Do you think that having the sex topic in ‘active’ has changed the tone of the responses here?

[ForestLilac]

Why does it come up in active anyway?

Or is it just a glitch for me?

Mumsnet forgot their USP a long time ago.

These days, we posters are all mere products, not "mums". I also believe MN is being prepped for sale; this current sex toy adverts are timed suspiciously well with the Sex board being viewable in Active, and I imagine a report is being drawn up with site traffic data, advert revenue, and sales metrics off the back of it.

Women might be porn to the male users in the sex topic, but we are products of the site in general.

I'm surprised MNHQ hasn't made more of a response tbh. Not they they really owe us anything but you'd think by now they'd have addressed the change of tone here.

If the site was being prepared for sale I can't see how pissing off a lot of your users (ie: revenue stream) would be of benefit.

My guess - and it's as wild as anyone's - is that they've committed to a sponsorship deal and are legally bound to see it through.

The pissed off-users will be outnumbered by the new creepy users I expect. And there will be a lag in any case - the pissed off users will continue to read/post for a while before they give up altogether. This is probably the sweet spot - lots of internalised misogyny posts + lots of angry posts + lots of mansplaining posts + lots of pervy posts = great stats

My guess - and it's as wild as anyone's - is that they've committed to a sponsorship deal and are legally bound to see it through. @wombyvolvo

I'm sure that's the case - the point is that a few years ago they wouldn't have committed to the deal in the first place, even though they'd have wanted to, because they knew what the response would be. Now things have changed and they've decided to brave out the shouty responses in pursuit of a longer term benefit.

I guess the use-cases better be written up quickly!

Certainly made me think twice about commenting and now upon reading some of the mens posts makes me wince a bit. Some posts now do come across as a bit pervy from blokes

I have instant Ick at the mere thought of a bloke who gets his jollies posting about masturbation toys on a site primarily aimed at mothers.

It’s grim.

It has altered the tone and not for the better in my opinion. I have never started a thread and have no intention of ever doing so but I have posted on various threads, mostly replying to questions directed at men. I've always tried to be objective and not crude. Given the change in general tone recently I would be very much more reluctant to post anything as post from men do seem to attract negativity which is a shame as most.of us long time members are not creepy pervs but regular men who can sometimes offer a useful perspective from the male point of view...hey ho...

I'm not sure if it's changed.
I've always found men on the sex board swap any question around to themselves, what they personally do, how satisfied their DP always seems to be, or in one case, their swinging couple fwb. Every question.

Definitely changed the tone and so it should. The hook up thread needs to go - always the same blokes looking for a wank.

Yes, it is getting very boring being told you’re a pervy man because you like sex. It is also very boring being accused of being a troll for being interested in sex. A lot of the posts since the sex topic joined active have been offensive, stereotyping and borderline bullying with woman like me who valued the sex forum being tarred as being disgusting, cheating, immoral…

Take it off active. Let it go back to the sleepy backwater it was. There were generally only a couple of new threads a week. Now there are loads, each one more judgemental and insulting than the last.

Ah @OctaviaOwl...another constructive comment tarring all men with the same brush...if you have nothing positive to say maybe say nothing...

Ah @Sparkybloke don't let me stop you posting your regular beg for any woman to contact you for online wanking

Did you just suggest a woman shut up if she has nothing complimentary to say ?

@ShowOfHands yes of course he did. He's got a lot of form for it.

But women aren't allowed to be critical of the male posters requesting sex hook ups because the men then 'feel unsafe' direct quote from one of them)

I shall no longer post...time to leave..

Tragedy.

Plenty of safe internet spaces for chaps wanting to talk about sex.

No need to colonise Mumsnet.

Not to worry. Not chance in hell that blokes used to posting here will just leave, they just want a cheerleader to beg them to stay.

A cheerleader will be along soon, don't worry

It's just not a safe space for men wanting to get their rocks off right now 😞

Bleurgh.

Unsafe? Unsafe?

A man who has only ever posted in the sex chat thread (over a dozen times afaics) looking for somebody to talk dirty at/with, might feel unsafe when women object to the unmoderated inclusion of a hook-up site on a parenting site?

The mind fucking boggles. Or weeps. I don't know.

@ShowOfHands no word of a lie. A man posted to say the hook up thread no longer felt like a safe space for him any more.

I mean, you couldn't make this stuff up