Who else is fed up with swearing on MN?

[ByJingoes]

I have been trying to have this discussion on another thread, but don't want to hijack it further.

I am thoroughly sick of excessive swearing on MN. I am sick of encountering posters with sweary names (not least because I have to hide MN as soon as the children come into the room).

MNHQ, could you please look at this again? Every time I mention this on threads, I am told that I have a cat's bum face (which is immensely irritating) and to eff off to Nethuns - yet I loathe the huggy/kissy/hunny stuff, and detest moderation. We are all adults and don't need to be censored. However, part of being an adult surely means having some consideration for other people too?

Here is Justine in May 2005:

"Hi all,
We've had a few complaints about obscene language on the boards. Our policy on this is that we would appreciate it if people would keep foul and abusive language to a minimum and that if you feel it necessary to swear to make your point then use asterisks please [...] we don't want to be over-prudish about this - we're not talking minor offenses here - and sometimes (parking attendant, gp receptionist annecdotes etc etc) we agree that nothing else but a swear word will do but it's a fair point that lots of members look at mumsnet with kids who may be early readers at their side and as the saying goes... less is more sometimes, so if you could use your discretion it would be much appreciated.

Ta very much."

That seems eminently sensible - but MN seems to have somehow slithered into a site for sweary people only.

Am I the only person who is utterly fed up with it?

hardly ever swear on here I mean dodgy grammar

APF, the short answer to your question is: emphatically yes.

Comments like "I told you that you would get a hearing, BJ

And so you did." may not have any c*s in them, but they're really quite nasty.

I thought my OP was perfectly reasonable, and hoped for some kind of rational discussion (and, of course, that more people would agree with me!) However, it has descended into banter and ridicule. Ah well. I am certainly not going to flounce - probably just have a break.

Why does someone not liking swearing trump people who do like swearing?

i thought AF was actually being nice to you and gently joking with you, tbh. She is not some kind of horrid bully, far from it.

Sorry Aitch - I do realise that other people share ByJingoe's views. But it was 'one poster' who made the request via this thread.

I'm not saying for one minute that others aren't offended by swearing. But none of them (at least today!) has started a thread asking for MN to change.

fanj I felt bullied by you

I liked it though

LOL.

I'd never go out to bully anyone, didn't even read the thread, just have an immature sense of humour and saw the opportunity to have a laugh.

oh no i just said "LOL" that is worse than swearing.

perhaps they daren't, biwi... the same crowd come on and rip the piss every time.

anyway, i'm off. have torn the ligaments in my ankle and am on crutches etc, don't need any more stress on here. glad you're only taking a break, by jingo ByJingo.

OP I agree with you about the swearing. The odd word wouldn't bother me but some posters seem to get a thrill out of swearing. All seems a bit juvenile to me.

I am sorry you feel like that, BJ but the person who said if you have been here for 5 yrs you knew how this would go, has it spot on

or people with the same silly sense of humour come on and have a laugh about the subject of swearing, very different to "ripping the piss from the OP".

Bit harmful to describe it as that, if they didn't actually intend that, will make OP feel worse.

Far better to apologise to OP for offence taken and explain noone meant to have a go at her.

Rather than making it into something it is not.

fuck, I just buggered up a name change

now that deserved a swear word...

yes, as does the fact the dinner just burnt here as I was trying to defuse situation.

Well, apologies to the OP if anything I have said has made her feel bullied or unhappy.

I like a bit of swearing online as I don't do it in RL. I think I made a few salient points earlier which I'm not going to repeat.

I have a very immature silly sense of humour which seems to be shared with a few other MNers. I'd rather be accused of being childish than boring. My mum always says we've got years of being adults, but only a short few of being a child. I'm keeping my fresh faced youthfulness for as long as possible. (I'm referring to humour now, rather than swearing).

Anyway, apologies again to OP. MN is a site for everyone, and no one should be made to feel bullied or ganged up on, regardless of your views.

But after 5 years, I'm honestly that you are in any way surprised by the amount of swearing on here.

So because OP turned out to be the minority on this thread, everyone who disagreed are bullies? .
I must go and read the whole thing again, as I seem to have missed that.

I, too, will apologise unreservedly if anything I have posted has made you feel bullied.

It's a Never the Twain thing innit?

Those who don't mind or like swearing will never understand those who don't.

And vice versa.

That's it, really.

Saywolef, you're childish

LovelyAitch, I have gently disagreed with you on a couple of sweary threads and I would be MORTO if you felt you had been bullied by me. Genuine grovels if that is the case.

Jeez. The bullying card. That didn't take long. I find that awfully offensive tbh.

What are people to do?

When you sit in a pub with friends and someone starts a conversation, then leaves for a bit, then comes back, then leaves - do you still expect the conversation to be the same as the one you started??

That's what has happened on this thread - OP said stop swearing, majority of people said no, followed by reasoned debate from both sides, Still not in agreement the thread moves on to talking shit. Why exhaust ourselves going round in circles.

need the like button for that post!

Velvet, will you please for once say something I disagree with so I can stop licking your arse??!

FGS woman.

Stop bringing logic and intelligence to this discussion. It's ridiculous.

I agree with Aitch.

And there's such a thing as taking responsibility for your own behaviour.

People seem to be very very sorry if they have bullied Aitch, but not at all sorry if they have bullied the OP.

hang on.

i said that on another thread covering a similar situation that I, and i was specific in saying 'much as i hesitate to use the word', had felt bullied.

anyfucker said 'do you feel bullied, OP?' and the OP replied 'emphatically yes'.

so whatever you guys think you are doing in having your jokes and larks, don't ask someone 'do you feel bullied?' unless you are ready to hear the answer.

unless it is somehow the OP's fault (and mine) for being a weak little princess again and not finding the piss-taking that brilliant fun, actually? and it is piss-taking, let's not pretend otherwise. having a laugh at someone else's expense is synonymous.

and no, SuePurbly, i have no recollection of who what saying what that made me feel that way, so bear no grudge and do not need an apology, but thanks anyway, that was most gracious.