Do you think that having the sex topic in ‘active’ has changed the tone of the responses here?

[ForestLilac]

Why does it come up in active anyway?

Or is it just a glitch for me?

It is grim and a bit unsavoury, there was one the other day that was particularly off

We could have some fun with it, yes. Like in the olden days when pervy men posts were quickly spotted and the piss taken out of them.

The fact sex is being discussed doesn't make it grim. Not for me anyway. I don't have to avert my eyes at the sight of the words 'anal rimming'

My issue is that this attracts men. Lots of them. All here to get their rocks off with as many women who'll accommodate them. All here to discuss the intricacies of tit wanks and blow jobs. And again, that's understandable. They're being welcomed with open arms.

But this is a parenting site and it's predominantly for women. So when I see sex chat threads, lots of talk of men 'ghosting' the women they've not managed to get much out of, or men bleating about how 'unsafe' they now feel. It's jarring.

There's a place for all this and I'm not sure Mumsnet is it

Now I don't own Mumsnet so I don't make the rules. And they can do as they wish

But that's my opinion and it ultimately boils down to men crawling all over a mainly women's space and that doesn't sit well with me, not to mention the obvious safety implications

So lots of you may like to think these lovely men are just here to be all nice and dole out advice on your orgasms but the truth is they're here for the porn chat and YOU ARE THE PORN.

How safe do you think the woman feels having her question about a flashlight bring commented on with prejudice by women on other parts of the forum?

All of this with bells on.

So lots of you may like to think these lovely men are just here to be all nice and dole out advice on your orgasms but the truth is they're here for the porn chat and YOU ARE THE PORN.

Yup. Maybe some of the 'women' on mumsnet are happy to be used as want fodder, some of them seem to get off on it themselves but is that really in the 'spirit' of mumsnet as mumsnet likes to say? Threads full of people virtually wanking each other in active topics?

What is wrong with dedicated sex forums like literotica? Why the need to have a corner of mumsnet for sex chat?

@Surplus2requirements I asked you yesterday not to talk to me again on here. And yet here you are. I don't want to engage with you.

MN needs to decide what it is now. It was never a hook up site. The sex chat thread would never have been allowed a couple of years ago. Men crawling all over a topic for wank fodder would never have been allowed either.

What's changed?

@leithreas they don't want to go to a dedicated site. Where better than here to (virtually or otherwise) pick up a woman who's probably feeling a bit down on herself and wanting someone to pick her up a bit or a woman who's totally sex crazed and wants to discuss their kink in detail with any male? (Spoiler alert - it's probs another man)

Maybe don't post in a thread I've posted in on a board you apparently want nothing to do with then.

I don’t really see the issue tbh it’s just sex.

@LucyLeave who knows? One bloke in here called those who opposed it 'WI members' 'Pearl clutchers' and 'snowflakes'

And it's the men on here with deliberately miss my point. I don't care about outrageous sex being discussed. Hook ups. Casual encounters.

I care about a mainly female space being swarmed over by men keen to chat about their cocks.

There's a difference

I remember the topic being introduced, members had to have been here for three months before they could access it.

I seem to remember it took away a lot of MRA pervs from the FWR boards.

I hate it being in active. I admit I’m not a fan of men, and the way they flock to the sex section just reinforces my views. If it was up to me I’d get rid of the whole thing and go back to genuine questions in relationships and report the creepy men looking for hookups and wank fodder.

Also struggling to hide it.

@SauteedOwl is right. Our posts are what they get off on.

@Surplus2requirements you have been asked politely to leave a member alone. Do so.

Surely MNHQ can see all the men who flock to perv corner? I wonder if clicks are down and they are desperate for the clicks.

In his/her defence the chance of me recognising someone’s username and not responding to them again is quite slim to be honest.

To be honest I hadn't clocked her name but still she is posting on a board she doesn't want to be on, agitating, commenting with prejudice on women's threads and shaming them other parts of the forum.

I am not a woman but as a human its outragious

I have been on MN for 20yrs and campaigned vociferously for a sex topic, mostly because the relationships topic was full of people going through difficult times and it was awful for them to have to rub up against Brian from Hull and Pervy McTitwank. It kept it contained. It's a site full of women, particularly mothers, and the most disgusting trolls seemed to feel the moth-like pull of its existence. At least the topic was like fly paper for a while.

Get it out of active. Please HQ. Sex is fine. Malcolm getting his rocks off in lurid fashion while his 20 best mates fap along in harmony, is not.

I a man and read and post in various areas of MN. I'm quite happy that it's female led.

But using women as collateral damage to attack men is not OK on any level.

Yep.

@AlwaysGinPlease I know right? Women need to be comfortable with the knowledge that they are the porn. I don't speak for all women though - some clearly like it. I just don't know why Mumsnet has to host it?

Oh goody. A moth telling us we’re doing womaning wrong.

'But using women as collateral damage to attack men is not OK on any level'

I don't even know what that means? But I'm sure in your head it sounded good.

I'm pro women's safety and well being. I'm not pro you keep trying to engage me. You're just proving my point.

I've asked you to stop. You haven't.

@ForestLilac oh come off it. He literally responded to her post telling him she's already told him not to engage with her. Then he dares to tell her not to post at all. Ffs! 🤦🏻‍♀️

^ this
Get rid, especially from Active (ironic as it's a passive option for pervs)