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OhNo12 · 2023-10-22T01:29:28+00:00

Name change for this on. me and DH after a drunken night out had anal / sex (we have previous done it once or twice) but he then put it from my bum into my vagina! I didn’t really notice at the time (drunk and at brink of orgasm) but now I’m thinking about it and freaking out ! Bacteria transfer etc….. is it really bad ? Should I call the GP on Monday ??

Winteriscoming12 · 23/10/2023 15:42

K1nga23 · 23/10/2023 15:34

Why has this turned into such a debate when the OP made it clear that she voluntarily had anal sex and enjoys it. Why does everything have to become a moral dilemma?

How is it making it a moral issue to point out that women may and often do suffer long term injuries from this?

Not everyone knows that our sphincters etc are not as strong as men's, and actually, I remember reading years ago about men suffering faecal incontinence in relation to gay anal sex, and as a result fewer of them choosing to do it. It is not only women that need to take care.

No posters that I can see are considering moral issues, other than perhaps in the context of men taking care about their partners' health, which is a valid concern given how many posters have suffered a so-called 'slip'!

Saggypants · 23/10/2023 15:46

K1nga23 · 23/10/2023 15:34

Why has this turned into such a debate when the OP made it clear that she voluntarily had anal sex and enjoys it. Why does everything have to become a moral dilemma?

The OP didn't consent to then have shit stuffed up her vagina. Literally.

The posters bleating on about how much they loooove anal could maybe shut up for a minute and think about that. The OP had a sex act done to her that she didn't want or consent to and now she has an infection as a result.

I really hope you're feeling better soon OP.

category12 · 23/10/2023 15:47

And that's about gay sex, is it? On a thread about women having anal sex with men. 🙄You do realise gay sex isn't just anal, right?

Again, it's not about shame. Some sexual acts come with more inherent risks. Anal comes with more inherent risks for women.

spookehtooth · 23/10/2023 15:47

I'm finding some of the negative comments interesting. I'm get a variety of impressions like:

People think another person's interest in something means they insist on it. Some people, sure, but everyone?

Sexual compatibility means having exactly the same interests. No room for something either is interested but not the other?

People speaking for themselves and their partner. Even if they've told you, the way a person is spoken to can affect their response. If the partner hasn't been asked, that person speaking on their behalf concerns me. Knowing someone else's mind without talking to them isn't normal behaviour.

As for Internet, and delivery of porn through it, affecting behaviour. Every new technology, or the things it enables, changes human behaviour. The effect of easier availability of porn in society, and the controls placed on its availability, isn't down to the porn itself, but the values of the society it was released into. Those values were there before porn, affecting our lives in other ways. Going on memory, the vast majority of the horrid stories about treatment on women here, are the sort that predate the era of easy porn access and its affect on sexual behaviour

Gribbit987 · 23/10/2023 15:54

KickingEAP · 23/10/2023 11:28

Plenty of women, myself included, enjoy anal from time to time. This sort of thing is discussed openly in my friendship group. One of my friends prefers anal to vaginal.

I wonder if you’ll discuss anal leakage and incontinence openly too 🤔

https://amp.theguardian.com/society/2022/aug/11/rise-in-popularity-of-anal-sex-has-led-to-health-problems-for-women

Rise in popularity of anal sex has led to health problems for women | Sexual health | The Guardian

Incontinence, bleeding and STIs among the consequences, say two surgeons, who want doctors to have open chats with patients on the topic

https://amp.theguardian.com/society/2022/aug/11/rise-in-popularity-of-anal-sex-has-led-to-health-problems-for-women

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 23/10/2023 16:35

TerribleWoman · 23/10/2023 10:46

Jesus.
Women, you don't have to do anal.

This. It's dangerous and can lead to prolapse-regardless of what some others will say, that's true.

KickingEAP · 23/10/2023 16:36

Gribbit987 · 23/10/2023 15:54

I wonder if you’ll discuss anal leakage and incontinence openly too 🤔

https://amp.theguardian.com/society/2022/aug/11/rise-in-popularity-of-anal-sex-has-led-to-health-problems-for-women

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Yes, I expect we would. It isn't something I've experienced personally though.

Augustus40 · 23/10/2023 16:47

I have been indulging in anal sex 40 years with no pain bleeding or issues.

Lube and condoms and going in carefully are the issues to bear in mind.

Lifestyleclub · 23/10/2023 18:01

Alondra · 23/10/2023 12:05

Don't worry too much about it. Despite all the glum and doom you'll find on the net, your vagina is wonderful and will deal with the bacteria transfer.

In the case you develop a burning sensation while urinating, make an appointment with your GP. The worse scenario is developing a bacterial infection.

The worst scenario is ending up in intensive care with sepsis as I did.

And you can get a UTI with vaginal sex too.
wrong antibiotics from the doctor for the Bacteria as they didn’t know what bacteria it was until a few days later (over a weekend) and boom intensive care and 6 months of post infection problems with fatigue.
So please keep an eye on it.

