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Moderation Sex Board

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onirgellep · 13/04/2023 23:06

Back in February Justine* committed to an urgent review of moderation of the Sex Board subsequent to the considerable concerns mainly arising from the longstanding Sex Chat thread

Unsurprisingly, issues continue

Would it be possible to have an update on the progress of the review?

And hear when do you anticipate it being completed and the new moderation put into action?

Thank you

I'm afraid I'm unable to link Justine's post on the thread References to Underage Sex on the Sex Board* page 13

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TheShellBeach · 16/04/2023 11:42

everywhichway · 16/04/2023 11:40

Search for a thread entitled "Unsolicited threads" in Site Stuff. You'll see an example of MN announcing the banning of an offender.

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Occasionally, MNHQ says that do-and-so has proved to a PBP or PBTroll, and that they have been banned again. They do not usually announce that X or Y have been banned, though.

everywhichway · 16/04/2023 11:45

Take my word. Therr were several like this.

TheShellBeach · 16/04/2023 11:46

everywhichway · 16/04/2023 11:45

Take my word. Therr were several like this.

Screenshots?

everywhichway · 16/04/2023 11:48

How tiresome.

Surplus2requirements · 16/04/2023 11:49

TheShellBeach · 16/04/2023 11:40

".............................when people (including yourself) , went over to the sex topic and trolled it with vile comments"

No. I have never posted on the sex topic.
Envy

Sorry that's not true. Several posts by you are still on the Sex Board.

HornyBee · 16/04/2023 11:49

TheShellBeach · 16/04/2023 11:40

".............................when people (including yourself) , went over to the sex topic and trolled it with vile comments"

No. I have never posted on the sex topic.
Envy

What a complete liar! 🤣🤣🤣

I've tagged you a thread on the sex topic that you commented on several times to help refresh your selective memory.

MathsNervous · 16/04/2023 11:53

horridjobescapee · 16/04/2023 08:02

I hope MNHQ will return to the thread with an update but suspect it will be Monday at least before there is anything further from them, as I'm sure they have less staff on the weekends (and possibly no senior staff available on the weekends).

Exactly. Working weekends is so overrated.

TheShellBeach · 16/04/2023 11:56

MathsNervous · 16/04/2023 11:53

Exactly. Working weekends is so overrated.

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I agree - that's why I'm an Old Lady these days.
Grin

LangClegsInSpace · 16/04/2023 11:59

BenCoopersSupportWren · 16/04/2023 09:06

As mumsnet say- they're a site for adults. Children should not be here.

Unfortunately “they shouldn’t have been here” won’t stand as much of a legal defence for MNHQ in the event of a minor being exposed to explicit sexual content on their site or allowing posts discussing underage sex for to stand for titillation, if they haven’t made even the most basic efforts to restrict the site to over-18s.

You can have part of a site dedicated to talking in detail about sex (including kinks and fetishes) with much tighter safeguarding controls, or you can have more relaxed controls and no dedicated sex talk area. You cannot safely have both. This is the part MNHQ don’t seem able to fully grasp.

Bringing in references to threads about DV or toxic relationships is pure whataboutery. Those things may be distressing for a child to read (or indeed someone of any age) but they are not illegal. Also, any children stumbling across MN are unlikely to want to wade through pages of posts about cheating husbands, should I go NC with my MIL, was this argument abusive etc looking for sexual content, but when there’s a board right there called Sex with topics quite clearly about vibrators, squirting, anal, orgasms, shaving genitals etc…it’s somewhat handed to them on an age-unrestricted plate.

If you can’t see the difference then I suggest you learn a bit more about safeguarding.

Exactly this.

LangClegsInSpace · 16/04/2023 12:01

BenCoopersSupportWren · 16/04/2023 09:56

I’m talking about keeping references to underage and illegal sex off Mumsnet. If I can only get people to support me on that subject by talking nicely about it, the problem is not with my tone but with the people who don’t automatically think not giving paedophiles and perverts an open platform is a bad thing.

