Dear mn hq is there any chance we could have a sn teens topic

[2shoes]

at the moment I don't fit anywhere and I am sure I am not alone.

very surprised that people feel uncomfortable outside any of the very rare periods of rowing/tension on SN.

slightly off topic now, but you do seem to get lots of people e-mailing and confiding in you justa on various topics, watch yourself that you don't run yourself ragged attending to everyone else's needs but your own.

A virtual teacup natch

There have been times when i've felt unwilling to post things in SN for various reasons but ultimately it's up to people where they post,we can't force them in here. If someone posts they get support, it's pretty much a given. Not a lot else we can do.

Coffee anyone?

No? me neitehr

yes, please don't feel you need a DX to post, many people post here whose kids are waiting for a DX or are without a DX for various reasons.

Well, I can't help feeling that this is all getting rather personal now.

I have no objection to a tea room, they aren't my cup of tea but I did post on ambers because I wanted to say hello. I do however object to threads with rules, about who and who cannot post there.

J does not have a SLD but I was reading the thread last night, mrst posted a link to an outside company/charity that actually would fit ds2 though. I actually learn a lot about what is available for ds2 on threads that are not relevant to his disability if that makes sense.

The other thing that is confusing me is that actually anybody can start a tea room type thread on special needs now, nothing is stopping them. People will reply as well, it is very unusual to see an unanswered thread in SN.

X posts with everyone! sorry.

ROFL, does everyone search their own name? I am not admitting to that!

I have never ever searched my own name PMSL

One of the many benefits of a photographic memory anyway LOL, can remember most threads I ever posted on.

I could list the downsides too jind, like still taking an hour to drive to Tesco because I can't remember direction

Seriously though, people do that?

Actually I suggested an SLD topic yesterday but thinking about it I don't think it's needed.

I'm for SN staying as one. I love talking to people with grown up children, and like the diversity.

If parents who are on the spectrum themselves find it hard to post sometimes then a jazzed up disabled parents section might meet that extra need. It is what tends to happen (and work) in RL.

Ooooh I see Fio

Is it coz you're jobless now and have nothing to do otherwise?

(Since dh finished we seem triply busy- why is that?)

I agree mrs T about teh disabled section, it seems very under utilised ATM

I would have thought that could benefit muchly from development

I would stil have a few topics but very few for specific q's- education, finance, maybe teens simply as evidence has shown that there are few replies to related Q's on here and it might drag more parents of SN teens in- but then just general for the rest

Just to make it a bit more navigationable (made up word of the day ) and easier to actually help people without posts needing info badly dropping so quickly down a list

Hmm the problem with something like a finance section is that people might be unlikely to check it (I probably wouldn't bother as so busy atm ) but if I see a 'autism- higher rate mobility?' question staring at me I'm much more likely to click and reply as I know I have the answer

Fio he's fine, still has a part time job, off to Uni in Sept and me the year after to do MSc in SW so can get TC's and all is well in the Peachy household PMSL

I have posted on here that I have been SCARED to post.

I do not have the confidence that what i am saying will be understood the way i intended it.

so THANKYOU to all of you...who have refferred to those of us who WANT to join threads ...but after typing a reply...we delete it ...for fear that we are got the wrong idea about what the thread is saying...or that we will unintentionally fuel an arguement.

As you know, I am UPFRONT and wear my heart on my sleeve...and useually regret most of my indepth posting...but I am sure there are others like me who NEVER post as they are less impulsive.

I'dprobably check it but am good with specific Q's IYSWIM

Actually the HR Mobility for ASD would just have me swearing tbh LOL as I know several people now can't even get HR with children up all night let alone HR mobility (Wlesh office seems particualrly shit), we have given up but I know one lass with a chiold who has had MR and been told bt TC's theres no such ting as a disability premium at that level

So think finance advice genrally is 'well yu should get it but its random'

MrsF- would jazzing up the disabled parents section be useful to you (I had forgotten you had said that, so that makes three I can think of). There would be nothing to stop others popping in to get advice from you all, and it would remind people to be sensitive in posting. But would perhaps be less quiche like than a tea room sat within a wider SN.

Fio - can we please stop cross posting

fio I think I aggree with you, tbh I would rather not have a teens bit, than see what is a very nice welcoming topic spoilt.
perhaps as it isn't broke don't fix it(yes I know I am backtracking)
I can always post on SKITUK whan I a need teen advice.
(big issue round the corner and not sure where I will be able to post about it as the sn topic won't cover it imo, but I will work it out)

...and call me paranoid....which goes with the territory i suppose...when you are scared to post!....

There have been times when i have posted and i have felt that a group of replies have suddenly appeared ...by a clique of friends...as if they have been 'talking about me behind my back'...and agreed to gang up...

I am GUILTY of doing this on a few chat threads when i have been so annoyed how people are attacking the OP..but i have done it to DEFEND someone...not to hurt.

there i've said it now...yes i have felt SCARED...yes i have been HOUNDED OFF

Iam 'somewhere in the spectrum of ASD'...and real life is like this for me too. thats's why i don't work- and hardly go out the house.

I try with MN to ignore the things that upset me...noone forces me to read athread...but whenever you have a dilema...trivial usually...and your 1st port of call is mumsnet...it is distressing when you feel unable to post 'incase you get ignored or flamed'