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Original poster

Trans topic. Please.

165 replies

Universitychallenging · 22/03/2017 13:10

Please can we have a trans topic. The site is over run with trans threads and I'd like to be able to hide the whole lot of them.

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SookiesSocks · 23/03/2017 07:37

Sounds to me that you want a topic created because you are not terribly interested and some posters disagree with your opinion.

This is the impression I have too.

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Universitychallenging · 23/03/2017 07:49

I'm just fed up with the boards being over run with them. I have never said anything else. There are topics for example like Ebola and petitions and Euref that relevant threads get moved to - what is different about trans?

But actually, I think the filter (which wasn't an idea I had considered) would be a better idea and I'd love to know if that is possible, technically.

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RufusTheRenegadeReindeer · 23/03/2017 07:54

I think the filter would be a good idea university

I think coralling trans into a separate topic is a bad idea

wonder if its possible

Beachcomber · 23/03/2017 07:58

And I think it would be jolly rude to people who transgender to create an "let's talk about the trans" topic.

SookiesSocks · 23/03/2017 07:58

The borads are not over run at all. That is a complete exagguaration Hmm

The only trans thread I can see in the active list is yours Uni. Not exactly over run now is it?

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Universitychallenging · 23/03/2017 08:00

This may be the only one now, but it wasn't at the time I started it Smile

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SookiesSocks · 23/03/2017 08:06

There were 2 when you started this thread less than 24 hours ago. Again not over run. There was also 2 parking threads but guess what.....i didnt open them cos they dont interest me. Grin

I just find the whole "I cant control myself so need mnhq to do it for me" argument a bit pathetic.

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Universitychallenging · 23/03/2017 08:09

Well I find the constant posting of the same issues on trans threads and the aggressive questioning and patronising tone towards those who have a different viewpoint and the instruction that one needs to go and do xyz and then come back when one has learnt enough to toe the prevailing Party line, and the derailing of threads to trans rather pathetic too Smile so I think we shall just have to agree to disagree.

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RufusTheRenegadeReindeer · 23/03/2017 08:10

Agree with beach

Plus if someone came on looking for support Shock

And i wish when someone does post for support that the first people on the thread didnt keep saying how bad it is on here. There are a few people either trans themselves or closely related who have been very helpful

And in my very limited experience even gender critical posters are careful on those types of threads....and if they are not they should be deleted

SookiesSocks · 23/03/2017 08:12

Then I am sure mnhq will respond to your demands shortly Uni.

I suppose the upshot is I wont have to converse with you on future trans threads. Win win.

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Universitychallenging · 23/03/2017 08:14

It's not a demand. Smile it's merely a question. Given the flak that mnhq were getting last night all over the boards and particularly on a trans thread, ironically, I'm quite sure they have other priorities and this isn't at the top of their list.

Anyone who comes here looking for support is torn to shreds. Look at the hen party thread.

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finagler · 23/03/2017 08:15

The boards have loads of threads that I'm not interested in. Just don't click on them Confused

finagler · 23/03/2017 08:17

Ah. Do you mean you have a strong opinion on something but don't like others having the same? Then just hide them yourself, like unfollowing an annoying friend on Facebook.

finagler · 23/03/2017 08:17

Ah. Do you mean you have a strong opinion on something but don't like others having the same? Then just hide them yourself, like unfollowing an annoying friend on Facebook.

BWatchWatcher · 23/03/2017 08:17

Lol, what the op wants is a 'bury my head in the sand' button.

egosumquisum1 · 23/03/2017 08:18

Trans threads are very similar - you can play trans bingo just like you can play parking thread bingo, BF vs FF bingo etc.

It's impressive to see the familiar posters popping up on them - people certainly are dedicated to getting their message across on MN.

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Universitychallenging · 23/03/2017 08:20

Not a bury my head in the sand option at all.

I just have a different view to the prevailing one on this site that's all.

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Bambambini · 23/03/2017 08:21

who tore the OP to shreds? The OP didn't really want the cousin there but was worried about hurting their feelings and the family fall out for not inviting.

if i remember your POV was to just keep repeating the line that "TW are women" or such. We hesrdvyour point of view - what did you want us to listen and engage about on that view.

Sparklingbrook · 23/03/2017 08:24

I am not sure who anyone is getting their message across to when a lot of posters are hiding the threads as soon as they appear.

Maybe just have one continuing trans thread with the same things being said over and over. Just start a continuation thread every day.

That would also work with BF/FF threads. Grin

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Universitychallenging · 23/03/2017 08:27

Sparkling Grin and parking and buggys v wheelchairs and mil

Agree that no one is going to get their message across, and that's what is frustrating for both sides of the debate. Nor is it likely to change anyone's view. Certainly not mine.

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SookiesSocks · 23/03/2017 08:29

Anyone who comes here looking for support is torn to shreds. Look at the hen party thread.

Th OP on that thread was ripped to shreds by those who said she should invite her cousin who happens to have a penis to an event that she had already decided was females only.
Her concern for her friend who was sexually abused was dismissed and she was labelled a nasty trans hater for being torn by family ties and her friend.

egosumquisum1 · 23/03/2017 08:30

Nor is it likely to change anyone's view. Certainly not mine

I think that some people are now gaining the view that late transitioners are autogynephilic and are getting off on all this as fetish. So they may be changing their perception of late transitioners when they see them and interact with them.

Bambambini · 23/03/2017 08:36

Well i changed my view, i used to be you OP. The IOC rulling made me sit up and i started reading stuff from Transwomen and checked out what they are actually saying on trans forums and on Twitter. I realised i had totally misjudged.

SookiesSocks · 23/03/2017 08:41

Trans threads on mn changed my view too.

I was very much "whats the harm, live and let live" but then Jenner won woman of the year and it did nit sit well with me. I started reading the threads on here about it and it totally opened my eyes.

I still have a live and let live view but that should not be at the expense of women and the rights we have fought for.

I dont like being gaslighted and telling me a person with a penis is a women is just that.

WateryTart · 23/03/2017 08:41

Threads here changed my mind as well. I was happily being a liberal until alerted to the true facts by people here.