Hotwifing

[ChloeUK]

Hey ladies!

So, my hubby and I have been having some interesting chats lately, and we've stumbled upon the topic of hotwifing.

At first, I was like, "Wait, what's the catch?" But after some honest discussions (and maybe a cheeky cocktail or two), he laid it all out: his biggest fantasy is watching me have a good time, no strings attached. Talk about intriguing!?

I'm curious to hear from anyone who's dipped their toes into the hotwifing pool. Any stories, advice, or warnings you'd care to share? I'm all ears! Who knows, maybe we'll pick up a few spicy pointers to spice up our own playbook.

So he wants to be a cuck?

new name (better name) for cockholding?

I think people have been doing this for as long as time.

Ive never, but loads do. Are you thinking about a club (easy) or finding a unicorn (obvs more difficult)?

Oooh exciting! I haven't done it myself but have successfully used FabSwingers to have a threesome so would recommend giving that a try. You could also try Feeld too (an app) but there are less ways to verify someone on there. Happy exploring!

Just because he wants to see you with other men, doesn't make him a cuck. It does if their is some humiliation involved.

My guys best friend joins us once or twice a month for threesomes and some fun.

You have to make sure everyone is singing from the same hymn sheet before you dive into sex with other partners but it's great fun.

Tinder is good for this. I break the idea to guys after they connect. Then when there's a good candidate I use a whatsapp group of him me and hub so hub is in the picture.

@OpenWife you really enjoy that scene, and the dynamic?

Ok some tips. They are naturally subjective but bases on experience. Here's how I manage it / my rules

1 All communications are via a whatsapp group which consists of the guy, my husband and me, This way my H is included and there is openness.
2 No meals out with the guy. This risks things getting complex emotionally.
3 I try and ensure the guy is married, to create an even playing field.I don't mind whether his wife allows it or not, just good to know he's not single and looking for love.
4 I involve my husband in decisions about my outfit, as a driver and by showing him who I am communicating with / choosing from. NOT to run his nose in it but, again, to be open,
5 I do not allow my H to play with other women. But if you do, make sure he follows the same rules as you in terms of openness.
6 I allow my H to decide whether a guy can come to our house. If not, my H will pay for a hotel. This gives him some level of control. But the initial session must always be in a hotel.
7 I make sure I've seen picture evidence to ensure the guy is as he describes himself. People lie. But dick picks are not welcome unless I request them.
8 Try to connect with people who live some distance away, for anonymity.
9 Don't be too open about being married on singles dating apps. This can lead to a ban if enough people complain. Reveal your situation after initial contact.
10 Watch the OH's mood carefully before and after an encounter.

@ForestOfDean Not sure I get the question but yes really enjoy it. First dates are particularly fun. Arriving at a hotel feeling mildly dirty but knowing that everyone is onboard and accepting. it is very liberating.

@OpenWife it does, thanks. I'd assumed that it was mainly men encouraging women to do this, and men who got the kicks from the set up. It's really good to hear that it's something you enjoy, works for you and leaves you feeling like you mentioned. Thanks.

I know a lot of men actually want to watch their wives with other men. We have done that, in fact. But i would advise caution. it worked for us because my H is already used to the idea that I have other guys, so it's not so much of a shock. It cab be a marriage breaker.

NameChange for obvious reasons!

My Hubby wanted to watch me enjoy another man for years. When he first told me I didn't know what to think, but after years of us integrating as "Dirty Talk" in the bedroom I must admit the thought of a fit, younger, well hung stud giving me a seeing to...while DH watches on was a massive turn on!

I surprised him one evening by just saying out of the blue we should try it at least once. Never seen him so excited!

Eventually found a guy in his late 30s on Fab, and met in a hotel. I was beyond nervous but as soon as we met in the bar he kissed me & all nerves vanished. Went up to the hotel room and had the most amazing sex.

He was considerably larger than DH, and made me feel a million dollars. A real confidence boost.

Hubby was in heaven, saying he had never been so turned on in his life. We constantly re-live the experience as dirty talk in bed, and in truth I would love to repeat the experience. We decided to keep as a special treat only once or twice a year.

