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Troll-hunting and subsequent Thread-ruining

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oneofsuesylvesterscheerios · 07/04/2012 16:42

Yes, in some ways this is a thread about a thread, although its actually an interesting general point too. Plus, I don't want to carry on the discussion on the actual thread as it would be too damaging and would take it off in a completely different direction.

So... If a poster broke the rules and shouted troll, and then they were chastised (rightly) and the post removed, unless the offending surrounding comments reacting to the troll-hunt are removed too, the damage has been done surely?

We assume when someone posts regarding a personal trauma that they are telling the truth (well I hope we do) and if we suspect anything, we surely just ignore these days: we know the MN guidelines, etc.

And we know that certain situations in life happen to a lot of people (bereavement, loss, break-ups, etc). So when someone goes through a horrible time, the beauty of MN is that we don't just get sympathy and unmumsnetty hugs; we get empathy from folk who have been there themselves. We also often get bloody good advice, practical and emotional.

A thread that contains an accusation of troll-hunting is blindingly obvious even when the offending poster's comments have been removed. And thus, the damage is done.

When my dad died last I had some fantastic support from mnetters who'd suffered the loss of a parent and knew how 'rootless' it can make you. I'd have been confused and beyond upset if anyone had questioned my grief online. It doesn't matter how many positive posters there are on thread; just one snarky comment and the wave of a pitchfork is enough to send the OP packing, at a time when they might need the 'anonymous' support of MN most.

So, what I'm asking MN Towers is: if troll-hunting is banned, and it's fully acknowledged how damaging this could be on a thread that offers support to lots of people, often not just the OP, shouldn't all references and posts regarding an accusation be completely removed so the thread can remain intact and totally focused on the thread subject? Otherwise, it seems pointless.

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OracleOnACrossacle · 08/04/2012 23:01

Bread, why are you so keen to find out what gets the trolldar pinging?

I like big pants.

BeerChicksPotter · 08/04/2012 23:02

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PinotCantDoEasterNamesSoGaveUp · 08/04/2012 23:03

Hi-legs? Floozy.

I decided at 36 years and 11 months I should probably not talk about my gusset at 11pm on Easter Sunday Hmm :o

LadyBeagleEyes · 08/04/2012 23:03

Hi legs for me too. Not just any Hi legs M&S Hi legs.

OracleOnACrossacle · 08/04/2012 23:04

no, Im quite fortunate. I tend t wear those half knickers half shorts from primark. no cutting in lacky bands!

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PaquesJeLeVauxBien · 08/04/2012 23:07

I like big pants, with no VPL.

Even though my arse is deflating, along with my boobs, I still like good coverage.

(But when I reach my goal weight I am going to buy myself some really sexy stuff.)

BeerChicksPotter · 08/04/2012 23:07

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OracleOnACrossacle · 08/04/2012 23:07

M&S no VPL pants are ACE!

OracleOnACrossacle · 08/04/2012 23:08

I do have chunky thighs and knobbly ribs though

PinotCantDoEasterNamesSoGaveUp · 08/04/2012 23:09

I don't like those slippery non-VPL pants. they're all a bit of nothing and I worry they'll fry in the tumble dryer.

BIWI you minx. Lucky MrBIWI

I am ne'er ageist Beer you old bag Wink

nenevomito · 08/04/2012 23:10

I like giant M&S cotton pants [bublush]

I used to wear thongs. Never again.

OracleOnACrossacle · 08/04/2012 23:11

I stick mine on the radiator. on top of my cardies.

currently looking for a clear backed, strapless bra. seems that they dont exist.

LeBOF · 08/04/2012 23:11

I like the M&S boy shorts knickers. My arse tends to eat other styles.

BeerChicksPotter · 08/04/2012 23:12

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OracleOnACrossacle · 08/04/2012 23:14

oooh, no tit tape will never hold these saggers in place!

PinotCantDoEasterNamesSoGaveUp · 08/04/2012 23:15

boy shorts get eaten by my bum. I must have an odd arse then.

Nope, a nice sensible mini. I'm a simple gal.

BeerChicksPotter · 08/04/2012 23:18

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usualsuspect · 08/04/2012 23:19

I like a nice big pair of pants tbh

BeerChicksPotter · 08/04/2012 23:20

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oneofsuesylvesterscheerios · 08/04/2012 23:21

Fwiw, SSEN, I wholeheartedly apologise for believing what the other poster on the other thread said regarding you having a 'history' of that kind of thing. Actually I was going to check it out for myself but that in itself felt too hunt-y and amateur-detective.

So that's another thing I shouldn't have taken on face value then, seemingly.

It's all so complicated.

Do some of us simply expect too much of our online dealings, do you think? Do we need to make more of a division between online and RL, and not expect too much between the two? I like to think I'm savvy about most things and what to get involved with and not. I'd never send money, rally round to someone's aid whom I didn't know in RL, etc. but it's not even as simple as that anymore, really. Maybe everything online needs to be taken with a bigger pinch of salt than would normally be exercised in RL.

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PaquesJeLeVauxBien · 08/04/2012 23:21

I tell you, when you're going to the gym regularly with a 23 year old trainer, you pay especial attention to your underwear. Blush

oneofsuesylvesterscheerios · 08/04/2012 23:22

Sorry - I've intruded on a pants debate, so slow was I in composing my last post.

As you were...

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BeerChicksPotter · 08/04/2012 23:23

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usualsuspect · 08/04/2012 23:24

I think to me , like others have said its more like I'm on to you , don't take the piss.

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