Mumsnet would not discriminate against anybody, that's the joy of mumsnet. For me, I was one of those who said I was uncomfy with the whole aspect of Moldies conversing with me and I admitted that was my problem.
All these analogies are lovely but wrong.
The Moldies site was meant to be a secret, never to be leaked onto Mumsnet. So it's not like people going to a different pub, it's about a group of people getting together behind everyone's back and having a secret little club.
Moldie members could invite Mumsnetters, but then other Moldies (it used to be done in public on Moldie but I'm now told it's done by a select few) could veto that person. So the secret pub-goers could suggest letting Bob in on their secret, they would discuss between themselves the merits of having Bob in their group and then a couple of people who didn't like Bob would veto him.
Therefore friends would invite friends and it all made for a very exclusive, very secret club.
Once their secret was threatened, certain Moldie members tried to lie their way out of it and we are still told contradictory things. So imagine the pub goers found out about the secret club but they still weren't allowed in and different people were told different things about it. So Bob got to find out that he had been nominated but had been vetoed - he will never know who by, so now he wonders who, of his friends, he can trust.
VVVQV is reported to have said that invites had been sent to those not invited previously but that had accepted this graciously. This has been denied, as it would! So you hear about more and more naff things, extraordinarily arrogant and bad behaviour, all of which is denied. But whilst members of that group still post on Mumsnet, you don't feel (I don't feel) that you can trust them. Because we may never find out who is telling the truth and who is not.
And all the time, the Moldies site lurks in the background, you don't know when they will start recruiting again or if the Moldies who post here will be part of that recruitment team.
Franny - yes I have been posting about how to move on. And I hope Mumsnet does move on. But I don't think this will ever be resolved whilst Moldies still lurks, secretive as ever, in the background.
Yes, to forgive is divine, but it's very hard to forgive when they themselves have hardly held out the olive branch. A few members have apologised, but the site is still secret, it will never open it's doors to the likes of us and we are still told contradictory things about the way it works. So whilst the lying and secrecy prevail, I personally will find it very hard to trust their members or have any respect for them.