Anal sex slip

[OhNo12]

Name change for this on.
me and DH after a drunken night out had anal /
sex (we have previous done it once or twice) but he then put it from my bum into my vagina!
I didn’t really notice at the time (drunk and at brink of orgasm) but now I’m thinking about it and freaking out ! Bacteria transfer etc…..
is it really bad ? Should I call the GP on Monday ??

Apparently.

There is this unfortunate tendency of people to downplay the risks of sexual practices like this. I would think of it more like an extreme sport where your risk of injury is more throw of the dice.

You get the same sort of comments on choking during sex and that's such a dangerous practice, that it's really worrying if people are being as blasé about it as they seem.

I do think it's worrying that some of these things appear normalised and mainstream.

Thank you for this

I know one set of parents who thought their teen DD had bowel cancer because they had to take her to the doctor a few times for rectal bleeding.

I was unsure what to do because they were so upset but so was she - hence taking them to GP with her. I think she told them the truth after a couple of months.

I'm 47. It wasn't something that a boyfriend expected 30 years ago.

Consenting adults in private - fine. But we are so far from that now. I worry about my goddaughter in that way.

Omg the amount of sexual shame on this thread is crazy. People can have whatever type of sex they want, nobody in this thread is forcing the narrative that you have to have anal so stop getting on a soapbox about anyone that wants to

And @MattDamon Definitely 100% woman thanks. How depressing that you negate some womens experiences.

@mushroomushroom I meant in my experience. I've never been pressured for it.

Totally agree. I’ve been around the block and am no prude (depressing that I need to caveat) but genuinely can’t see the attraction. Grim.

Think some women here are just being so defensive about not liking it themselves that they want to attack those that do. Best answer is "I don't like it but if you do crack on"

@HarrietSpying Because it feels amazing... Never done it with anyone above average though so that might be the difference.

No, it's being clear about the risks involved in certain sexual behaviours which were considered very fringe practices until about 20 years ago.

There are people reading this thread who think 'everyone' is doing anal or that getting UTIs is a standard 'thing that happens' during sex.

I want to be clear that nobody needs to put up with men 'accidentally slipping' or having to see the GP about infections and injuries through partaking in what is actually a fairly risky activity.

And 'sexual shaming' sounds pretty close to 'kink shaming'. I take the view that only fetishistic men truly benefit from the notion that kink shaming is a bad thing.

Alarming that the replies are telling OP what the potential outcome may or may not be rather than saying make sure your partner knows never to do this again and if he does to end the relationship. Why is it up to women to go get antibiotics, suffer UTIs or end up needing surgery? Why is everyone not trying to get men to be considerate and respect their parent’s health? Their health!!!

Do anal, don’t do anal but definitely don’t do it with someone who can’t get the basics right. We teach girls from an early age to wipe from front to back for a bloody reason FFS.

It's not about shame. As far as I'm concerned, if there's informed enthusiastic consent then do what the fuck you like in bed.

But it's incorrect to treat every sexual act as though it is interchangeable. Some come with far more inherent risks. The shift to mainstream for certain acts has not been accompanied by the same level of relevant health information, especially for young people.

It's not that; it's that our teen daughters are getting the message that "cool girls do" or "adventurous girls do" or "sexually liberated girls do". I never got this pressure but I did come under pressure to swallow in oral for similar reasons. It took me a while to be mature enough to assert that I don't like the taste so not doing that again.

My message as an older woman is just - be aware it's risky, women's bodies are not designed for it, you can have long and happy and sexually fulfilling relationships without it. If you really want to give it a go, do so of course - but make sure you really do want to give it a go, not just that you are worn down by your porn-soaked boyfriend nagging you or so pissed that your usual barriers are down. You might find you love it, or you might find you don't. And if you don't, you need never do it again even if your partner loved it.

I have no idea if I would enjoy it or not; I never liked the thought of it and all my heterosexual partners were perfectly content with the hole specifically made for the purpose. As I get into my mid 50s and my pelvic floor suffers post menopause changes I am glad I don't have fecal incontinence due to a damaged sphincter to add to my list of female problems.

So is all sex between every gay men that has ever existed wrong? Wtf am I reading.

Of course no-one should be pressured. It's about teaching the confidence to say No.

So is all sex between every gay men that has ever existed wrong? Wtf am I reading.

My understanding is that the male anal sphincter is different to female so therefore more able to withstand penetration. It's also my understanding that lots of gay men don't ever engage in anal sex.

Absolutely agree that nobody should ever feel obliged to do something they don't want to.

This conversation has focussed on women and heterosexual sex.

Please do not bring gay men into this.

It is not homophobic to discuss the risks of anal sex in relation to women.

Agree with you @TerribleWoman
Why isn't this in the sex thread?

Where are you getting this from? Don't manufacture outrage about something no-one has said.

Women's pelvic floors are different to men's.

@category12 Someone said it was disgusting..

I got PID from this too! It was a very scary experience for a naive teenager. I was also worried about my fertility for years after. If you get a fever and back pain I would be concerned and seek help.

Bums are designed for pooing out of. Not to have penis's or anything else shoved up them.

Why has this turned into such a debate when the OP made it clear that she voluntarily had anal sex and enjoys it. Why does everything have to become a moral dilemma?

I'm afraid you'll have to quote the post where someone said gay sex is wrong and/or disgusting. In the meantime, stop trying to shut down discussion by misrepresentation.

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