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Dp flipped because i said no to sex

126 replies

Nat890 · 16/02/2023 22:59

Dp has been drinking all evening with friends and is a little bit worse for wear. I was in bed sleeping after a long day and also not feeling the best with tonsillitis, and my dc like to get up super early so im an early nighter anyway. Dp comes in bed and starts cuddling me, i know where it's leading so say not tonight im on my period. He kicked off big time. And starts saying 'I can het sex with anyone, i can just go out and have sex' i said look, you've had a bit to drink, come back to bed and when you get up you'll realise how silly your being. But no, continues to say it, slamming doors/drawers saying im full of shit. Ive stayed calm but im actually really annoyed how he has acted. How can he be mad at me for saying no! Never seen this side to him before. But it has really bothered and upset me.

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NoDairyNoProblem · 16/02/2023 23:04

He’s not being silly, don’t tell yourself this is even remotely ok.

Aquamarine1029 · 16/02/2023 23:05

It would be over for me. What an absolute fucking prick, and being under the influence is no excuse. Fuck him.

whirlyswirly · 16/02/2023 23:07

Not on - but you know that.

Make sure you and the dcs are safe for tonight and deal with this tomorrow. If he isn't utterly mortified and begging forgiveness he needs the absolute riot act.

Have you got someone you can call if needed?

HoppingPavlova · 16/02/2023 23:08

Ive stayed calm but im actually really annoyed how he has acted

I can’t believe this falls in the ‘really annoyed’ basket tbh. I’d be absolutely stunned and fucking livid if this was my DH. Drunk or not, that has crossed an enormous line. I couldn’t come back from this personally.

Gonnagetacatwhenimovein · 16/02/2023 23:15

Why didn’t you kick him out? What would you advise your daughter / friend to do if their partner spoke to them like that?

judesxmumx · 16/02/2023 23:15

I wouldn't feel comfortable around this man again if he was under the influence. His behaviour is really out of order, hope your ok op Flowers

SheilaFentiman · 16/02/2023 23:20

Gonnagetacatwhenimovein · 16/02/2023 23:15

Why didn’t you kick him out? What would you advise your daughter / friend to do if their partner spoke to them like that?

She’s ill and in bed, he’s drunk, aggressive and stronger than she is. How could she kick him out?

OP, this is not ok. Is this the first time it has happened?

Carryonroundthecorner · 16/02/2023 23:20

Absolutely not on.
What an utter tosser he is.
My first LTB.

CockSpadget · 16/02/2023 23:22

I’d be throwing his clothes through the window and telling him to go and get his sex anywhere. Horrible bastard.

Galadriel90 · 16/02/2023 23:23

I'd tell him to get out and not come back.

Mojoyoyo · 16/02/2023 23:25

When he’s sober you need to reassert your boundary on this so that he knows if he ever does this again you’re going to dump him like a tonne of shit.
Being drunk is no excuse.
If he knows this is how alcohol affects him he should go t total.
He needs to take responsibility for his actions

AlmostSummer21 · 16/02/2023 23:28

'Off you go then' & hope he goes out & you can lock & bolt the door behind him.

jerk

he wouldn't be coming back in again either, he sounds like he could get physical in the future. Don't accept his behaviour.

it's not 'silly', it's abusive

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MidnightMeltdown · 16/02/2023 23:45

This would be the end of the relationship for me. No way would I be willing to put up with that.

JimnJoyce · 16/02/2023 23:49

what an unattractive twat

Surplus2requirements · 17/02/2023 00:05

Totally out of order and I don't think I could trust a partner who reacted like that ever again. I'm sorry @Nat890 that you have suffered such abuse

Codlingmoths · 17/02/2023 00:29

This is well beyond ‘annoyed’. Especially while you’re unwell. Suggest you tell him to pack a bag and go find all those women he can have sex with anytime.

Mumof3teenagers · 17/02/2023 00:34

He’s not acting silly, he’s being abusive.
Alcohol does not excuse this behaviour.
How long are ye together?
He will do this again.
Put yourself and your dc first.

ChatInMyFlat · 17/02/2023 00:37

What a twat. Are you safe OP?

Lavender14 · 17/02/2023 00:40

He'd be sleeping elsewhere if it were my dh. That's so far out of line and I'm sure it felt intimidating as well. Definitely make sure you are safe op. You owe him nothing and how dare he suggest otherwise.

Btjdkfnn · 17/02/2023 00:44

Is he your kids’ dad?

Deathbyfluffy · 17/02/2023 00:45

Time to bin him!
An ex of mine was like this after a few drinks, she got the boot too.

Man or woman, it’s completely wrong

NotAnotherTaco · 17/02/2023 00:50

@Nat890 how were things today? Has he acknowledged what a twat he was, and apologised?

NoDairyNoProblem · 17/02/2023 00:58

NotAnotherTaco · 17/02/2023 00:50

@Nat890 how were things today? Has he acknowledged what a twat he was, and apologised?

@NotAnotherTaco the initial post was only 2 hours ago.

NotAnotherTaco · 17/02/2023 01:18

@NoDairyNoProblem
FFS yes it was - insomnia is making me lose my mind, thank you!

Apologies @Nat890 hope you are safe x

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