If you (still) feel the need to discuss Moldies [part 2]

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This thread is a continuation of this one. That one had become too big for its own boots the system to handle.

I don't think it's the posting in two places that's the problem, though, is it? That's a bit of a red herring that keeps coming up.

I don't think that there is a single person who would have a problem with a breakaway MN knitters site, for example.

It's the processes that were gone through in making the other place (and therefore the nature of the relationship between there and here) that is the problem, for most people, I think.

As nighbynight says, it's the golf club bit that's difficult.

Actually, DaddyJ, that happened in RL to me - local pub, bit down-at-heel and largely frequented by the same bunch of regulars (except at weekends), got taken over by big chain, refurbished, totally changed the atmosphere (changed the name of the pub fgs!), the regulars mostly left (a fair few spent more time at home or each others houses), but still popped back for a drink from time to time as they still lived locally.

I realise some will think this made up for the purposes of this topic, but that's up to them!

this week I had a problem.
there was only one person who I knew could help me.
sadly she had left mn for pastures new.
I contacted another x mn person and asked her to ask said person to email me.
first person did and helped me solve the problem.
so just cos for what ever reason some people have decided mn is not for them and gone elsewhere, that doesn't seem to have turned them in to uncaring people(thanks to LL and twiglet)

OBM, has there been a Moldie come on and say "We're totally happy with the way the site was working for the fleeting time when OBM was posting and nothing's changed since"?

I don't think there has.

Although that is the magic cure for any pissed-offness, in truth. Oh look, there's Clive from the Golf Club, and his friend Barry with the very white shoes...signs himself Esq... refers to the lady wife... mein host.. engraved tankard.. Jag..

K, well, I didn't invent the process. I got asked and it sounded good so I joined. I also post in other places with similar processes. I don't have a problem with that because it's not my board and if and when I don't like the rules someone else has on their board then I won't go there.

Some people have a problem with it, others don't.

Fair play to them all.

No, hunker. That would have been suicide, though, wouldn't it?

And actually, there have been a few (though far fewer than did on Moldies) who have shrugged noncommitally. And there have been plenty who have waved the red herring.

I think it's been one of those things that, once you see it written down and 'out there', you realize sounds pretty crap and reflects badly on all concerned.

A bit like the Sindie..

Kermit! I was going to marry him when I was 4 years old - either him or Ernie (Bert was a bit, um, weird)

"A pint of your finest, please, biermeister"

Cheers everyone, Happy New Year, really. Off to avoid Jools Holland. (Why? How did he ever get into his position?)

No, I believe you, hunker.
The error was mine: there are no private members pubs.

NN's analogy works better.

You know FWIW, I've posted rather negatively about Moldies (I probably have no real right to post on it al all as I am rarely here )mainly because it smacks to me of a bit of a popularity club, an in crowd, mumsnet royalty or whatever poele want to call them, and that type of thing has always been a real turn off for me, at least since I've been an adult anyway.

That element of mumsnet was apparent and distasteful to me when I initially joined 2 years ago and I have sporadically commented on it ever since.

My negative attitude to Moldies stems from for me it somehow epitomising this 'most popular' girl stuff.

BUT it also seems to me that there is a real double standard to some extent from those left behind who are critising Moldies. As thier main critism seems to be THAT THEY WEREN'T INVITED. Not that it's a dispicable orgainsation of which they would have had no part, but just that they are not in the club.

It would have been OK if they'd been asked because then they'd have been happy in the club with the popular girls and would they then have worried about all those that still hadn't been asked?

I think you can only really critise Moldies if you are 100% confident that if asked you would have declined because you would have viewed it as an organistaion with which you would not want to be involved.
Or if you are confiednt tht if initially jioning, the process of vetoing (as we understand it) would have caused you to leave in protest.

MP and Onebat can hold thier heads up high in this respct, would you have been like them or would you have just liked being a part of it and not really worried about those left out?

I think poele need to seriously ask themselves this question, because unless you are certain you would have acted with 100% integrity if asked than I don't think you are in a position to critise or complain about those that did join.

personally, I'm 100% confident I would not have joined and 100% certain I would never have been asked

Kermit was gay, ilove. Sorry, but anyone could see that Miss Piggy was so his fag hag.

I don't think you can assume that they would have joined if invited can you smiley? On what basis? And yo certainly can't assume that if they did go along they wouldn't have thought better of it quickly.

There's a difference between feeling shit about being rejected and actually wanting to join.

I'm assumig nothing.

I'm saying poeple need to ask themselves those questions and then only really critise if they are sure they wouldnot have joined.

that's all.

I'm posting from NZ. You do realize you're a laughing stock with all this Moldie business don't you? This is what happens on the internet. People move on. Shouldn't you.

Happy New Year to the UK.

Well critise away then kerry.....

why a laughing stock josmithy?
have you looked at the rest of the site?

So, josmithy, you joined MN just for that gem did you?

She has a point though - google "mumsnet moldies"

Anyway, I'm going to go back to posting as and when I feel like it on MN - and wherever else I fancy.

If people who have never liked me anyway want to continue to dislike me, that's cool.

If people who did like me want to think ill of me, I'm sad about that. Maybe it'll all be fine again one day.

But if I keep posting on threads such as this, I'm not doing anyone any favours, least of all me!

HNY, all. May 2009 bring you love, laughter and Botox for your wrinkly bits.

smileys people makes a good point.
I think I would have joined and then like OBM, left when brought up against the reality of it.

the bonding on the moldie site must be very strong, as so few people have left it.
But I still think it will all go titsup when the old guard get fed up with the loud clique.

well, we have had new year here an hour ago, and enough fireworks went off over our town to pay for a 4 bedroom, detached house with garden (can you see what is occupying my mind at the moment lol)
goodbye 2008 - somewhat better than 2007 and 2006 - hello 2009 - peace and prosperity to all.