Going to my first swingers party in 3 weeks

[areyouhavingagiraffe]

Hi all, Yup, so as the subject line ways, heading to my first "party" in a few weeks. As a single woman. Think there will be about 50 people there, couples, and some singles. Have wanted to try this for a while, but am very nervous. Have paid for my hotel accommodation already (it is in another City) so that way I don't chicken out.
Have any of you been to anything like this? It is through the FAB site, which I have seen posts of on MN

I occasionally see a couple that have "vertical friends" & "horizontal friends" I'll let you guess which one I am...

@areyouhavingagiraffe - you have naughty friends here!

@AverageGuy, so much to talk about! There were some things which I found weird. I enjoyed some one on one time with someone in a big playroom. Anyway 45 mins later there were so many people around us, and the moaning and groaning was putting me off. I just kept thinking "do I sound like that". I had sex with this guy, and his wife walked in, ha ha. It was just comical. Lots of other guys asked me to play, but I haven't had sex in so long so I was a little sore (tmi). Had some kisses, and some very welcome touching in the bar.

@areyouhavingagiraffe - wow! you really have jumped in with both feet! Go you!

As a single guy, it's much more difficult to find someone to play with in a club / party. It's all about the approach, and matching their needs / wants. Being, er, a more mature guy also makes it more tricky.

@AverageGuy, I honestly can't stop thinking about it. Was just a bunch of naughty deviants. All sorts of people there, but all really nice. I cannot wait to go again

@areyouhavingagiraffe I m
considering one near to me glad to hear you enjoyed it I like you am a bit nervous who brings up the safe sex bit ? Will you get tested regularly? I m interested in men and women so might try it at some point it’s getting the courage to go without knowing anyone and being confident etc

Hey @Explorer233, do it! I have been procrastinating for so long. I didn't know anyone. Safe sex, well in my limited experience, we both brought it up. He wore a condom.

You are in charge. If you want safe sex simply say.

Surely people who have casual sex know they should always use condoms anyway. So there would be no need for a discussion, it should be an expectation.

The majority do, but it does happen. .

yey OP!!!! I too couldn't stop thinking about it afterwards - honestly its the best experience ever.

@GentlemanJayFab

The majority do, but it does happen. .

Those are probably best avoided 🤦🏻‍♀️

@areyouhavingagiraffe tell me what you took with you in terms of bag etc... I am going to one very soon and as it is first no idea how to plan handbag etc etc!!

@areyouhavingagiraffe thanks I m thinking about it and trying to plan when to go I think the one near me has pre drinks meet up s so I ll look out for that . On Fabswingers and the forum is good for events

@anewlife22, well mine was at a hotel so I was staying overnight. Not all guests were staying, so there was a cloakroom. Most women had a change of clothes, so bought bags and left in cloakroom (they must have changed in the toilets, not sure). I would say bring a card (for drinks), some underwear/ lingerie to change into. That's all really!

And Condoms.. Don't assume your partner has some...

@AverageGuy

And Condoms.. Don't assume your partner has some...

I was going to mention the same, you’re both responsible for your sexual health.

I'm very intrigued by how it actually starts! Do you all walk in in your underwear and chat, or get straight to it?! I can totally imagine that once everyone is into it it would all go with a swing (so to speak) but I can't picture how you'd warm up...

@Clementine183

I'm very intrigued by how it actually starts! Do you all walk in in your underwear and chat, or get straight to it?! I can totally imagine that once everyone is into it it would all go with a swing (so to speak) but I can't picture how you'd warm up...

At KK parties masks come off and play starts at about 11pm, although it's pretty fluid. I usually wait until I see a number of women in their lingerie and then I go to the cloakroom to change.

At Kabaret I went to the bar leaving DP sat chatting with friends. When I returned with drinks, everyone was fucking and he was sat there waiting with a big grin. I was like.. "How long was I gone?!" 😂

I seeee, so it would start out kind of like a normal night out in a pub or bar, and everyone would be chatting and having a few drinks etc., and then it would just evolve as the night went on? That makes more sense to me, I was struggling to imagine going in "cold"

A LOT of folk dont bother with condoms and I would say as a single woman be very wary of men "stealthing" ie taking condom off. Especially in a group situation. It nearly happened to me once when I was giving oral to a guy in the cinema room at a club. We made it clear it was watching only but some of the guys were touching and one tried to manavoeur himself behind me.
As another person said downstairs is usually just social only so drinks/dance and upstairs are the shagging areas. Its not glamourous.

I need some naughtiness in my life. Can someone help me please 🙏

To be fair I've only ever seen condom use unless it's between own partners.

@millytint44 - what sort of help do you need? I'm sure someone here can give you advice.

But even if you’re partners and not using condoms, how do you deal with the aftermath, waddle to the toilet

@AverageGuy thanks for asking - I'd appreciate some sort of steer towards the right sort of place. I'm north west based and would prefer parties where single ladies are welcome rather than very 'coupley' ones. I don't mind travelling for a weekend away but would rather not go further than London. I'm late 40's and size 16 and low maintenance attractive rather than glam so a KK party is probably not for me, given what I've read. Thanks!