mn hq, is it really wise to have topics that are deamed so agressive/scary that most members don't want to post there?

[wannaBe]

have just read a thread in the doghouse topic, and posts from a few posters saying that they never post there due to the agressive responses there.

Now, I know that hiding a topic could always be an option, but is it really in the spirit of mn to have separate topics that are deamed so unwelcoming/agressive that few posters actually want to post there?

I can of course see the need for certain sections, conception/sn/relationships, but it just seems against everything that mn stands for to let a topic exist that is frequented only by a few individuals while the majority feel that the responses there are agressive enough to warrant not feeling comfortable there.

Why can't we just go back to having a pets topic?

The doghouse is pretty bad, it's sad.
Why has no one mentioned AIBU? The warnings at top of that should be NEON and font 34 high.
On Mothering.com you dare not say anything about carseats unless you are a militant rear-facer.
I dare not go on FancyRats & confess I just let my lovely pet rat die of old age rather than take her to the Vet almost daily (and spend hundreds or even thousands) on what was already an elderly animal with multiple chronic problems.
I guess every community website develops these group-mind-think-bullying problems, it's not just an MN thing. There's something about the Internet that makes the extremists the noisiest.

Ragged speaks the truth. I have seen people torn to pieces on chicken forums over home hatching. It's best not to engage with it imo.

I don't think that's true at all Maryz. I think that if you were trying to weigh up her quality of life you would find people very supportive. I think that if you were wanting to put down a healthy animal because you never really wanted a dog anyway and it's your partner's and it's old and occasionally incontinent you'd be roasted. And deservedly so.

People are firmly informed that buying a pup/kitten from someone down the street whose pet has just had a litter contributes to the problem of unwanted stays. Because it does. There are thousands of animals that are awaiting homes and a responsible owner neuters their pet. They don't think they 'ought to let them have babies first' and whine when people point out there's no evidence to support that. One litter that go to good homes sounds great. Unless those homes also think they should have one litter and within a few years your one litter has resulted in hundreds of cats.

People talk about nestle and it's behaviour in the developing world on threads that mention FF. They have the right to. The fact that it's unpleasant and seems far removed from the experience of someone living in Milton Keynes doesn't mean that it's not true or relevant when the money they hand over for a milky bar in Tesco ends up in the same coffers that fund formula promotion in countries with unsafe drinking water supplies. There is space for the bigger picture.

@Lougle

That's the thing QueenofFeckingEverything. I have been a member on Mumsnet for so long, I had to check when I joined in my registration. 6 years. I know how MN works. I know and love the way it operates. But this is something different.

Whilst the poster(s) in question are perhaps not breaking the explicit rules of MN (well let's face it, there aren't many), the sentiments and tone are beyond reasonable, IMO. In fact, I think even the feminist threads are less fierce than The doghouse.

@WorzselMummage

MNHQ have been made aware of the issue before afaik.

hello
Please do (re)report anything specific we should see - there's couple of HQ still on hols and I'm only just back from mat leave so am not entirely clued up.

Thanks
MN Towers

Thanks Pinot - I think I only saw the start of that where it was funny.

How are the Wolefs?!

I feel I must add that when I was left high and dry with day old kittens and CPL/RSPCA/local charity telling me to leave them to die - it was the advice and support from the very posters being alluded to here that told me what to do and convinced me I could cope with it.

There are two sides to every story, you know?

I felt the S & B post was about me and if I am right it felt mean to me.

sorry LRD I xposted with you! They're great - 19 weeks now and ruling the entire house doing great :)

That S&B thread was blardy funny!

Oh Fab I've xposted with you now!

I don't think it was at all, no. You'd have to ask cod fo'sure but I thought it was just silly funny.

Aww, lovely!

They were so cute in their baby pictures, I loved that thread.

About you, Fab? Why? I thought you and Cod were MN buddies? I really, really don't think it was about you. It was just Cod being bored and wanting people to notice her, surely?

Cod and I have never been MN buddies.

Fab. I have no reason to dislike you. Really. I have no axe to grind was only being silly dick.

Let's be mates we can swap clothes and shag each othershusbands.. looks pleadingly ;)

You smell pretty nice from here though. Oh yes

Surely the way to improve the situation in 'the dog house' (and AIBU too) is to report to mumsnet when posters overstep the mark as advised.

Also for reasonable people to post on those topics and not just ghettofy them by hiding them.

by all the name changing .

Ooh that wily minx was hiding here all along.

#impressed

I have not been in the Doghouse, will check it out. Irl though I am finding that the smell of dogs makes me want to vomit. Pregnancy naseau and dogs really do not mix well .

HTH get a vizsla - they don't smell doggy at all :)

There are whole fora dedicated to chickens? Wow!

There are indeed. And they are inhabited by Serious Keepers, who show their birds in big competitions. They scoff at us humble Back Garden Keepers and the fairy lights on our coops. We ate also mocked for naming our birds and/or taking them to the vet instead of necking them and feeding them to our pet ferrets. If you point out that you don't have a pet ferret, you will be greeted with deep suspicion.