Hotwifing

[ChloeUK]

Hey ladies!

So, my hubby and I have been having some interesting chats lately, and we've stumbled upon the topic of hotwifing.

At first, I was like, "Wait, what's the catch?" But after some honest discussions (and maybe a cheeky cocktail or two), he laid it all out: his biggest fantasy is watching me have a good time, no strings attached. Talk about intriguing!?

I'm curious to hear from anyone who's dipped their toes into the hotwifing pool. Any stories, advice, or warnings you'd care to share? I'm all ears! Who knows, maybe we'll pick up a few spicy pointers to spice up our own playbook.

My only tip her is make sure you are both really happy in your sexual relationship with each other before to embark on this, or it will feel very uncomfortable.
My H does watch but he does also like to prepare me before I go out and play away. Your fantasy is a common one. I love arriving back home unshowered and sweaty. We have our very best sex when he goes second!
I once came home with three used condoms. I emptied them onto his cock and wanked him off. He's never cum harder. good luck with it.

@OpenWife , God that's filthy, but in the best way. Never something I'll be in the position to try, but something to contemplate during a night in alone...

I would absolutely love to experience that, I am very jealous! I’m a straight male but something about that really turns me on

We participate. The combination of jealousy and anticipation is a heady mix

Good communication is key. You have to be rock solid. Do not even consider if your having doubts. Regret not doing somthing rather than the other way about.

it took us years to even discuss this so take it slowly. It’s not for the majority but it’s a surprisingly popular kink

Ive mentioned a few times to my wife that I’d love to watch her with another man or couple and once when we had a few drinks we checked our fabswingers and it was great seeing the type of men she would like and the difference in size.
its never gone any further than that unfortunately as she’s since said its not for her but she will tell me about dreams she’s had about another man fucking her or ex’s and what they’ve done and how big they are.
FabSwingers looks great from what I’ve seen and I’m sure you’ll have a great time

I've considered asking DH to peruse fab with me but I'm not even sure how to broach the subject!

You have to be totally open and upfront and talk talk talk. Just be open. If you can tell him about a dream about another guy and see how he reacts,

you both need to be totally onboard. You also both need to align on what form any play would take.

If he’s open to the idea already you could say that since it was mentioned you’ve been thinking about it and like the idea. Maybe ask how he would like it to happen? I’ve always liked the idea of being out and having my wife be chatted up and seeing where it goes. When we looked at fab and she asked how I know about it I just said friends of mine had mentioned it in the past.
Im sure the more experienced people on here will be able to give a better answer as we never got any further than browsing unfortunately 😂

I quite fancy being a hothusband.
Sadly my wife is having non of it!

My husband didn’t want to watch but wanted a video of me and other men, after he saw the video of me going through with it, he said he didn’t want me to do it again but he still does. My husband is torn, part of him gets off by the idea that I have become a slut or at least acted like one. The fact that I really didn’t want to do this but still went through with it, well that was the part that really turned him on, 'the good wife that's willing to be a bad wife', even it's temporary. The other half of him, after watching the video, felt jealousy but his greatest fear is that his friends might find out what I had done or rather he was the one that wanted me to behave this way. He wouldn't care if they found that I had been a slut behind his back but people finding out he was the one that initiated it, heaven above he couldn't handle that.

I think you describe a very typical reaction. Our first time hubby was hugely aroused. The other guy was so patient and we arranged as a role play. It worked really well

consenting to someone else taking your wife goes against everything guys know so obs its a very confusing emotion

one tip I would give is to agree hubbY shouldn’t climax first time until you get home . We found the guilt of doing somthing so different afterwards was intense for him less so for me. In fact not at all for me!

Never done it but we always fantasise about it. He had seen pics of a few exes and they was a lot bigger then him and that turns him on. We often use a c0ck sleeve and after I orgasm he takes it off and because I’m all loose he fantasises that I’ve just got home after cheating on him with one of the exes.

We also love love love it when I use a big squirting dildo alone and he then comes in the room and when we start to have sex he insinuates I’ve just cheated on him as I’m all loose and full of cum and I admit to it and make him lick all the cum out of me before he is allowed to have sex with me lol.

A couple of times I’ve also made him lick it all up and then say no he can’t have sex with me he can only masterbate whilst playing with me and he has been able to put his d1ck and hand inside me and w4nk himself off as he is cumming !!!

that's interesting - I immediately thought of it as something the woman would find empowering and fun, and the husband's enjoyment of it would only add an extra dimension to her pleasure / their mutual pleasure.

I never thought of it as something where a woman would just go through with it for her husband's sake. That would, imo, be horrible.

i have always wanted to watch my wife have sex with another man I set it up for her 40th birthday but she backed out a couple of days before it,
I have brought the subject up on many occasions she kept on saying she didn’t want another man incase it got her restless we came to an agreement that she would let me see her being fingered which she’s has done on nude beaches which we both enjoy.

I am interested to hear how things have gone?

I’m hardly going to tell everyone on an open forum

We do this very regularly. My wife has a few fwb's. I watch sometimes. Sometimes I don't.

It is great fun and certainly helped us get out of a bad spot.

Each to their own, personally I absolutely would not want to watch DW having sex with another man, nor would I be impressed if she suggested it

My ex used to enjoy me flirting with other guys online usually at swingers nation, mostly just one to one cam fun while he watched but we did meet one of the guys as he was local , he came around to our place while i waited ready for him nervously in the bedroom.

We have enjoyed over 20 years of Hotwifing and it has been an incredibly exciting journey that has enriched our marriage and sex-life.

In our experience, the term itself was barely known outside of swinging circles when we first got into it but it's now becoming more known as ENM is part of TV shows like Open House and Naked Attraction.

We started off with an interest in Hotpast and Hotwifing was a natural progression.

I had several women whose man liked to watch have sex and he had sex with her Every liked it

I've always enjoyed watching my wife with other men , I'm not a cuck, I like to get involved too, we often go to clubs and parties where the guys outnumber the ladies and the ladies certainly enjoy themselves!

I love the fact that younger, very fit men ,find my wife attractive (we are both in our late 40s) and want to have sex with her. Luckily she enjoys seeing me with other women. Communication is the key to all of this , the reclaim at the end of the night is vital.

Why does Hotwifing mean he wants to suck a cock? I’ve met loads of couples for this and not got involved like that. I’ve made it clear right from the start I’m not bi.

I have seen marriages end because of this .
And those marriages that don’t are the anomaly and their relationship is bonded long before being married came into play and the couple had a justification of their actions long prior in their minds and it didn’t involve religion or marriage .

Marriage is a covenant under god and with the church . Hotwifing is not terrible - it is that is -what makes you all tick .

But reminding all that marriage is what it is - is important because creating your own morality and justification for your actions is one way to go about life in a marriage . Just know it’s not real - it’s null in the eyes of the church .

There is no need to be married if one or both are going to be in an open relationship thus dictating what their marriage is not one under the covenant of the lord or doctrine .

Do as you wish just know .. it could get bad