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<rings festive bells<adjusts fairy lights> Gather one, gather all, for the Mumsnet Secret Santa 2015!

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SandyMumsnet · 24/09/2015 12:05

Oh the weather outside is frightful,
but Mumsnetters are so delightful,
since we've no place to go,
let gifts flow, let gifts flow, let gifts flow...

Yes, folks, it's that most wonderful time of the year: the day we launch the Mumsnet Secret Santa! True, it's only the end of September, but Santa requires plenty of time to prepare his sleigh Wink

Secret what, you say? You mean you don't KNOW? Grab a snifter of gin and a cinnamon danish and come sit by us while we tell you all about it.

The way it works is this: we ask Mumsnetters to nominate a fellow Mumsnetter* - someone who's had a tough time recently, perhaps, or someone who has been a fantastic source of support to others - to receive a Christmas gift. At the same time, we also ask for gift donations. Once the nominations and donation offers have come in, we at MNHQ match nominees with donors, and contact the donors to tell them where to send their gifts. Et voila: Merry Christmas, everyone.

And just to be clear: this really is a SECRET Santa. Thanks to our tinselled-up tech team, everyone who takes part in the process is anonymous: special Christmas codenames are assigned at the start to both nominee and donor. Neither the team working on matching up nominees to donors nor the donor sending out the present will have anyone's name or username details, and only those who donate will see the address (and only the address - not the username) of the nominee they've been matched with. Security is our number one priority - if you've any questions or concerns, please do ask on the thread (or email us at [email protected]).

But back to the gifts. This year we've created a special

Secret Santa Christmas grotto

where you'll find all the information you need on how to get involved, an explanation of how this annual feat of logistical wonderment works, and an account of how it came about in the first place.

The grotto is also the place where you can make your nomination (at any time between now and October 15th ) and/or pledge to donate (up until 30th October). There are more details about what sort of thing you might wish to give over there too (vouchers are always a good idea), but basically, every gift is welcome. The idea is to spread some festive cheer and make a Mumsnetter's Christmas that little bit more joyful by showing them that they're in your thoughts.

Now, if you'll excuse us, we have something in our eyes.

*Nominated Mumsnetters do need to have been around for six months. We'll be able to see from our end if that's the case, even if they've namechanged.

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dottypotter · 05/10/2015 14:24

lots of hassle me thinks.

skyeskyeskye · 05/10/2015 14:43

I think it is helpful to say girl or boy because sometimes people donate stuff that they have in their house already, maybe a duplicate gift or clothing.

I had a brand new Barbie set a couple of years ago that DD had two of. yes of course a boy might have liked it, but generally most boys don't like Barbie, none of my friends DS's do anyway!. So I would state that my gift is for a girl if I were giving away something like that because it would be pretty pointless matching me with a 10yo boy.

This is why I stick to donating gift vouchers each year, so that it is not a specific gift. It brings some light into somebodys life.

I have been nominated twice now and both times I have given details of DD when requested for more info, as I don't need a gift for myself, but DD loves to receive stuff in the post.

SandyMumsnet · 06/10/2015 12:14

@FruSirkaOla

".... Mumsnet secret santander ..." May I have a wee chuckle at that hilarious typo/DYAC? Grin

It must be so hard for Sandy and her Elves to co-ordinate all of this, but they do a fab job Xmas Smile

Thank you so much Fru! [santa]

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FruSirkaOla · 06/10/2015 15:57

Aw, shucks!
I know it's a labour of love Xmas Wink

Alibabsandthe40Musketeers · 13/10/2015 15:40

I remember that post that compose described upthread, it was awful. The sheer grabbiness was just hideous.

I personally had a bad experience with the secret santa last year so I won't be participating again.

I think it would be nice if there was a way you could send a gift to the person you nominated, then you would have a better idea of what they either needed or would cheer them up, give them a little glow.
But I agree, MN is too big for this now - MNHQ are only human :)

SandyMumsnet · 13/10/2015 16:35

Hello everyone,

A heartfelt thank you goes out to all who have nominated or donated in this year's Secret Santa. It's a very special thing to see the nominee's names and donation pledges roll in.