Diduhivta · 23/10/2023 18:37

And according to one on here, lesbians are just as wild about anal sex !🙄

Layofftheeyecontact · 23/10/2023 18:44

I used to have anal sex with an ex when I was in my 20s. It was more like anal rape as I did not want to do it and he talked me into into, telling me how boring I was and every other woman did it. I used to pretend I was ok and into it. I fucking hated it and it gave me lots of problems. It was agony. He was abusive because he knew this even though he pretended he didn't. I did it to keep him. I was so down on myself at the time.

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chocolateonmyface · 23/10/2023 19:43

Speak for yourself. Anal sex was round long before the Internet and a anal orgasm is very satisfying.

Bobtheamazinggingerdog · 23/10/2023 19:49

TerribleWoman · 23/10/2023 10:46

Jesus.
Women, you don't have to do anal.

I know that, but I want to 😘

Bobtheamazinggingerdog · 23/10/2023 19:50

MattDamon · 23/10/2023 11:17

...said no woman ever.

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Bugger off. It's absolutely amazing, I love it and do it as much as I can.

Bobtheamazinggingerdog · 23/10/2023 19:51

EdgeOfACoin · 23/10/2023 11:38

Yes, there are some women who enjoy anal. It's funny, as men who get off on anal benefit from the presence of a prostate gland that gives them pleasure, whereas women don't have that.

There are also a lot of women who don't enjoy anal. Until recently, anal sex was a very fringe sexual activity and was not remotely normalized.

Now it is normalized and women share experiences of their infections (like on this thread) and stretched anuses and everyone pretends it's no big deal. It just spices things up, amirite?

I think it is sad. I do hope women who don't want to do anal aren't being pressured into it and that they know full well they can say no.

Why the fuck are you sad that some women like a sexual practice that you don't like?

Bobtheamazinggingerdog · 23/10/2023 19:56

Layofftheeyecontact · 23/10/2023 18:44

I used to have anal sex with an ex when I was in my 20s. It was more like anal rape as I did not want to do it and he talked me into into, telling me how boring I was and every other woman did it. I used to pretend I was ok and into it. I fucking hated it and it gave me lots of problems. It was agony. He was abusive because he knew this even though he pretended he didn't. I did it to keep him. I was so down on myself at the time.

I'm sorry for your experience, truly. That's awful. But completely unrelated to consensual, mutually enjoyable sex.

HarrietSpying · 23/10/2023 20:07

Bobtheamazinggingerdog · 23/10/2023 19:50

Bugger off. It's absolutely amazing, I love it and do it as much as I can.

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I hope you don’t end up incontinent in later life given you have a penis stuck up your bum that frequently 😳

EdgeOfACoin · 23/10/2023 20:11

Why the fuck are you sad that some women like a sexual practice that you don't like?

I'm sad that women are getting infections and UTIs from a sexual practice that was considered to be quite niche until very recently and minimising the consequences by telling each other that it's "one of those things", "just something to keep an eye on" etc. etc.

Sorry, but this is not healthy and I'm not going to apologise for expressing my concerns.

Anyway, I see this thread has been moved from the relationship board to the sex board, which I generally try to avoid, so I'll bow out of this conversation now and leave you all to it.

Bobtheamazinggingerdog · 23/10/2023 20:18

HarrietSpying · 23/10/2023 20:07

I hope you don’t end up incontinent in later life given you have a penis stuck up your bum that frequently 😳

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Mate, I'm fine. I've been doing it for actual decades by now and just like the vagina, it stretches back to exactly how it started. My arsehole is absolutely tip top. In fact I am sure I know far far more about my bum health and well-being than the vast majority of you, because I pay attention to it.

mushroomushroom · 23/10/2023 20:24

The quality of the comments since it's was moved to the sex board 😳 shall also be signing out.

OP, I hope your infections clears up asap and you don't have any issues from this. Def talk to your partner about how inappropriate his behaviour was. Best of luck x

Beefcurtains79 · 23/10/2023 20:29

Me too. Best of luck OP, and please make sure he knows exactly what you are going through now and it never happens again.

HarrietSpying · 23/10/2023 20:47

Bobtheamazinggingerdog · 23/10/2023 20:18

Mate, I'm fine. I've been doing it for actual decades by now and just like the vagina, it stretches back to exactly how it started. My arsehole is absolutely tip top. In fact I am sure I know far far more about my bum health and well-being than the vast majority of you, because I pay attention to it.

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Nice.

Blazingunicorns · 23/10/2023 21:35

Alondra · 23/10/2023 12:05

Don't worry too much about it. Despite all the glum and doom you'll find on the net, your vagina is wonderful and will deal with the bacteria transfer.

In the case you develop a burning sensation while urinating, make an appointment with your GP. The worse scenario is developing a bacterial infection.

I’m sorry to tell you that my ‘wonderful’ vagina was unable to deal with the bacteria and I developed full blown PID which was horrendous. My smear tests showed the effects of the PID after I was treated, for several years. I had to have 6 monthly smears due to inflammatory changes on the cervix.
Please don’t comment if you don’t know what you’re talking about.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 23/10/2023 23:13

If I’m being brutally 100% honest I only did anal because my ex wanted it
and i let some boundaries slip
and I’m angry he gave me thrush from it
it was stressful as I had it bad and had to go to a GUM clinic

so whilst I find what posters are saying uncomfortable
it’s only because I think they have a point

and I have friends that like anal and good for them