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And this. Fucking hell!

TheShellBeach · 16/04/2023 12:05

I’m talking about keeping references to underage and illegal sex off Mumsnet. If I can only get people to support me on that subject by talking nicely about it, the problem is not with my tone but with the people who don’t automatically think not giving paedophiles and perverts an open platform is a bad thing

This is exactly the problem. This is the subject matter of this thread.

TheShellBeach · 16/04/2023 12:07

FWIW I did report the thread which contains the image of the painting, referenced earlier in this thread. It was overnight though, so nothing was done.

HornyBee · 16/04/2023 12:11

Nothing you say can be credible now unfortunately because you've proven yourself to be a liar.

And you won't even acknowledge it.

Change the subject quick and hope nobody notices!

Mermaidparades · 16/04/2023 12:13

I know @TheShellBeach likes a screenshot - from the Sex Board. In February.

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HornyBee · 16/04/2023 12:15

Mermaidparades · 16/04/2023 12:13

I know @TheShellBeach likes a screenshot - from the Sex Board. In February.

I've tagged her in 2 posts on the sex board that she commented on, but I think she's hoping if she stays silent nobody will notice 🤣

HornyBee · 16/04/2023 12:16

HornyBee · 16/04/2023 12:15

I've tagged her in 2 posts on the sex board that she commented on, but I think she's hoping if she stays silent nobody will notice 🤣

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Or he, sorry.
Shouldn't assume gender!

LarkLane · 16/04/2023 13:00

LangClegsInSpace · 16/04/2023 12:01

And this. Fucking hell!

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Absolutely this.

LarkLane · 16/04/2023 13:04

Sorry about the lack of clarity in my post above.. I meant to quote the person who said.

I’m talking about keeping references to underage and illegal sex off Mumsnet. If I can only get people to support me on that subject by talking nicely about it, the problem is not with my tone but with the people who don’t automatically think not giving paedophiles and perverts an open platform is a bad thing

Mermaidparades · 16/04/2023 13:09

@LarkLane HornyBee and I have already addressed this, it isn’t the fact that anyone here wants perverts or paedophiles. However, why would anyone volunteer to read patronising and condescending posts. So yes, in fact tone is important if you intend to reach a wider audience on a forum.

MNHQ
PipMumsnet · 16/04/2023 14:18

Hello everyone - we've been getting a huge amount of reports about this thread so we just wanted to step in to politely request an end to what is becoming quite bullying behaviour.

Discussions like this often get heated but we'd like to remind you that Mumsnet is here to make parents' lives easier. While we encourage healthy and robust discussion, we hope that everyone can respect each other in their choices and express their views without resorting to personal attacks.

Peace and love
MNHQ

Mermaidparades · 16/04/2023 14:31

Thank you @PipMumsnet 💗

Pixiedust1234 · 16/04/2023 14:46

@BenCoopersSupportWren your tone in your posts was perfectly fine. As were your words ❤

BenCoopersSupportWren · 16/04/2023 14:47

One of the threads you were wanting taken down for references to underage sex wasn't even on the sex topic. And I know there was one discussed under the parenting topic. And the rugby post- not on the sex topic.

If that is a response to my earlier post, all three posts about underage sex that I refer to were in the same thread, on the Sex board.

(It’s unclear whether it is a reply to my post; you respond to several points I made so it seems to be, but I haven’t referred to the rugby thread or any other specific threads at all, so not sure who that part was aimed at.)

MidnightWordle · 16/04/2023 15:41

Thanks pipmumsnet.

A poster being asked to find sex content for a man does have a bullying/intimidation feel to it, as does the pressure put on others to take it as a joke. Hopefully they’ll realise that now.

Great that mumsnet have decided to leave the thread up despite the attempts to de rail. Some fantastic points being raised.

Mermaidparades · 16/04/2023 15:47

@MidnightWordle it’s also great that MN have deleted all those nasty comments directed at Surplus last night. I’m so glad they’re stamping out bullying.

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