I say go for it, provided you are absolutely sure your DH is turned on by it and you have a great relationship already. We found it spiced up sex after many years of being together & haven't told a single person what we did!

Thanks for the naughty tips! FabSwingers sounds like a great start—I'll definitely dive into that and maybe get a bit cheeky on Feeld too. How was your threesome experience? Any sizzling secrets for setting up a profile or sparking those flirty conversations? Can't wait to explore and have some fun! 😉

Thanks for the spicy suggestions! Tinder sounds like a fun way to connect, and I love the idea of using a WhatsApp group to keep everyone in the loop. How do you usually bring up the hotwife idea with guys on Tinder? Any tips for making sure everyone's on the same page and comfortable? Can't wait to dive in and explore these options! 😉

Thanks for sharing your story, It’s super encouraging to hear how it turned out so well for you both. I can imagine how thrilling it must be to surprise your hubby like that!
I’m definitely taking notes on the FabSwingers approach and will keep in mind the idea of making it a special treat. How did you bring up the idea with the guy from Fab? Any tips on breaking the ice and making sure everyone is comfortable? So excited to explore this with my hubby! 😘

@ChloeUK

A core group of guys on Fab are actively seeking a Wife to fuck in front of their husband. They are called Bulls.

You really don't need to worry about breaking the conversation with them! If you are attractive they'll be beside themselves to talk.

They actually get off on knowing they are bigger than your husband, and keen to ensure you enjoy them as much as possible.

For my DH, it was all about him watching me with a guy who is in really great shape, and with a larger cock. We've been married for nearly 15 years, so whilst I was nervous when he climbed out of his boxers.....those nerves went immediately. My DH was playing with himself watching, and our Bull said to me I was In for a Real Treat when he saw Hubby's cock!

I know some people will never agree or understand this, but I wish I had agreed to give it a try years ago! Good luck x

Yes you are right about bulls getting off on being bigger. We had a guy who stripped off with me and hubby sitting on the edge of the bed. He wanked himself hard and got H to measure it with a tape measure for my benefit lol. Then got me to measure my H. H was not too pleased.

Is there a female equivalent of a Bull? Woman who turns up, fucks your DH and shows off why she's physically superior to the DW?

@ForestOfDean there may be, but not something I've ever come across. DH isn't remotely interested in other women, he only wants to watch me have the best sex ever...then go home & have more of the best sex ever!

Cuck fetish is an entirely different thing, it involves humiliation and pretend helpless disapproval by the husband - with a more virile partner for the wife, ideally with a bigger wang.

The hotwife huisband simply gets off on the sexual generosity and greed of his wife. A party atmosphere is the norm.

In the context you describe the equivalent of a bull is a cuckcake and the humiliation would be the cuckquean.

In the OP’s context it would be hothusbanding and the wife would be showing him off or enjoying his pleasure.

Both scenarios are rarer than the male equivalents but are non the less known fetishes.

Probably the best way to start is to attend a swingers club on a night they let single men in. Then you can observe without any pressure to play. if you do it will likely be with a few other experienced women active. Then you can collect numbers of the guys you like to have your own parties or MFM at home.

Appreciated, thanks. I'd not heard of that dynamic. Thanks for explaining.

Absolutely correct OP!
Hotwife is not a cuck scenario usually
My hubby just loves sitting back and watching me have a good time. There is no humiliation to anyone in the room.

We're just at the fantasy stage but I'm excited by this idea. I'd love to watch her with another man, release all her inhibitions and go wild. I also fantasize about arranging an away encounter for her, helping her get ready, select her thong, etc., and then awaiting her return. I'd like to "reclaim" her afterward (and maybe spank her lightly for being naughty). There's something about another man's cum being in/on her which is also a turn-on. I think there's a phenomenon called "sperm competition" that makes men thrust harder. My wife has always swallowed my cum, which makes me assume she also swallowed the limited partners she had before me. I'd like to watch her swallow (or have her tell me about it afterward).