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Going to my first swingers party in 3 weeks

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areyouhavingagiraffe · 03/02/2022 15:03

Hi all, Yup, so as the subject line ways, heading to my first "party" in a few weeks. As a single woman. Think there will be about 50 people there, couples, and some singles. Have wanted to try this for a while, but am very nervous. Have paid for my hotel accommodation already (it is in another City) so that way I don't chicken out.
Have any of you been to anything like this? It is through the FAB site, which I have seen posts of on MN

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Otterhound · 06/02/2022 13:03

Lightning

I think you’ll find 8 out of 10 50 something humans dont wear well

For every pot bellied bald man with bad teeth is there is an over weight woman with bingo wings, cankles stretch marks and cellulite.

I hope you enjoy it OP and if not dont forget you can still be sexually adventurous and liberated and not enjoy clubs. I never found them sexy but along with an fwb have had some great times meeting singles and couples and the odd private party from Swinging Heaven

Lightning020 · 06/02/2022 15:29

Otterhound I have to disagree. Women look after themselves a lot more than men. In general far more.

Having said that got nothing against casual sex. Hope you get some fun op.

Pky45 · 06/02/2022 16:33

@Lightning020
Seriously? Walk up and down any high street and repeat that ?

Otterhound · 06/02/2022 16:52

Lightning- Have to disagree
Where I live and work I see equal numbers of fabulous looking 50/60/70 year old men and women

And equal numbers of men and women of all ages who look frankly awful!

Maybe it’s different where you live

Lightning020 · 06/02/2022 17:00

Yes it may be regional. I live in an area I did not grow up in. The men here are the ugliest I have seen .... I have lived in London and the south east where people are generally more worked up about their health diet and weight.

Pky45 · 06/02/2022 17:19

@Lightning020
Yep, there are well documented links between health and wealth and diet, the area l live is full of fat and ugly people of both genders

Spasiba · 22/02/2022 23:13

We were planning to go to a party in a city about 90 minutes drive away, figuring we wouldn't run into anyone were knew. I found out, purely by coincidence, that a grossly obese and very misogynistic man from our company was a regular. I would still like to go to an event, but I'm terrified i would bump into him, especially as I know he would broadcast it around the company.

AverageGuy · 23/02/2022 09:26

I've been to a number of swingers clubs and you get the complete spectrum of humanity in them.

A couple of clubs are a bit seedy / run down, but most aim for a more "professional" image.

Sure, you do get the middle aged pit-bellied guys, but in my experience, they tend to be in a couple, not usually single. You also get larger women, again usually in a couple.

KK may be seen as "elitist", but so what? In my personal experience, being a (trim, fit and not completely ugly - just so you know) guy nearly 60, I found I was ignored, but that's ok - each to their own - I didn't take it personally - and I think that's key for anyone considering a journey into "the dark side".

As for older "ugly" fatter men looking for younger, slimmer, more attractive women - you don't think that older, fatter, unattractive women are looking for taller, slimmer, younger, more attractive men? Grow up. We all fantasise about the unobtainable. I guarantee you have a celeb you crush on.

IMHO, there is definitely a difference between casual sex & swinging. Casual sex can be a temporary thing. Swinging is a lifestyle choice (not just for Christmas! Grin).

Of course there will be 99 people out of 100 that you aren't interested in playing with, and no-one will condemn you for having standards, but you generally meet lots of interesting and really nice people, who all have an open and honest approach to sex, and can end up being very close friends. When the starts do align, you can end up having something very special.

PinotPony · 23/02/2022 12:35

@Spasiba

We were planning to go to a party in a city about 90 minutes drive away, figuring we wouldn't run into anyone were knew. I found out, purely by coincidence, that a grossly obese and very misogynistic man from our company was a regular. I would still like to go to an event, but I'm terrified i would bump into him, especially as I know he would broadcast it around the company.
It's really tricky if you bump into someone you know.

I realised that I knew a guy who was attending a swinging weekend away I'd planned to attend. I work with him in a professional setting although he's not a direct colleague.

My immediate reaction was OMG! I can't attend any events! Then I considered going anyway and hoping he didn't recognise me. In the end I contacted him and explained who I was. After he'd fallen about laughing, he assured me that he would be discrete. There's an element of "mutual destruction". He doesn't want it broadcast to his colleagues anymore than I do.

