I think he’s sex people. Should I say something?

[HereWeGoAgainPart2]

Apologies in advance for possible tmi.

I’ve been seeing a very lovely man for nearly a year now after separating from my dh. I’m pretty inexperienced sexually and now finally in my late 30’s I’m realising what all the fuss is about sex. New partner and I have an amazing connection, I’ve never had sex like this before at all and it’s all been an absolute revelation to me.

Partner has been very patient with me as I have a few hang ups, have never had sex with the light on before I met him, have never had anyone even go down on me before. As I said, sex is incredible (for me, at least), it’s all very vanilla but he’s never pushed me in anyway to do anything that I don’t want to and never even suggested or tried to do anything I’m uncomfortable with.

But when I was with him at the weekend I was lying in bed while he was getting some bits out of his wardrobe. In the wardrobe were two large boxes - one was a stripper pole and the other was a sex swing. I have no idea if that’s what was actually in there, they could have just been boxed for storage (possibly? maybe?).

I’m not sex people so I don’t know if that’s the kind of thing that you keep between relationships? I guess they’re wipe clean? I half want to ask him but half don’t in case he starts doing a pole dance for me. Could it maybe just be something he keeps for a fancy wank or similar?

If someone likes stuff like that does it ever go away? He says he’s very happy with our sex life and has never done anything to suggest he isn’t.

But now I’m concerned that I’m going to end up in a sex swing or maybe he’ll be in the swing and I don’t know what to do with a naked man in a swing and it’s all a big mess.

V sorry @HereWeGoAgainPart2 - I had missed the bit about your accident 😔

In which case I think it's v certain he wouldn't ever push these things on you, and you don't know how he's got them. V most likely a previous consensual relationship. Loads of people are into pole dancing I think. I understand why it's unsettling to find this and know about it but feel uncomfortable about raising it.

I think at some point you're going to have to open the wardrobe when he's there and 'accidentally' stumble across the boxes and talk to him about it straight away. As you have here. That you couldn't do that stuff and how does it figure in his sexual landscape.

I feel he'll make you feel better and the items will go on eBay. I think you should talk to him.

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Oh I enjoyed that😁

I think sex people, are those that you knowingly,and frequently talk about sex in all it's many guises,and are likely to let it be known that they are open to all things as such. A bit like the man in 50 shades of grey, he was a sex person.

I hope this thread ends up in Classics 🤣

@HereWeGoAgainPart2 How's it going?