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OhNo12 · 2023-10-22T01:29:28+00:00

Name change for this on. me and DH after a drunken night out had anal / sex (we have previous done it once or twice) but he then put it from my bum into my vagina! I didn’t really notice at the time (drunk and at brink of orgasm) but now I’m thinking about it and freaking out ! Bacteria transfer etc….. is it really bad ? Should I call the GP on Monday ??

AristideBeauvoir · 24/10/2023 14:03

Firstly to say OP that I hope you're okay and haven't suffered any infection at all.

Overcoming my hesitancy to say it but I really enjoy anal sex. I always have and in 26+ years together have never had any issue although we are always hyper-careful about keeping anal and vaginal (and oral) sex apart.

It's occasional, it's when we're both in the mood, it's when I'm totally relaxed etc, and the build up is slow and gentle. I enjoy the physical intensity, including his ejaculation which I can feel especially intensely. And after all these years it still feels kind of naughty.

But that's me. Maybe I'm unusual but I suspect not that much. There are those of us who enjoy it and those of us who wouldn't want to do it ever, and that's fine.

What is never acceptable is that anyone should ever feel pressurised into doing something they don't want to. Neither should anal be a ready assumption on the part of men because of what they see in porn, etc, which is where most of the problem lies.

DisconnectFour · 24/10/2023 17:22

I feel a bit sorry for OP here. Apparently this was moved to the sex board and instead of getting advice on infection and advice on the risks of anal sex, her thread has become something for the sex board posters to do their over sharing thing on. She wanted advice about her health ffs.

Beefcurtains79 · 24/10/2023 17:46

I know. Apparently you can’t even ask about vaginal infection on the sex board without it morphing into oversharing and 50 shades style erotic fiction.

10kmBeforeBreakfast · 24/10/2023 23:51

I feel a bit sorry for OP here. Apparently this was moved to the sex board and instead of getting advice on infection and advice on the risks of anal sex, her thread has become something for the sex board posters to do their over sharing thing on. She wanted advice about her health ffs.

Agree. This was a woman’s health/relationship issue. Now it’s an excuse for ‘women’ to tell us how much they like anal sex.

Bobtheamazinggingerdog · 25/10/2023 00:50

10kmBeforeBreakfast · 24/10/2023 23:51

I feel a bit sorry for OP here. Apparently this was moved to the sex board and instead of getting advice on infection and advice on the risks of anal sex, her thread has become something for the sex board posters to do their over sharing thing on. She wanted advice about her health ffs.

Agree. This was a woman’s health/relationship issue. Now it’s an excuse for ‘women’ to tell us how much they like anal sex.

Please don't 'women'. It's pathetic. The reason we posted that way (and my first post, and all the others before the 'ew anal sex you must be being coerced' posts started was supportive and actually useful) is because other women started posting unwarranted comments implying the OP was being coerced into something she couldn't possibly have chosen to do. Your post calling us 'women' continues that nonsense. It's absurd and insulting.

10kmBeforeBreakfast · 25/10/2023 01:47

Please don't 'women'. It's pathetic. The reason we posted that way (and my first post, and all the others before the 'ew anal sex you must be being coerced' posts started was supportive and actually useful) is because other women started posting unwarranted comments implying the OP was being coerced into something she couldn't possibly have chosen to do. Your post calling us 'women' continues that nonsense. It's absurd and insulting.

What is absurd, is a woman seeking health advice having a thread turned into an excuse for the oversharers to overshare.

The posters talking about coercion/abuse were right to raise it due to the circumstances OP describes. A man putting his partners health at risk in this way could point to an issue. Anal sex can have health implications as OP found out so that has its place to be talked about too on a thread like this.

On the other hand, no one needs to hear that you, Bob, love anal sex, on a thread about health and a potential relationship issue. So, Bob, it would be more appropriate to talk about you love of anal sex on another thread. If you want to do it on this one, some posters will give their opinion on that.