Thanks for all your thoughts on the Secret Santa. They're always welcome and we do take them on board and try to improve each year. Although not a perfect set up, we hope folk will stick with it and enjoy the festive goodwill and generous spirit that's been a Mumsnet tradition for many years now.

We wanted to give you a heads up that the Nominations page will be closing this Thursday (15th October) so it's your last chance to nominate any Mumsnetter you think could do with a treat.

The lovely Secret Santa Grotto explains how it all works, but if you have any questions, however small, please get in touch with Santa and his Elves at [email protected] and we'll be very happy to help.

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FattyNinjaOwl · 13/10/2015 16:52

I nominated a poster. I hope they accept. If not then at least they will know someone is thinking of them.
I'm unfortunately not in a position this year to donate but if I could I would. Hopefully next year I can. This is my first Christmas on MN and I think this is a great idea.
Xmas Smile

OddSocksHighHeels · 14/10/2015 02:16

I can't donate this year but I have nominated.

Can I nominate more than one person? I had one who came to mind but there's another I'd really love to nominate too.

SandyMumsnet · 14/10/2015 10:33

@OddSocksHighHeels

I can't donate this year but I have nominated.

Can I nominate more than one person? I had one who came to mind but there's another I'd really love to nominate too.

Hi there OddSocksHighHeels Please do not worry about being unable to donate this year, we completely understand. You are most welcome to nominate as many Mumsnetters as you like!

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MrsOs · 14/10/2015 12:59

why isn't this open to everyone, like you all put your names in a hat and then you get allocated a person to send a gift worth £5 or something to? I'm not on here much so don't really have anyone to nominate and would probably never be nominated myself but would have liked to participate in a general secret santa. Shame.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 14/10/2015 13:09

You can participate, MrsOs - if you say you want to send a Secret Santa gift, MNHQ will pair you up with a recipient.

lavent · 14/10/2015 14:57

I'm sorry I'm not in a position to donate either but I have nominated a couple of people (hope that's ok!)

cozietoesie · 14/10/2015 16:37

There you go - MrsOs and lavent are matching off and both participating. Smile

BoreOfWhabylon · 16/10/2015 00:59

Whew! Think I got my nom and don in before deadline.

DonkeyOaty · 16/10/2015 18:37

Well. The first 'I've been nominated" thread has started.

Countdown to disgruntled "but I haven't" commences in 3..2..1..

usual · 16/10/2015 18:39

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DonkeyOaty · 16/10/2015 18:45

Naw.

Oh well, not my monkeys etc.

Nb am delib keeping off the thread in question.

AndDeepBreath · 16/10/2015 19:21

Oh go on then, I'll help out with the first "I haven't" (and after I specifically told you all about the chocolate as well. I'm aggrieved! Grin)

I actually came here to ask, when do we get told who we're buying for? Noticed a Tesco toys sale on at the mo if I ended up matched with someone with kids Smile

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AndDeepBreath · 16/10/2015 21:47

Eh? Secret Santa doesn't mean don't tell anyone does it? It just means you don't know who gives you a gift ... Or you don't at my work anyway.

The only thread I've seen so far is from someone who's given a load of support to people on the miscarriage boards (including me) and I didn't read it as a boast, more an actual thank you.

usual · 16/10/2015 22:12

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BIWI · 17/10/2015 18:44

I can't stand all the moaning and whining about this. Hmm

It's a lovely thing. People who have been having a shit time get sent something from a total stranger. Other people who have made some kind of a contribution on the site get sent something from a total stranger.

Yes, sometimes things go wrong - parcels don't get delivered, people don't say thank you - but for the most part it works really well. Not least because of the amount of work put in by Sandy and her elves.

If you don't like it, don't take part.

Just let the rest of us get on with it.

Oh, and giving to other charities like Women's Aid is something that you can do as well if you want to. The two things aren't mutually exclusive.

BoreOfWhabylon · 17/10/2015 20:19

[applauds BIWI ]

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