If you (still) feel the need to discuss Moldies [part 2]

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This thread is a continuation of this one. That one had become too big for its own boots the system to handle.

there is a different between flouncing and leaving though - isn't there?

I thought flouncing is the same as leaving....???

I didn't realise you oculd actually de-reg....thought you would just well, stop coming to the place, and that is that....

i thought flouncing was starting a thread to announce you were leaving to get maximum attention before actually leaving iyswim

Piffle - I think that there are relatively few people who have strong views on the Moldies saga - maybe just hide this thread, and post on other stuff (would imagine you would have a strong interest in the Gaza/Israel discussions).

Leaving is leaving.
Flouncing is announcing that you will leave (the actual leaving part is often optional i've noticed) and expecting to gain some kind of reaction to this announcement.

Just done a quick end of thread lurk- dont go piffle.

I suppose so.....must say I totally don't get the whole flouncers corner thing, lol

why can't all the mouldies clear off for good.

Don't de-reg Piffle. Just hide this bloody thread!

The rest of MN has moved on.

Only a small proportion ever really cared anyway. I was one of that number I think - been here for ages, always been a bit invisible. But in the great scheme of things...

Just hide this thread.

My very last post on this whole sorry subject.

VVVQV I apologise unreservedly for misquoting you, I was remembering what someone else had said on a previous thread but hadn't realised that they actually meant "apologies" and not invites. The trouble with all of this is that posts get lost in the vast expanse of things so you miss apologies and confirmations of things.

I have never mentioned you as one of the bullies. I would never mention names either on Mumsnet or on any blog of anyone, but certainly in the past I have felt 'got at', my mental state has been questioned and certain family details have been used as ammunition against me. Custy has suffered in the same way, by the same people. I don't have to name them, they know themselves. I'm sorry if you've read yourself into that, but I certainly haven't mentioned you as being involved.

Of course I've been angry about the whole thing, and what makes it worse is that one Mumsnetter/Moldie who I used to chat to, is now not acknowledging me at all - that hurts.

As I've said previously, it's not the fact that there is another site out there that was the issue, it was the way it was set up. The secrecy, the vetoing, the leaking of hurtful info, the closed doors, the attitude by some Moldies that they were actually better than us and of some Mumsnetters that the Moldie site contained the créme du la créme of Mumsnet. It all came across as extremely arrogant, heartless and spiteful.

However I've gone on and on about it long enough and have taken on board the criticism that the more you go on about it the more you make it all about "you". Which is not my intention.

I apologise to those who have been offended by my posts and I extend a laurel branch to the member who has not been in touch with me since all of this kicked off - please do get in touch. I've no intention or right of telling who to post or what to post on Mumsnet.

I hope our feelings of anger are understood by the Moldie members. I'd like to know that Mumsnet will not be used as a recruiting ground, but I guess no-one is going to promise that and that's up to MNHQ not me. I'd just not like to think that invites are being sent out behind anyone's back again.

I hope my apologies will be graciously accepted by all.

That is a very gracious post Rhubs.

I have been away and didn't have internet access. Got back last night to find Moldiegate. Have spent some time this afternoon trying to catch up a bit and figure it all out.

Am not quite sure what to think of it all yet tbh. But I am really sorry and sad to think that yet more MNers that I know and like have left because of it.

Oh Rhubs that's a lovely post

Hi Buda,

Happy new year!

It's been a bit of a storm but is settling down in many respects now.

Thankfully..

Piffle, don't go . You answered my very first post on MN (I was using a different name at the time)....and you have no idea how grateful I was for your response (I'd just found out that dd had significant SN).

Hi Flight!!! Happy New Year to you too. Another new name I see (or a variation on your old one!)!

I think I feel that the Moldie site is a bit like MSN in some respects - I am aware that lots of people chat on MSN - I used to myself but then DH deleted it from the PC and I stopped. And I did sort of know that there was somewhere people were in touch with cod and that you had to give an email or something. I didn't get round to it and then forgot. Not sure if it is the same. Oh well. Sorry that people are hurt.

I cannot believe this is still going on. I honestly, trully do not understand what the fuss is about.

This is an internet site. I use it as such. If I have a problem I'll post about it and usually other parents will offer good advice. If I see a post which I think I can answer constructively then I'll post a reply. 'Tis the nature of MN. I don't think anyone here is my friend, rather they are other parents who know the struggle and trials and are willing to help others through it.

I don't post anything too personal. Don't give out my email, don't go to meet ups. In fact when my mother was killed last summer by a bastard drunk driver, I didn't even start a thread about it. Instead I sought comfort from my husband and my real friends.

So what if certain group of Mnetters decided they wanted to chat privately. Personally, I don't give a shit. Everyone's entitled to that. The voting and vetoing crap is crap and I can see why those on here who do treat other MNetters as friends would be hurt but why should hundreds of others of you feel the same?

I've been on here for nearly 5 Years in one form or another so am not a newbie. I remember when it was far smaller and you recognised most people who posted but even then I never took it personally. How can you? This is not reality!

So what I'm trying to say is yes, if you are a MNetter who regularly meets or even chit chats with 10 other Mnetters who also have a secret thang going on without you then fine, be pissed off. But to post on here saying,' Oh I once posted on the same thread as such and such and am devastated they could do this' Well that's just bollox!

Go shag your husband or kiss your kids and remember what's real!
I don't lament who's left nor do I even notice who's posted on my thread or who's thread I'd answered. I say thank you and MOVE ON.

My life is the 3kids asleep upstairs, the promise I'm on from DH and how to get my size 12/14 ass back into my pre-baby size 10 clothes. (oh and the bottle of Chablis I'm half way through!)Not the private conversations of other grown women who I don't know and will never meet!

What the hell is a mouldie? I keep seeing it around, but I ahve nooo idea what it is. Anyone? Even just in one short sentence, being a poster of little brain.

Exactly what myredcardigan said.

All this navel gazing and agonizing because some girls wanted their secret club. Only in an all-woman forum. Actually reminds me of my all-girl high school.

some older posters started an invitation only forum, posters are nominated without their knowledge and accepted or declined

it was meant to be a secret that this was where people were flouncing off to but was badly kept.

thanks custy. Dearie me.

Is that it?? Yes Cote, time to leave the playground behind.....

mrc not everyone uses mumsnet, or views it, in the same way as you, and some people have been badly hurt by it.

Very sorry about your mum.

Paperchase, thank you for your condolences.

My point is that although some people don't treat it that way, they should unless they have actual personal relationships with the people in question. And I don't mean a virtual relationship, I mean a real relationship.

I understand that people still want to post about this, that their feelings are hurt, on both sides.

But...

I would like that people, both non moldies and moldies would stay here and stop de-registering, getting their history deleted. It really would take away of a lot of history from the site and a lot of advice / help / information which would be incredibly sad.