MN happy to have posts witb the agenda of normalising child sexual activity.

[Placetobreathe]

I know the thread is in the Sex forum and there is a lot of explicit stuff on there and there generally isn't much in the way of taboo things.

But a poster telling the OP that she should chill out because her 14 year old having sex with a 13 year old is " normal" to my mind is not the sort of agenda MN should be allowing.

Allowing someone who is normalising child sexual activity in the days of grooming gangs, child explotation and abuse seems a pretty irresponsible line to take.

Exactly! I’ve seen messages before like ‘this post has been hidden until a member of the team can look at it’.

@BeckyAMumsnet Thoughts? You’ve done it before, I’m sure you can do it again.

The MN response up thread says:
We'll generally remove posts that appear to normalise or minimise such activity.

The post I reported quite unequivocally told the OP to chill out because 13 and 14 year old children having sex was normal. And in their next post,replying to me when I called them out, doubled down on the point saying it was normal when they were growing up for children of that age to have sex.

So given what MN have said here I'm failing to see why the moderator needed to escalate it at all and didn't just delete it.

But I agree with you that if there is dubiety and a moderator needs to escalate then the best course surely is to delete the post while it is beings escalated and reinstate if it's decided it's ok.

@BeckyAMumsnet

We accept that it shouldn’t feel like it takes multiple reports or a thread here for something to be acted on, and this is something we're reviewing internally today

No one is saying that’s what it feels like. We’re saying that’s what it actually is.

I can screenshot my emails to you and your replies if you’d like???

@Placetobreathe That poster (in one of her other comments) said she started having sex at 14 so probably has no understanding of how terrible it is/was.

And @BeckyAMumsnet you’re here to make parents lives easier blah blah, one way is to back everyone up when they’re objecting to child sex being normalised. Are you in fact…the baddies…? Oh my god.

Great post.

Mumsnet have spoken about making the forum less trollish. Next, they must tackle the Sex topic.

I know the time you had to be a member before posting on the Sex board used to be much longer. Now it's only 7 days. That doesn't help.

I wonder also if maybe it should be banned for someone to only post on the Sex board.

Apologies for reviving this thread but on the subject of the Sex topic and MN policies: i went on the Sex topic earlier today and got as far as reading one thread
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/sex/5491137-your-thoughts-on-my-thoughts-please
And I was actually really annoyed by this.
Because it's a thread started by a man and is about his sexual fantasies while masturbating. And as far as I can see all the posters on this thread are men.
I reported the thread asking the question what place this thread actually has on MN and is this what MN see as the intended purpose of the Sex topic.

I haven't even received the usual acknowledgement that is usually sent out when a report is made- the "we are looking at this" response.
If MN think the thread is acceptable then fair enough. But to not even acknowledge that a report has been made seems to be a real admittance that they have no interest in moderating the Sex forum at all.

Edited to say I see they have just deleted the thread. They just didn't bother acknowledging my report.

Hello @Placetobreathe - we responded to your report about 20 mins ago. If you've not received it, please check your junk/spam folders as it may have gone there.

Thanks @BeckyAMumsnet
Your email re my report came in at 12.18 I.e after I posted on here.
I made my report in the early hours of this morning - can't remember exactly when - and whilst I hadn't expected an immediate response because of when I reported I had expected an acknowledgement email this morning.

I'm pleased you have deleted the thread.
Given it's subject matter was all guys discussing sexual fantasies on what is supposed to be a site primarily for the benefit of women it seemed really inappropriate.

Hmm it's interesting they only replied on here to tell you they'd (just) responded to your email. No mention to the rest of your comment.

Most of the posters there are blokes, or blokes pretending to be women. When the sex board has been discussed, the vast majority of women said that they would never feel able to post there due to all the creepy men. On other websites, the mumsnet se board is referred to as pervs corner

I find it interesting that mumsnet refused to have a sex board for years because they said it would attract trolls, yet now they seem to give very obvious perverts the benefit of the doubt. It wouldn’t be so bad if they stuck to the sex board but the creeps also spread to the relationship board and any post vaguely about sex, underwear, breastfeeding, periods etc. 🤢

I don’t think mumsnet care, they seem to have tried to ‘sex up’ their site in the last few years and now it’s apparently being sold, so it’s all becoming clear. I think it’ll only get worse.

The weird Scenarios regarding children seem to happen in the night.
There was a few a while back that pertained to mixed sex teens sharing a bedroom but it had weird connotations.
Never posted on sex board.

Disgusting. They must stop this

Everyone is entitled to their opinion & their comments (no matter how stupid).

Posts are only deleted for breaking talk guidelines (though the moderation of that is very variance) Nor for having an opinion you don't agree with.

it is somewhere to debate & be able to express an opinion, MN don't decide what is reasonsble & what isn't.

That's not moderation. That's judgement, control ...