Bobtheamazinggingerdog · 25/10/2023 02:09

By your repeating of my username are you implying that I must be a man?? Do you actually believe that?

10kmBeforeBreakfast · 25/10/2023 02:21

By your repeating of my username are you implying that I must be a man?? Do you actually believe that?

I’ve used part of your username which is common to do on here. I could have used dog but I thought best to go with bob. I can use dog if you like. Or ginger? I can’t be arsed to write the whole name out and my @ function isn’t bringing names up reliably for some reason.

I’ve addressed the issue I had so I probably won’t be addressing you again anyway.

Disturbia81 · 25/10/2023 13:47

10kmBeforeBreakfast · 25/10/2023 01:47

Please don't 'women'. It's pathetic. The reason we posted that way (and my first post, and all the others before the 'ew anal sex you must be being coerced' posts started was supportive and actually useful) is because other women started posting unwarranted comments implying the OP was being coerced into something she couldn't possibly have chosen to do. Your post calling us 'women' continues that nonsense. It's absurd and insulting.

What is absurd, is a woman seeking health advice having a thread turned into an excuse for the oversharers to overshare.

The posters talking about coercion/abuse were right to raise it due to the circumstances OP describes. A man putting his partners health at risk in this way could point to an issue. Anal sex can have health implications as OP found out so that has its place to be talked about too on a thread like this.

On the other hand, no one needs to hear that you, Bob, love anal sex, on a thread about health and a potential relationship issue. So, Bob, it would be more appropriate to talk about you love of anal sex on another thread. If you want to do it on this one, some posters will give their opinion on that.

Actually these posts were in support of the OP who does enjoy anal sex. Posters were coming on and saying force/abuse/ewww etc when that was not needed at all. OP just wanted advice about the germs aspect, not judgement. We were posting to say many of us enjoy it and are definitely not forced.

Bobtheamazinggingerdog · 25/10/2023 15:50

Absolutely.
there are people who don't know that you can't go bum to vagina. I willingly did it myself once because I got carried away - which is why I shared my experience and the consequence which was a UTI and the advice (which OP followed) to call the GP at any sign of infection. It doesn't mean the man I was with did something non consensually, or that I was coerced, or deliberately harmed. It was a mistake, and we both knew afterwards that that should never be done. No major harm done. It also doesn't mean the OP was coerced or that it would help her to hear 'you don't have to do anal' for goodness sake - she's an adult, not posting about coercion, not posting about a relationship issue, do her the courtesy of assuming she knows what her issue is!

10kmBeforeBreakfast · 25/10/2023 16:39

do her the courtesy of assuming she knows what her issue is!

Sometimes people are manipulated into doing things without realising it and that is a possibility here.

This thread was about an infection and what to do. Consent and coercion/manipulation were valid points under the circumstances. Pointing out some people have anal sex willingly was fine to point out in response to that.

Someone describing how they ‘enjoy the physical intensity, including their partners ejaculation which they can feel especially intensely and after all these years it still feels kind of naughty.’ are oversharing on a thread like this one. On a general thread about anal sex, go for it!

Zanatdy · 25/10/2023 19:49

I ended up with a really bad UTI from this and it took me months to get better. Again a drunken night and one not to be repeated

Thisisworsethananticpated · 26/10/2023 21:20

10kmBeforeBreakfast

well it’s a sex thread to be fair

I’m not a huge fan of anal , as I said earlier ! but it’s still interesting to read different perspectives

its shocking how it’s risky and men don’t know it

10kmBeforeBreakfast · 26/10/2023 22:26

Thisisworsethananticpated

A sex thread? The OP did not post this in the sex topic, mumsnet moved it here. Even if posters didn’t realise that, it is obviously a thread from a woman concerned about her health. Sex board posters have used it as an opportunity to discuss what they love about anal sex. 🙄 There are already threads they can do that on or they could start another, its a shame that their desire to overshare can’t even be contained when a woman is dealing with an immediate health issue.