Dear mn hq is there any chance we could have a sn teens topic

[2shoes]

at the moment I don't fit anywhere and I am sure I am not alone.

yes...i shall be focussing on the disabled parents section more...i'm sure i alone can start enough threads to increase it's use!!

Its a shame that you are going off the idea about teens...as i am at the point now where i feel that posting on a SN thread about my 15 year old that still chews everything...still uses half a bottle of shampoo at one bathtime (unless i watch him)..that still has many of the same struggles he had at age 5....will NOT be what parents of 5 year olds WANT to hear.

yes, it is factual...and we are better to know the facts...that not everything can be resolved through therapy/stategy/practice....HOWEVER going back to when mine were 5...i needed HOPE...and thats' another reason why i feel my 'teen' posting would be best ELSEWHERE.

MrsF - I would be stunned if people were talking about you behind your back. I'm not aware of any particular cliques on MN, and I suspect you just posted at a busy time (as it's got busier replies do now come bam bam bam).

agh - not aware of any cliques on special needs that should say! Obviously MN is full of them!

but its like being sent to coventry...when none of the people that used to talk to you ...talk to you anymore.

But MrsF you keep changing your name (as do I)! I only found out you were you this week.

When MN was small I used to pretty much read any thread at all. Now it's large and I'm working I only read stuff relevant to me. So I barely read about HFA or toddler stuff -unless a title grabs me. It's not ignoring though, it's just picking out things to read when time limited.

I do think subsections would mean even less mixing.

Anyway have to dash as I have a meeting at 9.30- so am not ignoring you, just won't be back on until this evening.

it makes you want to change your name...start again...and see if you can get the same friends back...

this is i feel related to my OCD/ASD etc...and as often with my boys, my PERCEPTION of what is going on around me is DISTORTED.

I only post what i post in the hope that someone else who feels like me...feels able to post how they feel.
having all this going on in your head is exhausting. (and exhausting for those who live with me too...)

But MrsF you keep changing your name (as do I)! I only found out you were you this week.

{blush}

oops xposted...i had not read your post when i referred to namechangiing

i had never thought of it THAT way!!! That if i stayed as mrsF..maybe i'd still have MrsF's friends!!!

P.S ITS MY BIRTHDAY TODAY!!!!

Mum23ASD, I for one wouldn't mind hearing about how your DC are now, as it will give me insight as to what my ds2 is going to be like when he is older. I am not expecting him to miraculously turn into the usual teenage boy once he hits puberty, and I'd rather these things were not hidden from me. Why sugar coat the future?

I'm not entirely sure that ASD should have its own section either. Yes the posts on SN are mostly on ASD, but I don't want to be shoved in one corner just because of it. Like some one has already said, just because there is a dx of ASD, doesn't mean my insight can't be useful for another disability.

Happy birthday mum23asd

Cake anyone

Mrs F, although I don't post as much as I used to, I do still read a fair bit and TBH I think you are right, in that you are experiencing a touch of paranoia.(I suffer from this too though not on MN but in RL) I would be upset if I felt that people on SN's board were 'ganging up' on you, but tbh I haven't witnessed any of this. Great to see you back

mum23 - well done for having the guts to post that. as when someone posts what they feel and why about feeling unwelcome, we can start to do something about it .

[but its like being sent to coventry...when none of the people that used to talk to you ...talk to you anymore.]

Over the years the SN section has evolved - partly because the nature of MN has changed so people don't feel comfortable posting some things on a public site that they might have posted 5 year ago - partly because people's priorities about their children have changed, as educational provision gets sorted out, that sort of thing. There is a different core of posters from 5 years ago, and people tend to be more active when there is a particular issue they need input with. So there are so many different reasons other than someone thinking "god I can't stand that TotalChaos woman, she's a stupid cow" that someone might not reply to me.

happy birthday Mrs F(oh i loved that name)

Sorry to hijack and hope its ok. (Happy Birthday MrsF)

But how about instead of sub headings we have some guides on topics.

IE DLA and how to go about it. (maybe link to some sites that are helpful)

Ieps
Statement process
DX process

I'm sure you get the idea.

I know I am relating to ASD here but this is only because I have no experience in anything else not that there isn't a need for them.

happy birthday mum23! another point that has occurred to me - very anonymous names (I know you deliberately chose to make yourself less obvious a while back) can also make people subconsciously switch off a bit if it's hard to remember the name of the poster - if you changed back to MrsF or something without mum and numbers you might find your posts are more noticed.

justa- best wishes with your PG.

MUM23ASD, I hear you. I think unfortunately MN is just like real life. I went to an all girls school, and honestly this cyber thing reminds me so much of those days. (the popular girls, the ones that can say whatever they want because they have so much respect, the ones that just follow the herd, the quiet ones, i could go on, etc)

If it's any consolation to you, I never get more than a handfull of responses to my questions. And usually my posts are ignored. I am not in the clique, but that's fine. However I am not afraid of saying what I really think and I am feeling very upset at seeing that the SN forum is starting to get divided.

Tinysocks I know what you mean

Mrs F I didnt relaise it was you I confess. I get confused as rhere seems to be several Mum2asd types... isnt there also a theory that people with a number of Mum n their name become invisible?

Fio scratch that about being OK, neitehr DH's a;st wages or redundancy went in today, they reckon maybe 60% later and rest end of month bt . Ceva are bastards (deliberate name and shame there). We ahve enough to get by fortunately but others dont and we cant claim anything else yet so a bit pissed off!

Well I honestly do not understand, because I have never seen any evidence of a clique on the Special Needs section. It has always been completely different to the main site in that respect.

And although I have been on MN for years, I am not one of the well-known or popular posters-but have never felt afraid to post or worried about any reponses in this section.

I do not see any advantage to dividing the section. Like the others, I feel it would cause us to lose more than we gain, in that people who would normally see a question will not do so.

Things often naturally come up during the course of a thread, and someone on it may have the knowledge to answer-but if that thread was in a specialist area, that poster may not be there to see it. I don't think I have explained that well, but you know what I mean!

Happy birthday, MrsF!

I'd be happy with anything that brought MrsF back (preferably with her old name) so that I can stalk her again see more of her (in the non-literal sense ).

The problem I've been having is that threads are dropping down the SN board list (not just Active Convos) so fast that I often don't notice them until it's too late to post. I think that this kind of thing might be contributing to the idea of people feeling ignored when they get hardly any replies.

I wouldn't like the board to be divided up into things like ASD, CP, DS etc but I do think it needs some extra topics to make it more manageable.

I just don't understand though. If I am on a thread for example this one. I would look at the posts I have not read on that thread.

So how come when someone makes a suggestion it is not even acknowledged. I think that is why people feel like they will never be able to fit in.

If someone asked me a question or made a suggestion in rl I wouldnt ignore them

I feel quite sad about this now.

Alfiemama

I think there were plans to do something like that a while ago. I don't know if that's what Justine meant by this bit of her post:

"We are working on a special needs content area too - actually MorningPaper is working on it and will no doubt be posting for advice v soon - so we'll be able to link to and from that also."