Private conversations held on MN

[Ohwhatacircusitis]

I thought MN was a public forum where essentially any one with a registered account could start a thread. And the thread was open to anyone with a registered account to join in the discussion .

Why then are " private threads " allowed? Where essentially certain MN users have a private conversation with each other which is being conducted on a public forum? I'm thinking here of the New Fred thread in 30 days, although I have seen other examples in the past.

Surely this isn't what MN is supposed to be about?
Why can't these posters use the private messaging facility or conduct their conversation elsewhere.

Total cliquism vibes.

That's a considered and helpful response. I think the OP is new to Mumsnet so probably wasn't familiar with 30 days only.

I agree. I don't think every thread needs to include everyone.
But it's also ok to acknowledge that the OPs feelings of exclusion are valid.
Not everything has to be black or white.

some people would start a fight with a paper bag.

She has posted a couple of times on this thread and seems very amiable.

Of all the threads op could have postered on she chooses one in 30 days that she didn't have a clue about

Come on

Look how unexclusionary this thread is, lots of people just joining in 😃

Exactly. The OP’s sarcastic “Might be helpful if…” opening suggested she thought she hadn’t been given the information she needed to contribute - when in fact she didn’t need to contribute at all. OP was acting like she was the only person in a room and everyone else there had deliberately started a conversation they knew she couldn’t join. MN isn’t like that. You have access to thousands of conversations; if you don’t understand what one is about, you can join another in a couple of clicks.

“Not everything is for/about you” is a valuable lesson that most of us learn as children. Unfortunately some adults still haven’t learnt it.

It could run for years and years

"How I made an arse of myself on Mumsnet (or elsewhere) today."

Keeps us all humble.

This is Fred! 🙂 Years ago I got this wonderful fellow from a cat rescue. I started threads after him because I was running out of ideas of thread titles! It stuck. 🙂 You are all welcome to post, read etc.

Fred is gorgeous! 😍

He definitely deserves his title!

He is indeed a handsome fella.

He's beautiful!

I honestly thought Fred was a silly way to say thread and that you had got bored of typing Thread 10 or Thread 17 and you started typing Fred 20 instead. Like a little (harmless!) inside joke.

Yep, even an admin has posted!

I daren't check for any deletions but I think we were all well behaved for a change 😇

I had a Fred!

He was beautiful and audacious - he once brought a roast chicken carcass through the cat flap! I was vegetarian so it wasn’t from us.

Do you think?

I meant the OP of the Fred Thread was very amiable.
Not the OP of this thread.

😅

I'm here!!!!!!

Would someone like to explain to me what this is all about then?

A disenchanted MNetter has deleted her account because of your thread(s)
🤣🤣🤣

Where did I go wrong in my life??

Quiches used to be a big thing on MN back in the day. The Wolefs, the Puddlehumpers, the Fucknuggets…

I like a quiche. We're having one for tea tomorrow.

This thread is wild!

OP, your posts on this thread are obscure, long-winded, make arcane references to other threads. Summarised, all you are saying is "me, me, me, me, me". That's the very definitive of non-inclusive.

Do you think this thread of yours will be interesting enough to others and create enough of a community to become a long-running thread?

btw, someone upthread said there 'used to be' a thread about the Archers. Very much still there, 173 threads in and including in its inhabitants people who knew each other on websites that have been closed for years, united by their love for Shula and Kenton.

Or something.

Welcoming to newbies and usually ready with explanations of the in-jokes, even if it takes a little time.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/radio_addicts/5164477-archers-thread-173-the-fall-of-the-house-of-grundy-discuss-the-archers-here?page=1