Qui tacet consentire videture... I want it to be understood by MNHQ and by guests to this site that my silence on the subject of the recent speculative threads does NOT condone their existence.

[Aitch]

Aitch.

Agree with aitch's post @ 13.57.57.

Couldn't agree more Aitch, thanks for starting this thread

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench

please keep the latinised version of your name. It makes me !

I have never felt the need to read one of those threads - and certainly not join the ghoulish speculation - so had no idea what happened until I opened this thread out of interest. I find the relentless media frenzy repugnant (BBC news this morning went live to the villa this morning panting that they believed the family would be leaving the villa at any moment ffs [sickened emoticon]). I would hate to be lumped in with people who enjoy that kind of tabloid sensationalistic shite, and add my name to this thread
2H

at MN quotes in ElPais

Am not sure where I stand on this to be completely honest. MB - I admire you and understand where you are coming from. And Aitch of course. And I do agree that some of the so called discussions were completely distasteful. (I particularly objected to the many emoticons I saw on a what is in reality a very sad thread.)

However I also object to the bullying that has gone on from some quarters at ANY mention of the McCann case in anyway. This started soon after Madelaine's disappearance. And it IS newsworthy. Most of us feel some degree of empathy. Of course I do not understand totally what the family are feeling - but I am a mother and I can imagine some of what I would be feeling if ANYTHING happened to my child. Yet if anyone posted anything along those lines they were also pounced on. That left a bad taste in my mouth I'm afraid.

So while I agree that the wild theories are "not in my name", I would also like to make it clear that, as a member of Mumsnet, the bully and childish behaviour on other threads relating to Madelaine McCann and her family are ALSO not in my name and I feel that they are equally disrespectful.

But if you hate the ghoulish speculation (and I do) then why not go and say so. This seems a bit oblique to me. Fascinated by the thread btw but not sure I understand where people are coming from.

Is it "I am silent and I want to hear my silence".

Sort of "You have to know I disapprove but I'm not going to actually say so."

Explain someone please.

Chalat

Nicely put Budababe.

It too in fact see where Aitch is coming from, have given it thought, but for all those saying "I have never felt the need to post.." blahdeblah.. that's fine. Some of us have wanted to post. This does not however make us ghoulish, gleelful, disrespectful or wrong. Nor should be need to justify. Most of us, myself included, have never posted anything that anyone could be offended by. And those of you offended by the fact that we posted at all.. YABU.. truly.. it has and is being dicussed many places and in all walks of life. Your unreasonable disapproval will not change that.

And this is a thread related to the same subject. So you too have now posted.

Because when people did go and tell them to stop (like McEdam) they were shounted down.

Because people have elected to ignore the threads the vile comments have proliferated. The posters of these threads think that their behavior is normal.

If you try to argue the point with them you are shouted out, or told not to read the threads.

Since we cannot bump them out of existantace, and some of the posters are so beyond resons (seamingly) this is a way of regestering out disaporoval.

People using their right of free speech to say that they find some threads vile.

Okay. Got it.

This really does refer to such a small minority of posters though doesn't it.

we could stil bump them out of exsistance though - MN would surely hnot ban al of us???

we could bump themo ut by saying thingws like This thread is vile 100 times???

I had nothing to do with it.

I'm just the hot chick who goes on the marches and looks good in a vest.

I couldn't give a hoot how few people are doing this, if its wrong, its wrong!

There might not be many racists on MN, but if some group started sputing nazi crap, you could bet your boots that people wouldn't sit by and just ignore it.

These 'speculations' were vile. And worthless. Who do they help? What does such 'discussion' advance? And the people making them need to think long and hard about why theu think such discussion is helpful or healthy. Because honestly, I'd be worried if a RL mate wanted to discuss such things, and I'd try to get her to stop.

I think the thing to do is not post on them at all (I know I am guiklty of opening my big cakehole on them)

Let them, drop out of active convos altoegethr.

I find them v distasteful and specualtive. Not good.

Desi

TnOg

IGW, we tried that , but there is a hard core of posters who go on, and on, and on, about it.

and by not posting, we gave them the feeling that they were probably in the majority view.

Oh, sorry for got to sign my name

wallrarse

True, MB

You can't keep a good nutter down, and all that