Can we please have a ruling on how unsupportive of other parents it is permissible to be

[twittymummyofnone]

within site rules, particularly, but not only, in reference to this thread;

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2094153-To-think-that-a-lot-of-the-time-having-someone-in-the-family-with-a-disability-does-mean-being-long-term-poor

Have NCed obviously, but MNHQ can obviously see who I am and maybe we can get this cleared up one way or the other.

Surely it is the PATTERN of some MNers posts that is significant?

IonaMumsnet commented this thread;

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/site_stuff/2091901-Can-we-talk-about-the-giant-loophole-in-the-talk-guidelines-please

That;

"It is very difficult to tell sometimes what is a VERY general 'you' as in 'you, the rest of the world' or 'you lot on this thread' and what is a veiled insult at a particular poster. It's often more obvious to longstanding MNers who are regulars on certain boards than it is to us."

And there is something of the same at play here.

The MNer in question seems drawn to threads on certain subjects (Lone parents, Carers, Disability, Children with SEN, Benefits, SAHMs, Unemployment) She is very very keen to tell us she has no personal experience of any of these things but she is nevertheless attracted to such threads like a moth to a flame where she never fails to systematically put the boot in to parents coping valiantly in sometimes tough circumstances.

That is why MNers who are interested in those subjects have a clear picture of her MO but some other MNers (see upthread) have never heard of her. It is also why MNHQ, moderating on a post by post basis, fail to see the egresiousness of what she is doing.

YY Derek

Has her PATTERN been reported before?
Mumsnet like patterns to be reported.

It's a bit like, the kid at school who get's bullied for years and when they finally react, they are the ones expelled.

It's no different on here.

Rouge ' in there.

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I am not HappyMummyofOne (just for those of you are unclear)

I picked the name in irritation at last night's goings-on but also to make it clear what I was flagging up.

HTH

I left that thread last night quite early on. You only have to look at a few other websites, forums, and listen to the news to see that she isn't the only one who thinks like that. But that thread wasn't there to tell me I don't try hard enough, or I'm a glass half empty type, it was to discuss the financial implications of being disabled.

When I left it I felt really awful. Repeatedly staying "just inside the talk guidelines" to make people feel really bad is not on. It is goading and it shouldn't be allowed. It is not unintentional, she knows exactly what she is doing.

ok op

Goading is against the rules. She is not staying within the rules

Goading is specifically against the rules? I didn't realise that.

That's because it's allowed to stand so often.

Threads have been deleted for it, if the OP has started it deliberately to goad.

But HM doesn't start the threads - just piles in with the usual bollocks. It's always JUST on the borderline of what you can report it for.

I just don't see it as goading. I don't think she's posting stuff she doesn't believe to get a rise; I think she's putting her view across.
It's not a view posters on this thread or I hold, but it's not trolling etc as I understand it.
People might not agree or like it but just ignore or respond.

Doesnt just have to be an op, does it Sparkling?

Plus she's been on a load of threads that aren't sn related. This just feels like a witch hunt (especially the name change to mimic her) and that's probably because I just see her as A.N.Other poster and not a troll.

Nerf. But she never stops to read posts to correct what she is writing.

It is like someone coming in to trash your house, leaving, repeatedly doing it again in other peoples' houses, and never getting pulled up about it.

Yeah, okay. Fair point.

Yes nerf all different topics but all related to SAHMs and benefits. Like a moth to a flame.

I think many feel witch hunted BY her, certainly as part of certain groups. When it gets to the point that posters are left feeling desperate by one posters comments, isn't it time to do something?

I don't know. I've been hurt by comments on here and just stopped posting in certain topics.
I think I've made my points anyway, not really here to defends anyone's views in detail just say how I feel.

I don't think she's posting stuff she doesn't believe to get a rise; I think she's putting her view across.

Her view? Nerf it's all one way - she never listens or responds to experience, factual corrections or a counter view, just keeps churning out rent-a-quotes like a ticket-machine. It's all about stuff that she knows sod all about and has absolutely noexperience of. And the more upset she causes the happier she seems.