If you (still) feel the need to discuss Moldies [part 2]

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This thread is a continuation of this one. That one had become too big for its own boots the system to handle.

Just suppose many peope started posting less on MN and then in a different place and never thought anything of it because, having been on MN for years and years, they were posting less and less and no-one noticed they had gone. (just because that's what happens if you are not locked into regular threads or groups...not because anyone pro-actively doesn't care).
Just suppose someone was surprised at the reaction because far from imagining themselves superior or something, they were amnazed that anyone would particularly care where they were or never thought they were important enough to even flounce visibly?
Just suppose NO-ONE was 'vetoed' because they weren't 'good enough' in some way, but there were openly acknowledged personality clashes, and people maybe thought some were 'too good' and that friction would just continue to no good pupose?

The Moldie issue blew up in the middle of a thread in which Twig vented something she felt was personal to her....it wasn't a moldie manifesto, to criticise MN. I don't want to downplay the real upset of individuals who have felt left out by individuals they know and trusted, but I wonder if it would all have seemed do evil if it had been made public in a thread clear of criticim of MN?

seems like some women like to act like school girls in the playground.
nasty ones at that.

well what goes around, comes around i say
kama to them all.

is that kama as in kamakazi

And some, pumpkin, just lurve to stir it up and get a big voyeuristic from the fall out!

There is no talking behind people's backs on moldies....but I daresay MSN and facebok groups and e mails buzzes amongst plenty of peolple just like it always has and always will.

This whole thing IS bad enough, I accept. But it has been made worse (as it wil be on any forum) by bystanders cheering everyone on to the bloody end, and then they will pick geefully over the carcasses. Are those people helping those already hurt, not hurt themselves but enjoying the spectacle? (I am not talking about people with carefully and genuinely expressed opnions on ethics etc).

voyeuristic frisson

FioFio! Yay!

I like this forum, like an old friend really.

I'm really sorry folks got hurt, that's truely shite.

Happy New Year everyone.

Can we not draw a line under this now?

Fio - I'm coming round your's for lunch.

Happy New Year Shiny.

Fnar! Most apt, I tell thee.

Go and have a lovely time, Im glad I found you here. Feel the luuuuuuurve man!

Mwah mwah xxx

I'm sorry i missed your sincere post, Fio!

Shouldn't you be slaving over a hot stove or something?

Happy New Year, everyone.

Oh Fio I wondered where you'd been.

It seems to me, after all this angst and millions of words, that it comes down to something very simple.

Mumsnet is an open forum. Therefore anything written here is there for the whole world to see. Moldies is a private forum, which cannot be (easily) accessed by the whole world.

Some people feel the need or actually need to be able to post in private. Others don't actually mind about leaving their drivel words of wisdom for any Tom, Dick or Harry to read.

So far, so straightforward.

But the difficult and hard-to-stomach bit is that I can't go to Moldies if I want to discuss something private. I'm not allowed, because I haven't been invited/have been vetoed.

That's where it's iniquitous.

Yes - there is the issue of a couple of hundred miles Fio. Enjoy your lamb

I actually find it better now that the same group of people aren't clustering around each other on every thread, digressing into personal/private subjects only they understand, and telling people when to stop the conversation.

I'm happy, you're happy. The only MNers unhappy with this setup seem to be the ones who feel jilted by their 'friends' because they weren't deemed worthy for an invite.

Maybe you people should set up a third forum where these unhappy souls can be invited, halfway between your super-secret hideaway and MN, so this whole debate can be put to rest.

Happy new year everyone!

Posting as one who would never even have been considered for membership and even had my name been mooted the bag would have OVERFLOWED with black balls. In fairness, this is something I would never have dreamt of embracing.

Look chaps, we need to embrace the many positive aspects of this mold thingummy. I remain COMPLETELY convinced that it is a good thing overall. See my no prefects post below. We've still got the really good eggs like Expat (who really does rock) and the moulds are happier posting in privacy.

Yes