it made you feel. 2 wrongs don't make a right.

sorry don't get that

You said about "throwing your toys out of the pram" so it upset you that you had been ignored.

maybe I am particularly hard-nosed or selfish, but I think it's asking a lot to expect that everyone's suggestions are always acknowledged on a fast moving discussion board. I would be upset if a newcomer posted a thread and got no response; I think it's very important people don't feel unsupported. I often get ignored on here btw.

But the thing is sometimes you do get ignored; I don't think anyone on here is thinking "Oh it's her, I am not replying to her!"

Sometimes you just do not have an opinion on what has been said; or RL intervenes and you get called away and by the time you come back the thread has moved on.

If my comments are not replied to, I don't take it personally, I just assume one of the above.

alfie sorry still don't get it, why the 2 wrongs comment?

I suppose its just a build up of here and TTR. Its just if you sent an email to a group, saying hi, how is everyone, blah blah and only one person in that group replied. You would be a bit . Then I try and support people and come on here only to be ignore again

Oh well, it doesnt matter.

You didnt like how it made you feel. So why would make someone else feel like that.

so you are saying I ignore people?? when did this thread become about me ffs?

(alfie I have emailed you)

I didn't say you. It was you that said, it upset you about being ignored. Im just making a point.

On the topic of 'guides to SN stuff', I think this would be incredibly helpfulespecially if written by/with input from mums of children with the relevant conditionwhen I first explored the world of special needs, I was hoping for a more experienced parent to come along and show me around. Plenty of factual stuff was available out there on other sites, but not much on how I might be feeling--another mother's experience would have been so useful.

Thanks Arabica
I think there are a lot of links that people pick along the way that would be helpful.

After all it is a minefield.

I think that's why Amber's diary was always well received.

yes, absolutely. It doesn't have to be the definitive guide. Just a selection of uncensored, un-prettied up, tell-it-like-it is articles by/for parents/carers on, for example,
'Coping with anaesthetic, lumbar punctures, MRI scans, blood samples--why YOU might need to sit down',
'Why we the DLA application form is so hard to complete'
'what GDD means for our family',
'when siblings are unhappy, grandparents are in in denial and your friends are down the pub without you: my first year with DD' (which may or may not be the Arabica Experience)

I'm seeing this as a potentially huge resource of authentic, subjective writing that people can browse through and be reassured that someone else has Been There, even if they hacven't had the identical experience. These sorts of things are surprisingly hard to find on the web. There could be a warning above explaining that these articles are subjective accounts and your own experience might well be very different.

I always loved the name mrsforgetful, it was all warn and fuzzy always made me smile.

Arabica good point, a mention a greif would be good as I ca remember thinking I was going mad.

Ooh some good points there Aribica. Very different to anything else out there, which would be good.

MsF!

Arabica - I like the idea of those 'My Experiences' guides.