If you (still) feel the need to discuss Moldies [part 2]

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This thread is a continuation of this one. That one had become too big for its own boots the system to handle.

Mr Danforth!

(I was in the Crucible at school!)

TIGGIWINKLE: "I continue to feel saddened by some of the names which have emerged as this thing has unfolded. I still cannot understand why posters, some of whom have had a huge amount of support here, have now turned their backs on the site-and on most of us."

If this is referring to me, ggglimpopo - if you had read my previous posts explaining why I felt the need to namechange/cut right back on mumsnet - then it is comments like this that make me feel entirely justified in doing so. I explained twice, on two different now deleted threads. I do not wish to go through all the details again.

I had a tragedy. I had a huge amount of support of mumsnet which helped me get through the unimaginable. And for which no words of gratitude will suffice.

But that does not mean that I wish to spend the rest of my life being associated solely with tragedy (my own personal loss and that of my family and our circle) and that event is not owned by mumsnet and nor do I wish to spend the rest of my life beholden to those who I see as being there for me, rather than having some proprietal role in my life.

I love mumsnet. But there are limits. And for me, a little known poster - or a troll, who cares - put a huge dampner on how I realised I was perceived here and changed how I felt about the forum.

No alors, it was not aimed at you. And I did not see your posts on the deleted threads as to why you felt you needed to go.

But I do feel saddened that you-and others-have felt the need to go. Mumsnet will be the poorer for it and I do not feel that the vast majority of posters should be punished for the actions of a few trolls. After all we have no control of them and are no more at fault than you are. It does feel like a kick in the teeth and that is how I feel, I am afraid.

Just thought i should point out that its not just "moldies" and newbies that are being affected by this, i now know of several "regs" including myself who have name changed just to avoid being associated with this. Mainly because they have been around a while and thought they were "oldies" and don't want to be tarred with the same brush.

Some ppl need MN as they have nowhere else to be, please don't make it implode, it's a life line to some people

it won't implode...it will get stronger..

what's actually happened here...a few people have left that didn't much like it here anymore...that's no loss is it...

I am happily posting on other threads and then I click "threads I'm on" and see untruths being bandied about Moldies and this draws me back in to defend my coven (tongue in cheek for the record) if needed and just to rubberneck on the fantasies that abound as to what Moldies actually is...
The analogies run from Camilla and Charles to Mumsnet's Diana and to a Boden ghetto, then to an almighty far more vicious nest of vipers...Black Cobras even perhaps?

And for the record Aitch saved my life, she posted when I had bleeding after a positive test. And someone else when I thought I had gas when pregnant, but they said oh it could be appendicitis, get it checked, saving mine and my ds2s life.

And for the person who said FGS claim DLA for your DD.
Thanks.

And for the lovely women I met at the Xmas meet up, where I made NO distinction about Mold or anything.

And no one made one of me.

The beauty of mumsnet is its pool of knowledge, senstivity, brutality and humour. Its universality.

To think that some of the incredible and tragic and wonderful things that have happened here.
Peters heart transplant
OJ, MB and M2J and Yorkiegirl losing their husbands.
GGG and her angel girl
Bubble
Many much more that I am too tired to recall just now

And many many more
For heavens sake it's this stuff that makes us mumsnetters and cleves us all.

History innit?

Cleves us all?

Well it doesn't really does it. Not enough for 'us all' to be selected for the new group.

Come on...

'Cleave' is an interesting choice of words Piffle. As well as meaning adhering it also means to split apart. The origin of the word 'cleaver'. Also the orgin of the word 'cloven' as in cloven hoof - another satanical reference.

So, am i right in thinking that there is a 'Dark Arts' element to Moldeys?
That's what I heard anyway.

I am enjoying this rumour mill

Well your post hasn't really corrected untruths has it Piffle?

It's just more comment and opinion.

And what about the swinging??
I mean that does seem a little far fetched but the way it was explained to me (vividly), I'm fairly convinced.

Agree with you daftpunk - & in genetics new blood helps solid growth.

You also make sense flightattendant.

Doesn't mumsnet have copyright of the names we chose & what we post? Some small quotes can be used freely but not extensive copying. Wonder how Moldies get round that? Wonder if they are posting in their mumsnet names? Could be argued that it is just a word/s or whatever but the context of use is also important.

"Doesn't mumsnet have copyright of the names we chose"

What, like piffle? ROFL

Piffle, I have no idea why you and other moldies are filled with an urge to 'set the record straight' because this is one record which simply can't be set straight.

You might be able to correct one or two misconceptions about how moldies arose, but you are not going to be able to fix the core issues which are that (a) moldies has been set up (b) it has followed a deliberate policy of not being open (c) a small number of mners feel aggrieved for not being invited and (d) a rather larger number question the ethics of recruiting for mouldies on mn.

So why bother? Why not just let the fuss die down?

I did not set Moldies up
I was invited saw some lasses there who had left MN-one who is helping me through a specific confidential health issue.
I have never voted/vetoed nor seen that in action.

I did mean earlier that which bonds us also drives us apart but ultimately because of the shared experiences it should bring the site together again.

I said the reason I come back is to reply to comments I disagree with- I am not posting on this thread alone btw
Excuse me for veering off my writ and making a post not relating to refuting of incorrect allegations.

You have a very unpleasant superior and sarcastic tone Smilley.
I'll be considering de regging later as this site is offering nothing positive for me any longer.
This is a shame as it means the info about my DD's rare condition will not be found bysomeone whomight need it and all my post and ante natal stuff will be lost.
I've been here for 6.5 years but I guess it's time to move on.

I would be very sad Piffle if you, or anyone else in a similar position, felt it was time to de-reg.
I know I've learned a lot from you in the past and wish you and your family all the best for the future, whether or not that future includes mumsnet of moldies or anything else.
R

Oh not another .... I don't think this thread should be in site stuff, I think it should be in Flouncer's Corner.

I'd love to say I'd miss you Piffle but the truth is that we've not really talked before (I don't think).

Sorry if this place is not serving your needs any longer.

agree Roisin. There is little point in directing inflammatory remarks at anyone individually, among either camp, least of all those who have taken the opportunity to discuss it openly.

i would also be sorry to see you go piffle

Piffle, just because you dereg doesn;t mean they delete all your past contributions.

They will still be there for all to see.