We've since met each other at several events and there is no problem. We joke about how shocked our colleagues would be if they knew. I don't think I'd ever play with him but I did have a good chat with him about a work matter whilst both stark naked! 😂

Your connection sounds like he might be a dick about it though...

Bajezzeuz · 23/02/2022 14:34

I went to a swingers/events club last week

I can't speak for all, but the events and things I've been to like this, the women 100% call the shots.

Men know not to approach a single woman and start veing pervy, they'll get kicked out. But to be fair it isn't like everyone just shags, people chat, walk around, watch others,

I went with a group of friends, was having sex with a beautiful beautiful friend, I looked up and we had an audience 🤣 its outputting hearing others have sex though

I hope you enjoy it OP, it's definetly nerve wracking the first few times but you soon find your way

SxWmn · 23/02/2022 17:35

Do the guys that attend generally have big cocks….Or is there a range of sizes?

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areyouhavingagiraffe · 23/02/2022 20:31

So....event is on Friday. Am nervous, but also excited! Will report back for sure. I have seen the guest list and no pot bellied 100 year old men on there, ha ha. @Bajezzeuz, yes I have been told the same thing about this, that women call the shots. I like it when men call the shots though, so I am gonna need some serious hints from them as to whether they are interested in some sexy time with me!

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HippyDippyDooDaa · 23/02/2022 20:50

I can't wait to hear your experiences, my partner and I are just taking the first steps in to swingingGrin

Bajezzeuz · 23/02/2022 23:04

areyouhavingagiraffe

The event I'm going to is on Friday too Grin mine has the initials TH. Does yours?

Bajezzeuz · 23/02/2022 23:09

Posted too soon. Honestly you'll be fine. I've only been to 3 events like this. Everyone is really nice and friendly ( in my experience anyway )

As the men don't want to told off though it is definetly on you to make the suggestion. But you'll be able to tell if their into you. Are you going with anyone or on your own? I've literally just booked my hotel for the night! Ooh and the initials are actually RD / TH 😂 I'm so excited to go, not even to shag about, just to have a nice night where no one's judging me and I can just be me for a while Smile

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areyouhavingagiraffe · 24/02/2022 07:28

@Bajezzeuz, I am intrigued about TH. No, my event has a different initial. I also have a hotel booked for the night. It is in a different City, so I am staying an extra night (no swinging involved), just to take some time out for myself

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LovePoppy · 27/02/2022 19:18

I hope you had fun OP

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areyouhavingagiraffe · 28/02/2022 08:39

OMG!!!!!!!!!! What a night!!!!!!!!!!!! I haven't laughed so much in ages. Was amazing. I thought I would be sat in the corner just trying not to look at people. And I had sex! Woo hoo! I honestly cannot stop smiling :-)

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AverageGuy · 28/02/2022 12:41

Excellent news! You'll be going again then... Grin

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areyouhavingagiraffe · 28/02/2022 13:38

@AverageGuy, yes yes yes. I haven't laughed so much in ages. Such a great crowd.

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areyouhavingagiraffe · 28/02/2022 13:39

I really want to tell people my naughty secret and the hilarious stuff going on, but I have no one to tell, ha ha

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GentlemanJayFab · 28/02/2022 19:04

@areyouhavingagiraffe

I really want to tell people my naughty secret and the hilarious stuff going on, but I have no one to tell, ha ha
I've got naughty friends to tell and vanilla friends I'd never tell. Lol.
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areyouhavingagiraffe · 28/02/2022 19:19

@GentlemanJayFab, I don't have any naughty friends! I need to get me some. I also have a feeling I am going to be spending a lot of money on lingerie on outfits. That's fine with me as I love dressing up but have no one to dress up for....now I get to dress up for the sex parties :-)

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GentlemanJayFab · 28/02/2022 19:48

Enjoy it. I have to say. I need my naughty friends to share my naughty stories with. A story shared is much better.

SexTalk · 28/02/2022 19:56

I had one naughty friend, many years ago
I should add, we told each other everything, we took guys home together, sometimes even shagged them in the same room.

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