Why is Sex topic now in Active?

[clarrylove]

It never used to be there before. It doesn't really seem appropriate with some of the titles.

So many perv vibes, even on this thread. They just invade everywhere. Women saying they’re uncomfortable and what do you know. Up pops ‘man here’ to tell us all how it is. Mumsnet is going to lose women if they keep getting it wrong...the vibrator for ‘vulva owners’ and putting the sex topic in active again...women are fed up with this shit.

Think its now safe to assume pretty much anything posted by Mumsnet is an ad, designed to make them money.

@CountryMusicHottie we really are. It's so shit. We've got some persistent bloke on this thread which is basically slating him and what do you know? He still hangs around

Despite 'feeling unsafe' as he says so himself on the 'sex chat' thread

You couldn't make it up really

Do you know how offensive and ridiculous you sound? A forum predominantly for women and we have a bloke whinging about how unsafe he feels

The only reason the spaces are 'safe' is because they're female. If all the blokes move into the female space, it becomes unsafe.

Instead of attempting to have safe male space, properly moderated, women are supposed to provide it for Nice Guys. Why? Why can't men work on safe male space, which I agree is really important and needed.

Since my first post on this thread I've agreed that sex threads need to be taken off active and the posting delay after registration needs to be increased.

Everyone should feel safe posting especially a woman in the sex thread without being accused of being a wanking man and shamed for their post on another board.

Not joining in the argument, just posting to say that being invited to see a thread about rimming makes me want to throw up. Also ads for vibrators 🤢

it also makes me close the site down, and stop crediting Mumsnet as a source for news.

Example : me : ‘Nicola Sturgeon has resigned!’

DH ‘ where did you see that, I’ll go and have a look’

Me ‘ oh it just came up on some site I was looking at, it will probably be on Sky by now ‘.

It's by far the best source I've found for information about the war in Ukraine.

The vibrators everywhere was a bit bizarre

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again:

The users of the site are not the customers, they’re the product.
And it’s a bit disturbing to see how MNHQ are marketing their product.

@LilyMumsnet @HopeMumsnet any update on this please? Also, is it possible to hide topics on the app?

You are been dreadful. I am a woman. I have been on Mumsnet for 12 years or so and I'm also on the sex chat thread.
Are you saying I'm lying about been a female???
@Surplus2requirements is absolutely right that you are making people feel like they should be ashamed. Of what? I'm not sure. Your replies are nasty. You just want to argue because he's a man. A man that has done nothing to you and is following the rules and talking guidelines. He has as much right to be here as you.
Your argument is with Mumsnet so just stop the nastiness and name calling and grow up.

@Fivetoomany clearly a sex topic fan!

I'm not sure what you are insinuating. Can you be more clear?

To be honest, we don’t give a fuck who you are, especially as your main priority is to defend the ‘poor men’. We just don’t want pervy threads in our active list. You keep sticking up for the pervs that have placed themselves on this thread with women expressing discomfort. Not interested.

I don't see why the sex topic shouldn't be in active threads if it's active. Sex is nothing to be ashamed of, unless you're an aul pearl clutcher scared of spitting out your tepid green tea

😂

@CountryMusicHottie again so hostile. Your argument is with Mumsnet. I also don't want it in active because of these horrible threads. You can't just keep calling every man on here Pervy. None of these men have called you names, in fact I think they have been very restrained considering what is been said about them. You do not own Mumsnet. It is open for all.
You few people threatening to leave and cancel subs, Mumsnet don't give a shit. Your a tiny minority. But name calling and general nastiness is just uncalled for and childish.

It's not pearl clutching to have boundaries.

One of the main reasons many women want this to be private is because so many boundaries are being eroded. They are seen as a negotiation start for men's wishes.

By all means talk about rimming or squirting. Knock yourselves out. I'd rather not see it on Active.

Unfortunately it just leads to the kind of witless, ill-informed abuse and vitriol that has characterised so many of the comments on this thread.

@Fivetoomany I'm not insinuating anything. You're a sex topic fan. And that's clear.

I'm not a sex topic fan. And that's clear too.

I'm not a Pearl clutcher either. I think sex is fine to be discussed (of course it is) but there's a fine line between discussing sex on MN and having a dedicated space on a parenting site for sex hook ups with married men and if you can't differentiate between the two then 🤷‍♀️

@Fivetoomany its very kind of you to stick up for these poor men who aren't feeling safe on a predominantly female site

I'm sure they'll show their appreciation in your DMs

I genuinely don't have a problem with sex being in active. I don't click on anything that I don't want to read. And most of the men's posts that I have read are respectful towards women.

However, I do hate all the DM's from (usually married) men looking for a quick hook up. These men are often NOT the ones posting, just the ones lurking.

I do with the time limit of 90 days was still there...

witless, ill-informed abuse and vitriol

Such drama.

Hopefully!!🤞 can have a nice chat about how to make me squirt 😍😍😍

Right, I'm now upset that I'm not getting DMs off of my prolific Sex board posting.

Actually now I think about it, yes I did once! Didn't really understand it tbh. Anyway, it did seem a change from the past on MN.

@juliettesmother that's interesting, do you report them? If you do, do they get booted? I'd hope so.

Sex being on active does seem to be an issue for many but yes, I agree the delay after registration should be much longer to discourage sleazy chancers