Board for high earners

[BellesAndGraces]

I see that the other thread was started by an OP who wasn’t engaging in good faith. I certainly am so, Mumsnet, can we please have a separate board for high earners? It would be helpful for these threads to be in one place and to avoid them being high jacked by the inevitable “small violin” and “diamond shoes” comments.

Then you’re a povvo

or perhaps I could be on the cusp of being a ‘high earner’, 95k annual each, so close to living above the breadline.

spoiler alert… I’m a povvo

In the interests of fairness, there would then need to be a board for people who are properly rich without needing to do anything so mundane as work.

And one for those on benefits so that they could ask each other questions without (in theory!) getting bashed??

id be intrested to read that as its basically the way society is heading if various industries are replaced my robots and AI

What’s the alternative that you would suggest? People above a certain income level should just be banned from posting?

Because it seems there is a problem with anyone with a higher income mentioning anything to do with it on general threads/topics and, judging by responses on this thread, no appetite to provide a separate area for discussion.

I’m sorry your friend lost her husband in such awful circumstances (forgive me if I don’t scroll back to see if it was your friend or whether you are using the post about her as an example.) Generally, I find MN very supportive to people in difficulty. I’m not saying she should have disclosed her situation but people take the posts they read at face value so how could anyone know. I don’t like the tiny violin posts myself but a lot of people are really struggling financially at the moment so it is hard to be sympathetic when you have very little to manage on.

I don’t like the tiny violin posts myself but a lot of people are really struggling financially at the moment so it is hard to be sympathetic when you have very little to manage on.

No one is asking for sympathy though. Just for somewhere to discuss things without triggering other posters.

(It wasn’t my friend, it was the friend of another poster up-thread).

Yes, I mean people can be unsympathetic about all sorts of things. Who knows whether the OP of the latest parking thread, or whatever is dividing AIBU today, has also suffered a recent tragedy. I don't like snarkiness and meanness as a rule, and I don't think anyone should have to disclose personal tragedies in order to be treated with respect, but how could anyone know about your friend's situation? It feels a bit cheap (forgive the unintentional wordplay) to throw it in as an argument for having a rich person's board.

Not at all. Not one person has said ‘the wealthy may not speak’. I think what we are saying is that asking for a special place so high earners may speak separately from those of us on low, median, or even significantly above median incomes is pretty crass.

But the reality is that anyone with a higher income can expect a pile on. It wasn’t the case a couple of years ago, but it is now, for exactly the reasons you state, and that I alluded to up-thread.

Personally I would just prefer better moderation, as several have suggested. But if that were the reality then a load of posts in this thread would have been deleted.

The alternative to moderation is a separate board or … what? What would you suggest?

I didn’t mean offering sympathy. Perhaps I should have used receptive or open to discussion or something else entirely.

I think you’ve nailed it. Better moderation. Pile ons aren’t a special pain to wealthy posters, fat women and women in receipt of benefits have had a right old bashing today for example.

@MurdoMunro you make a good point.

I think it's a good idea. There should be a space where high earners can discuss without snarky comments.

but at the same time others have been quick to join threads in the already available topic groups and soon as some high earner asks about finances various people that cannot behave soon get the violins out, so its about time for better behaviour from the low earners too if they want the high earners to be more thoughtful with their questions

Seems we have other people requestng boards, just remember back in the day they gave the topic sex its own board because people didnt want sex topics mixed with general threads, so if they can give sex its own board then why not finance

There is a whole topic for discussing Private Education yet all the posts about VAT seem to be being put in aibu

There is a topic for finance..

Yeah, the high earners already monopolise AIBU, so I'm all for a board to keep them away from the rest of us, with their sneery '£400 is cheap for a watch' derailing comments. But MN needs to be more proactive in shifting stuff out of AIBU into the appropriate boards too.

‘Posting here for traffic’. Ok good luck with that…

It won't work - you'll still get the comments, as this thread has shown. Especially if it ends up on 'trending' - it will then get treated as if it is in AIBU.

A lot of the threads where people get abuse seems to stem from overestimating the immediate lifestyle they expect from a higher salary and then moaning about it - especially first generation higher earners.

Most questions can be answered with some research and if not then financial advice and planning can be paid for, and probably should be.

It won't work - you'll still get the comments, as this thread has shown. Especially if it ends up on 'trending' - it will then get treated as if it is in AIBU.

Just shield it from showing up in active like they do with other boards.

So not only a separate board for high earners but a protected board 🤔

a board where if someone says they are playing a tiny violin they get ‘insta banned’

that would take a LOT more mods

Separate, shielded, protected...a sort of online gated community?