Please please lovely byootiful mnhq, please will you get rid of AIBU?

[bibbitybobbityhat]

Not because it brings out the dirty bad sad side of MN.

Not because there are lots of fights.

Not because people use it as an excuse to be foul ("well, this is AIBU - what did you expect sucker?")

Just because it makes us look like a bunch of ignorant cnuts.

Every type of subject under the sun gets posted in AIBU. People have not really grasped the concept/thinking behind it.

So when you get titles like AIBU to ask what is your favourite colour/biscuit/film and other similar general nonsense questions ad infinitum

then

it just makes Mumsnet look like a VERY dumbed-down site indeed.

Thanks.

Chaos: it was marvellous, it was about this bride who's auntie was insisting that they didn't need to buy in much drink for the wedding because her DS could do them a special deal... and very gradually it dawned on everyone (including hardline atheists like me who just happen to have gone to a CofE primary school) that it was a riff on the water-into-wine myth.

Boo!! AIBU is the most interesting part of MN. So much more fun than all those sodding boring other forums with their groups hugs and sparkles.

People are going to post where they think they will get the most answers back and there already is a seperate place for other questions...the Chat thread.

Dare I say that I dont think AIBU in itself is the problem? I had a two year break from mn and on my return I couldn't believe the topic list....It's HUGE! Much quicker to post in AIBU I would imagine, although I wouldn't dare to...yet! (Plus, I've never used active convos, only last hour or last 15 mins and AIBU is almost at the top of my page...I get bored after i've scrolled down to see much else...because i'm a lazy cow).

I think you are probably right frogs.

How many posts start with 'I'm not sure where to put this?' these days?

I agree there are far too many topics now. I only use active convos (when I have my quite day at work) and will follow a thread that looks intersting, they're always the ones in AIBU I'm afraid so I vote to keep it. plus, if you get rid of it, all you'll be doing is shifting it all onto chat.
Chat will just be full of threads starting 'AIBU to.....'.
leave things as they are.

There was a thread the other day that said "AIBU to want a chat topic" Cue 25 replies that said "look at the topic list"

That is the problem with AIBU users. They can barely read. And if they can read, they can't be bothered to.

at worries that the stupid mumsnetting rubs off on everyone

and some of us are better than that ain't we

there are stupid people all over mn and bright people too

"if you don't like it go to another forum"

have come to really enjoy this phrase in the end

As a newbie I've found the AIBU threads on the whole pretty funny. When the bitching or bullying starts I back off and don't post. I'm fairly thick skinned though so it doesn't put me off the site, I just go to another thread. But for more sensitive souls it could be very off putting.
There was a thread where a young mum posted about her mother dying and how angry she was at not being able to go to Glastonbury/enjoy life etc. There were some sensitive responses but the OP was also flamed for being insensitive. Now perhaps she could have worded her post in a less controversial way but the girl was feeling desperate and angry and panicked. It was a call for support. Sometimes the responses I read make me worry. So much judgement. I know everyone's different and that heaping all women together and saying the sisterhood should stick together is naive but I do like to think the nastiness of some has no place here.
On the whole I'm really enjoying AIBU but it does feel a bit messy and lazy. Every subject under the sun is dumped there now.
Sorry for long post.
Oh and hello everyone

I doubt it'll make the slightest bit of difference to get rid of AIBU, people will just post on other threads with the same views, it'll just be spread all over the board.

Agreed lady! That's why it should stay...keep it all in one place and if you don't like it HIDE it and leave others to their fun!

Alright then, I am going to start my own one woman campaign and post

THIS IS NOT AN AIBU QUESTION YOU SILLY BILLY**

on every non-aibu thread I see. Repeatedly.

Since mnhq don't seem willing or able to do it . I will not require payment.

Hear hear hear, Bibbity - are you doing it? Picking an example at random: will I be able to see it on the Bucks Fizz was my first single, thread? You could go for your approach, or an indignantly literal version to express your disapproval, or just join in, like everyone else.

Possible answers to above:

1)THIS IS NOT AN AIBU QUESTION YOU SILLY BILLY

2. Yes, YABU. You have unreasonably bad music taste and frankly being a child at the time is no excuse. And retreat...

3. Hoo hoo, yes, mine was I Owe You Nothing by Bros* and I had a perm.

(*NB - it wasn't and I didn't)

Bravo, you did it; and I did not do my homework...

wow

there really people with more time on their hands than me

We are going to make a few changes to the nav bar to try to help with this particular issue of everything ending up in AIBU.

We are removing the direct links from the drop down nav bar to talk topics because it feels like we are leading the witness a bit, as it were, rather than letting people go to talk topics and find the most appropriate one. Sorry for those who love just clicking on the topic from there - you can always bookmark instead [hopeful] - but we do think we made a mistake in adding that feature in retrospect, so we're going to tweak it a little.

Grrrrrrr - this is still driving me mad.

Mnhq - don't you care?

bibbity- I agree with your campaign, but have not seen many people recently questioning people's placement of threads. The only times they have, they are shot down in flames, told to leave the thread, or just called rude names.

I am glad to know I am not the sole person with the view that AIBU is the suppurating pustule on the arse of MN not a great advertisement for the forum.

Aye aye Captain.

I always just post yabu on the nonsensical aibus, and quietly report to mnhq. They do move them, but I wish they could be a bit more pro-active about it.

Disclaimer: I do of course still think you are byootiful everyone at the Towers. Mwah xx

Am bumping and reporting to mnhq. AIBU is still causing all sorts of unpleasantness on your site. Surely something can be done?

A poll?

Or just make it easier to start a thread? Ie. be able to start a thread without already being on a thread in the relevant topic.

Or a much simpler Topics List.

Your users are revolting!